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Tip/reminder:

What I’ve learned in the past month is to cut toxic people out of your life and do what makes you happy!! If your friends want to do one thing but you know that its not going to benefit you but actually make your life more stressful and worrisome, then don’t do it!! Do what’s best for you! Deep down, you know what’s best for you. And yes it’s hard to do but I know you can do it. And once you do, you’ll realize how much of a positive impact it makes. Same goes for with “friends”. If you have one or a few that or toxic, deep down you’ll know it and let them go. It’s for the best. Self worth is always a #1 priority!! And once you understand that, you can start helping and inspiring others.

I havent seen anyone talk about this yet so im making a post. 

So lets say you’re researching something for a paper (or just for fun) and the research paper you want to read is behind a paywall, or the site makes you create a account first, or makes you pay to download, or limits you to only 5 free articles, or otherwise makes it difficult for you to read what you want.

do not fear! copy the link to the article

go to sci-hub.se         (the url is always changing so its best to check out whereisscihub.now.sh to find what the current url is)

slap the article link in there

bam! free access! 

🍭✨ Agere Date Ideas ✨🍭

Petting zoo trip

Visiting a cat cafe

Going to an amusement park

Going to Build-A-Bear

Building a blanket/pillow fort

Going for ice cream

Shopping

Doing each other’s nails/makeup

Aquarium trip

Going to an arcade

Rollerskating

Having a picnic

Art classes, like painting or ceramics

Baking or cake decorating class

Sandcastle building

Snowman building

Making friendship bracelets

Baking

Playing board games or card games

Playing video games

Nerf gun war

Eating at a kid-friendly restaurant

Watching a kids movie at the cinema

Playing in a ball pit

Slime making

Playing dress-up

How to: heal your inner child

While it can be really comforting and healing to have a caregiver or someone to help look after you while you’re feeling regressed, here is some ways to love and comfort your inner child on your own. (Disclaimer: these are things I have done that have helped me but may not work for everyone. If you have any suggestions, please add to this! <3) Have a chore chart/task list & give yourself rewards: Make sure you take into account what your daily lifestyle is and give yourself tasks that are attainable. These tasks do not have to be super “big” to be celebrated as overall you want these tasks to be beneficial to you mentally & physically. For example, some tasks that are included on my list are working out, feeding myself, having water, reading, etc. Learn to be proud of your accomplishments both large and small. Talk to/comfort small you: Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed/sad or having the best day ever, talk with yourself & praise yourself for the positive things you’re doing. Some examples of this include: “I know we’re feeling overwhelmed right now but we are doing great and I’m super proud!” “You’re doing your very best and that is what is most important.” “I know we feel scared but we’re okay, we’re safe, and we are going to get through this”

Find ways to include small you during the day: I’ve found that going about my day to day adult life can make small me feel neglected and it can make me sad. To avoid this, I try and find some ways to include that childlike part of myself into the day. Some ways I do this is bringing kiddo things with me to work (Disney princess cup, stimming toys for break time, etc), looking at the toy section when I go grocery shopping, picking a new stuffie to sleep with each night, coloring pictures/doodling in the evening, eating snacks little me likes, etc. Treat yourself as you would a kid/friend: This may seem a bit odd or confusing at first but in time it will feel like second nature. Overall, what I really mean by this is imagine you are caring for your younger self or a friend and act accordingly. Make sure you are feeding yourself, bathing yourself, allowing yourself proper rest, validating your own feelings, etc. We are often times are worst critic and for a lot of us who suffer with mental health issues (or even physical ones), we can be really harsh with ourselves when we are simply just doing our best and deserve to be cared for.

I hope this makes sense and can help someone out tthere <3

🎒 Little Bag Checklist 🎒

✨ When traveling throughout little space, it can be very useful to have all your little gear altogether! That’s why many cadets have their very own little bag!✨

✨ A little bag, or age regression bag, is any bag used to store and carry your little stuff place to place. It doesn’t have to actually be little, it can be big or small, have a cute pattern or be a solid color, all that matters is that it can hold your stuff! It can be an old backpack, a mini backpack, a suitcase, a purse, or even a lunch box! ✨

✨ So now that you know what it is, what do you put in it? Well, anything you want! Every cadet has different needs, so every cadet has different gear! However, if you have absolutely no clue what to put, here are some ideas! You don’t have to have absolutely everything listed, and you can even mix and match to suit your needs! ✨

🎒 The Basics 🎒

✨ No matter if you’re traveling or staying at home, these items are great to have if you’re a little space cadet! ✨

🌠  Pacifier - In case you need a little soothing, having a paci on hand is great! It can help calm you down or even keep icky fingers out of your mouth!

