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I just found out about a subreddit called r/actualasexuals where the whole thing is being a dick to people who don't fit their narrow definition of asexuality. I just wanted to let people know so they can stay away. Of course, don't harass anyone in that sub, because it doesn't help and it's just plain wrong. Just do everything in your power to stay the hell away!

Holy fuck. I’m aroace and haven’t had this experience (thank god I wasn’t online much as a teen), but that might have been because as part of a non-disordered System* most people who knew about my sexuality (or lack thereof), knew about me as distinct from my Headmate, and thus already had a socially acceptable reason to hate me.

My sister is bi and identified as lesbian for a long time, but our family and friends have been accepting, so she didn’t face much homophobia. A few years ago she said that maybe she shouldn’t be allowed at pride events, because “it’s not like she suffered for it.” Like, no???? No! I’m not accepting the idea that you have to meet a certain level of trauma to be queer. Most LGBT+ people not having queerness-related problems is kinda the goal here? And when people talk about their issues, you don’t say “your issues aren’t big enough.” Telling people they’re not hurt enough to join doesn’t keep your community safe, it just fucks people up.

*If you’re curious: we don’t know for sure why we’re Plural and if it was caused by trauma or not, and our experience doesn’t seem to fit with DID or any diagnosis we’ve heard of, but it’s pretty goddamn clear to us and almost everyone we’re close with that we’re distinct selves and Not Singlet. We have a few mental health issues, but we don’t think being a “we” is one of them.

idk can we stop…treating a.ce disc.ourse like it’s some haha funney cringe compilation or whatever the fuck because it fucking destroyed the entire ace and aro communities. there is no solid aspec community on tumblr anymore (which was by far the biggest number of aspec ppl). exclusionists took our community and fucking smashed it to pieces and y'all treat it as this fucking stupid joke when they traumatized, gaslit, and abused an entire group of queer people back into the closet. fuck every single person who doesn’t take that seriously.

I think the mold is speaking to her guys .

Hey y'all.

And have a very pleasant evening.

Sincerely, your allo ally. 💜

Jegus, I'm afraid to hear what this guy has to say about demisexuality, in which you do not find people sexually attractive unless you have a deep bond with them

Took me a long time for me to conclude I'm panromantic and demisexual

Honestly, I have never been on this platform to spread hate or get into petty quarrels but I have been formally invited into one by a certain individual and it is time to get out receipts. I am not going to @ them but what I am going to do is tell you to avoid they're page and inform you of some of the things they are wrong about or are ignorant of. Let's begins with acephobia

Asexuality has actually had a long history and has existed for thousands of years. In ancient greek they had several virgin goddesses that could all be considered asexaul, more specifically Hestia and her roman counter part Vesta who both never fell in love and blatantly refused to have sex and had worshippers who joined in order to avoid sex and love. While the Vestal Virgins are a bad example since they were forced to join, that doesn't mean that asexuality doesn't exist.

Next up the general ignorance of things outside your personal bubble.

I honestly can't comprehend how you don't know about the hundreds of people who get murdered every year due to them being queer but congratulations(?). People die because it is illegal to be queer and that has nothing to do with the bible, religion doesn't start public executions, people do.

Now lastly the blatant panphobia and enbyphobia

Pansexuals have been here for a long time and while the label isn't as well known as bisexual they are very different. Also as long as the sexuality isn't being used to harm anyone in the community, or make fun of the community, why should it matter? Also nonbinary has also had a long history and even has it's own mythological background with the goddess Ishtar and biologically there has never been only on gender with the existance of intersex people which you promptly ignore. Now I could go on to tell you more about gender but I belive Hank Green does it best.

Now I hope everyone has a wonderful evening and that you stop your ignorance. You are valid.