🌠 Teether - Some littles find chewing more soothing than sucking, so in that case, a teether is more suitable!

🌠 Small Stuffie - Having a little friend nearby can help alot, especially if they’re soft or textured! You can even get a licensed character to show off a fandom you’re in!

🌠 Bottle/Sippy Cup - As long as it’s leakproof, it’s great to throw a bottle or sippy into your little bag in case you get a bit thirsty! Water is the best choice, but feel free to have some juice if you want!

🌠 Wipes - Whether they’re individually packaged or come in a travel pack, wipes are just a good thing to have in general! They can help clean up sticky fingers, a dropped paci, and many other messes, which makes this a must have!

🌠 Bandages - They can come in various colors, and may even have some familiar faces on them! So whether it’s for a papercut, scrape, or just to be used as “stickers”, they certainly will find a use!

🌠 Pull-Ups/Diapers - Just in case you’re feeling especially little, having some protection on hand can make you feel extra, well, protected!

🌠 Coloring/Activity Book and Crayons/Colored Pencils - Coloring books are great to help keep yourself occupied in case of little space! You can get a simple kid’s one or even a detailed adult one! 

🌠 A Kid’s Book - Whether it’s a small chapter book or a board book full of pretty pictures, having a nice book to read can be great! Sometimes slipping into a fictional world or getting enthralled by nice imagery first can making slipping into little space much more easier!

🌠 Snack/Treat - Sometimes having a yummy granola bar, some animal crackers, or even a lollipop, can help make a journey throughout little space go as smoothly as possible!

🌠 Portable Gaming Console and Games - Playing fun games rated E for everyone or EC for early childhood is a great way to entertain yourself! If you don’t have a gaming console, but have a phone or tablet, feel free to download fun apps!

🌠 Music Player - It can be a MP3 player, an Ipod, or even your phone, if you can create a playlist - or more - for little space, it can really help! Listening to kids’ music, or even just songs that help you feel little, can go a long way!

🎒 Undercover Little Space 🎒

✨ For when you aren’t exactly “out of the toy box” so to speak, but still want to have something nearby in case of unintended take-off into little space! ✨

🌠 Cute Water Bottle - Staying hydrated is very important! If you happen to have a cute, fun water bottle, which so happens to have a spout, you’re just taking care of your health!

🌠 Chewable Jewelry - Able to be disguised as a fashionable piece of jewelry, these are great for littles that enjoy teethers! Made out of food safe silicon, many are as, or even more, durable than a baby teether! If in a pinch, many pendants can even easily be sucked on as a replacement for pacifiers!

🌠 Multicolored Pen(s) and Notepad/Journal - While crayons may be questionable, having a multicolored pen (or several colorful pens) is just very responsible! After all, you may need to take some very important notes or draw some very important pictures!

🌠 Activity Book - Think word searches, crosswords, mazes, and hidden pictures! They’re really common activities to do, and they’re great for the mind!

🌠 Fidget Toys - Whether it’s a fidget cube, fidget spinner, tangle, or squishy, they’re all tools to help stimulate your brain for optimal levels of functioning! As a plus, they come in all sorts colors and designs, so they are sure to fit your aesthetic!

🌠 Toy/Collectable Keychain - They’re basically just mini toys or stuffies, which can make finding your keys much easier! However, if you just want to hang one on your bag, that’s fine too! They can make a great accessory to show off some interest of yours!

✨ So now that you have all your gear gathered together, feel free to have a wonderful time in little space! Have fun, cadets! ✨

🍄˚*•̩̩͙✩•̩̩͙*˚＊ Tips on getting into little space by yourself

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Get comfortable! If it’s too cold, turn on the heater and put on some comfy pajamas.

Look at kid friendly content! I recommend making a side blog (if you don’t already have one) for strictly sfw content! Before regressing I usually go through my tumblr dashboard :)

Think of something to do and get your stuff! Things like coloring pages, work sheets, plushies, toys.

Make a little space playlist with songs that make you feel little or listen to one made by someone else. There’s lots of playlists on Youtube or Spotify. When I made my playlist I added lots of songs that made me feel positively nostalgic :)

Make noises! This might seem weird but I like to go waaaaawawaawwoowow !! If you don’t want anyone to hear you, try typing it in your notes, on your blog or in your cgs chat, if you have one :) (My dms are also open for weird noises)

Get comfort food or drinks! Usually when I regress, I like to get some choccy milk beforehand.

Start baby talking in your head. You might be uncomfortable to talk to yourself when you’re alone. Baby talking in your head might help. Big thoughts turn into little thoughts :)

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how to make a fairy house

✨make a fairy house for fairies to rest in✨

step one: decide what to make your house out of, you can use sticks, leaves, rocks, plants, moss, twigs, pebbles, and whatever other things you’d like🌟☘️

step two: sketch out your idea of what you would like the fairy home to look like, you could design path ways with pebbles, a roof with leafs, furniture out of twigs, or whatever you dream up🖍🌈

step three: fill a flower pot or a bowl with dirt, start poking the twigs or leafs into the soil. you can use glue to make the sticks stay together and to place the leafs on the roof 🌷🧚🏻‍♀️

step four: decorate your fairy home with fairy furniture, or you could make a bed out of moss. to make a path way just line up pebbles leading to the  entrance⛺️⭐️

…and you’re done!

🌙Ways to help your little one with insomnia/troubles sleeping🌙

having insomnia/sleep problems can be exhausting! a lot of littles experience these! :( and here are some tips for cg’s, babysitters etc on how to help them!

🌌 put on some soothing music or relaxing sounds! e.g. lullabies, rain/nature sounds… whatever your little one might like!

🌌 turn on a nightlight! some littles need a tiny source of light to help them go to sleep!

🌌 make them something warm to eat/drink before bed! something nice to keep their tummy nice and warm all night! e.g. soup, warm milk (if making angel milk or any other little space milk recipe - you might not wanna add too much sugar ^^’ that might just prevent your little from going to sleep)

🌌 put on a little show! something not too loud, something soothing like Care Bears, bluey, my little pony etc!

🌌 bedtime stories!

🌌 cuddling them! just snuggling your little one can help them fall asleep since they feel safe and secure with you by their side

🌌 talking to them! some little ones might find it comforting, if you talk to them or send them voice messages before bed!

🌌 no light at all! remember how i said that it’s good for some littles if you turn their nightlight on? well for some (including me) it’s the complete opposite! some littles are having troubles falling asleep with any source of light… make sure to give them their stuffie though, so they’re not scared!

okie that’s all i can think of! ^^ … the fact that i’m making this at night, not being able to fall asleep-

make sure to get your rest! <3 bye bye

safe tags for cglre!

cglre - caregiver/little regression

cglire - caregiver/little regression

cgmire - caregiver/middle regression

babycore - baby aesthetic tag

kidcore - kiddie aesthetic tag

kidzspace - kidcore-like tag for cglre

babyzspace - babycore-like tag for cglre

toddlerzspace - toddler tag for cglre

bigzspace - caregiver tag for cglre

petzspace - pet regression tag for cglre

colorzcore - color/rainbow tag for cglre

nurserycore - baby nursery/room and general aesthetic tag

schoolcore - a primary school aesthetic tag

homeycore - a honey, country, foodie type aesthetic tag

agere - age regression general tag

age regression - self explanatory

babyre - baby regression

toyre - toy regression

dayxcare - a daycare tag for daycare aesthetics, daycare blogs in cglre, and daycare things

cgxl - caregiver/little

dxlg - daddy/little girl

mxlg - mommy/little girl

dxlb - daddy/little boy

mxlb - mommy/little boy

cgxlg - caregiver/little girl

cgxlb - caregiver/little boy

littlexspace - little tag for cglre

there are lots of safe tags to use for cglre. so don’t feel like you must use kink tags or other communities tags!!! we have lots of great ones open to us!!

if you know of any others we can add to this list, please let us know!

Agere Journal Ideas for Alt babies

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1. Draw your dream monster pet!

2. Doodle a spooky outfit!

3. Draw what you see in the dark

4. Make a list of spooky things that you love!

5. Draw your dream baby room!

6. Draw yourself! with all the tattoos and piercings you want!!

7. Design the spoookiest pacifier ever!

8. Draw mushroom. that’s all.

9. Draw your very own 60’s Halloween costume!

10. Color the whole page with mONSTERs

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how to get through impure regression without a caregiver ˎˊ˗

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• what is impure age regression?

impure regression is a form of age regression where due to the regressor having childhood trauma, it can to the regression to be dark and scary. it may also be caused by high levels of stress or an overwhelming time in someone’s life, it is a trauma response / something our mind may do to try and get us to escape a tuff situation in life.

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• 🧴 make a regression kit before hand! it can help so that incase you are anxious or having bad thoughts, etc. you won’t have to worry much about getting your regression stuff all together- it’ll already be in the kit! I have a post on how to make one but I’ll just give a few examples of what you could put in it:

- 🩹some of your favorite comfort snacks (food that doesn’t have to be refrigerated or heated up like goldfish crackers, animal crackers, cookies, anything in a package!)

- 🩹some bottled drinks like juices or water !

- 🩹some first aide, bandaides / neosporin / etc. and some napkins incase you spill something, etc.

- 🩹an emergency comfort blanket or stuffie! something that can calm you down if you are panicking, etc.

those are just a few suggestions! you can scroll down on my account to find my post on how to make a regression care box!

• 🧴 turn on a tv show / put something comforting on for you to watch! something like adventure time or any other comfort cartoon you have would be good, it could help you focus on something other than your thoughts. you could even try some bed time stories on YouTube or meditation videos! this might be a bit harder to focus on but they could help wonders.

• 🧴 sometimes letting yourself cry it out or letting yourself listen to your thoughts by writing them down can relieve some sort of tension! crying can be super good for your body and mind, not everyone cries and that’s okay- but if you do, let yourself cry, okay? it can help relieve some stress. and sometimes facing your emotions head on by writing them down in a notebook can help you get everything off your chest. it may be emotionally exhausting by the end of it but I promise, it might help your heart feel a bit lighter.

• 🧴 talk out your fears / discomforts / thoughts that you are having at the moment with a stuffie! it may sound silly but it’s like the writing one, just letting everything off your chest can help you feel just a little bit lighter and may help the rest of your regression go somewhat more smoothly. your stuffies will listen to you no matter what, bub.

• 🧴 get a bunch of blankets - spread them out on your bed and turn off the lights / some of the lights! this is towards those who impurely regress and feel scared or anxious because they are alone or feel vulnerable. you can hide within all the blankets and make somewhat of a cozy cocoon almost, so you’re protected by them all. dimming the lights / turning them off can help you feel less out in the open and a little less vulnerable.

• 🧴 sleep or take some naps! when I regress involuntarily, I personally get very tired and almost just- emotionally numb? and sometimes napping away the feelings helps just a little bit. trying to go to sleep while feeling so bad doesn’t always work but it could help you.

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bg removing help for tweening

i wanna start using alight motion, and i wanna start making bodysheets and tweening. However, i don’t know how to import my drawings, if i use a screenshot, the canvas is in the background and i can’t find a built in way in procreate, does anyone have any tips

?? . RELIGIOUS MINDSET INSPO 🌼 ₊˚ପ⊹

soo i thought of a way to make religion and the law of assumption coexist which was slightly frustrating because religion is my only limit while loass has none. so i decided to set boundaries to separate my desires from my needs! i am muslim but i guess this also applies to christians or other people of other religions who have doubts, anywayyy !!

in islam, we are told to share our desires with god by praying (and ofc not to self-proclaim god). However, in the law of assumption, the fact is that we have our desires instantly in our imagination and that we live in the end by not caring about them anymore. this leads to not wanting to "ask" for this desire anymore, which is contradictory.

Here is my solution : i decided to separate my desires into two categories ; IMPORTANT desires to ask for and futile desires that are only for the purpose of satisfaction.

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₊˚ପ⊹ Desires to ask for :: — everything concerning my health and my 5 senses (pains, etc.) — my goals for the future or my studies — wishes and blessings for others — desires concerning the near future, asking that an event goes well — what concerns my 3d — desires beneficial to me/my entourage on religion

₊˚ପ⊹ Desires in my 4d :: — what concerns my 4d — futile desires for the purpose of fulfillment — "selfish"/superficial desires (body, clothes) — scenarios — etc.

my imagination does not disturb anything or anyone! I can do what I want there. I already have what I want and I feel good there, that ain't my problem if it materializes in my 3d. they are not even desires anymore, actually 😭

hope this helped ! looovee

Goretober + Cooking tip [Day 2 - Knife]

Gather 5-10 branches together and tie with string or a rubber band. The smaller the bundle, the easier and faster they will dry. Put the bundle of herbs, stem-side up, in a paper bag. Tie the end of the bag closed, being sure not to crush the herbs as you do, and poke a few holes in the bag for ventilation. Hang the bag by the stem end in a warm, well-ventilated room. Your herbs may be dried and ready to store in as little as one week. :ó)

tip: every time you write a letter to someone you hate, end it with “yours not yours, ____” just to really make your point.

В последнее время подловила себя на том,что музыка с лёгкостью может повлиять на настроение.

Это как хобби, при прослушивании получаешь наслаждение,вспоминаешь какие-то моменты связанные с этой песней и погружаешься глубоко в мотив,думаешь о своём...даже если со стороны это выглядит странно,как девчонка сидит и пялится в одну точку,закрывая глаза на секунды,но главное,что в это время вы чувствуете себя круто и кайфуете.И вообще зачем обращать внимание на чьи-то негативные комментарии.Делайте,что хотите,в пределах разумного,одевайтесь стильно,фотографируйтесь как-хотите,выглядите как-хотите,слушайте что хотите...

ВЫ сам себе руководитель.Да и эгоизм,в  не запущенных случаях,даже полезен.Думать о других-нервов не хватит,если бы я,например,прислушивалась к каждому комментарию,упрёку со стороны сверстников была бы закомплексованной и неуверенной в себе.Вообще,тема самооценок и комплексов очень щепетильна среди подростков.  

Но опять же столько всего зависит от вашего душевного состояния:учёба,внешний вид,жизнь в конце концов.Так что лучше и легче быть на волне с собой.В любом случае,всегда есть бабушка,мама,тётя,подруга.которые всегда готовы выслушать ваши проблемы.и если совета не получите всё-равно станет легче,таким разговором вы избавитесь от лишнего мусора в голове и сконцентрируетесь на самом важном.

И начинали мы с музыки,зайдя в такую обширную тему.Так вот ВЫВОД:Найдите для себя то,что будет помогать в любой ситуации,конечно счетом до 10 проблеме не поможешь,но всё же вы угомоните нервы и всё будет легче:))Слушайте музыку,рисуйте,рукодельничайте,читайте,танцуйте-всё,что сердцу угодно-поможет.

Немного музыки вам на подумать;)

Yarply – sleep in car 

Cheprox – i can see 

Cassius – I Love You So (TROWA remix)

Jungle – lucky i got what i want 

Linkin Park – Numb (dubstep remix)

Ben Delay–I Never Felt So Right (Radio Mix)

Смотря в окно на парящие лёгкие снежинки и кучные облака цвета сахарной ваты на меня навеяло зимнее по-своему волшебное вдохновение,и совсем не важно,что сейчас ещё осень...

В связи с приходом зимы,на меня нахлынуло море новогоднего настроения,а если вам его не хватает,то я с удовольствием поделюсь:)

Хоть погода у нас и непредсказуемая,что-то,типо, сегодня ты мерзнешь в трёх свитерах,завтра ты тонешь в лужа,всё же это не мешает лёгким снежинкам и кучным облакам цвета сахарной ваты придать мне чувство волшебного праздника,который,кажется, вот-вот постучит в дверь(ну через 26 дней).

А  пока мы ждём,почитайте мои советики:”КАК ПОЛУЧИТЬ НОВОГОДНЕЕ НАСТРОЕНИЕ В ЧИСТОМ ВИДЕ”.

1.Если вокруг вас не будет подходящей атмосферы,то и настроения вам не видать.Ведь так греют душу маленькие светильнички у окна и яркие гирляды...Нарежьте себе стопку снежинок из бумаги и кайфуйте,ведь и стресс снимает,и украсит сразу ваш дом,дом друга и школу или офис.

2.Ничто так не помогает расслабится,как горячая кружечка какао или кофе,комфортный диван и новогодний фильм или любимая книга.К вашему вниманию МОЯ подборка зимних фильмецов:

Лавка чудес;

Чарли и шоколадная фабрика;

Отпуск по обмену;

Крепкий орешек;

Добро пожаловать или Соседям вход воспрещен;

3.Подарки-дело ответственное,поэтом именно сейчас уже можно думать и по тихоньку закупаться приятностями.Можно и себя порадовать-приобретите наряд на ночной праздник,игрушки на ёлку,бенгальские огни и фейерверки:)

4.Если из выше перечисленного вам, ну ,ничего не помогло,то самый действенный способ-это каток.Только вспомните, как в детстве папа или дедушка учил вас кататься на коньках и с каждым проделанным  шажком вы радовались,словно покоряли Эверест.Но если вы не осваивали льды в далёком прошлом-не беда.Берите друга,и я вас уверяю, каждое падение будет поднимать ваше настроение в разы.

Можно занять себя чем угодно главное подойти к этому с душой и вдохновением.Всё в ваших руках!

Good news! You CAN rewire your brain. Through the same mechanism as forming habits, you can change your automatic thought patterns. When you catch yourself with unhealthy thoughts, STOP, and make a conscious effort to replace that thought pattern with a more beneficial/healthy thought pattern. Keep doing that whenever those thoughts occur. Slowly but surely your mind’s default voice will match what you’re teaching it.

Follow @productive-tips for more tips and content like this posted daily! Handpicked and curated with love :)

Hey, can you tell my mom the same thing? She won't let me read at night😐. Says, I should wake up at 4 AM instead, but that’s when I go to sleep!

Consistent study each night will help keep things fresh in your memory.

I use paperclip to keep my notes together (because it is to heavy to take every binder with me) and they are really helpful, even if l always loose them in my bag. Hope those pictures can inspire you. So don't throw your empty tea's box. You can always store something in them ;)

How Hardworking Students Should Rest: A Guide to Staying Productive and Balanced:🎀

As students, we often find ourselves buried under a mountain of assignments, exams, and extracurricular activities. While it’s important to work hard and stay dedicated, it’s equally important to give your mind and body the rest they deserve. In this blog post, we’ll explore why rest is crucial and how to balance work and relaxation effectively.

Why is Rest Important?

Rest isn’t just about sleeping or being lazy; it’s an essential part of maintaining mental and physical well-being. Continuous study sessions without breaks can lead to burnout, stress, and decreased productivity. Taking regular breaks helps to:

• Refresh your mind: Breaks improve focus and retention of information.

• Boost creativity: Rest allows your brain to form new ideas and solutions.

• Reduce stress: Taking time off helps in managing anxiety and maintaining a healthy work-life balance.

How Often Should You Rest?

The key to effective studying is incorporating regular breaks into your schedule. Here’s a general guideline on how often to rest:

1.The Pomodoro Technique: Study for 25 minutes and then take a 5-minute break. After four cycles, take a longer break of 15-30 minutes.

2.Hourly Breaks: If you prefer longer study sessions, try studying for 50 minutes and then taking a 10-minute break.

3.Daily Rest: Make sure you have time each day to unwind and do something you enjoy—whether it’s exercising, reading, or spending time with friends.

4.Weekly Rest: Dedicate at least one day a week where you limit your study time and focus on relaxing and recharging.

Thank you!

Tips for Effective Studying!🎀

Studying can be a challenging task, but with the right approach, it becomes much easier and more productive. Here are a few tips to help you study effectively:

1.Create a Study Plan

Set specific goals and break them into manageable tasks. A good plan will help you stay organized and focused on what needs to be done.

2.Find Your Ideal Study Environment

Choose a place that is quiet and free from distractions. Whether it’s a library, a café, or your room, make sure it’s a place where you can concentrate.

3.Use Active Learning Techniques

Engage with the material actively. Summarize what you’ve learned, ask questions, and discuss topics with others to deepen your understanding.

4.Take Regular Breaks

Don’t study for hours without rest. Take short breaks to refresh your mind. This will improve your focus and keep your energy levels up.

5.Stay Positive and Consistent

Studying is a long-term process. Stay motivated and don’t get discouraged by setbacks. Consistency is key to success.

Mental Health Tips for Students:🎀

Here are a few simple tips to help maintain your mental well-being:

1.Set Realistic Goals: Don’t overload yourself with too many tasks at once. Break your goals down into manageable steps and celebrate small achievements along the way.

2.Take Breaks: Regular breaks during study sessions can boost your productivity and reduce stress. Try going for a walk, listening to music, or meditating for a few minutes.

3.Stay Connected: Make time to talk to friends and family. Socializing can be a great way to relieve stress and get emotional support.

4.Sleep and Eat Well: Proper rest and a balanced diet play a significant role in your mental health. Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep a night and try to include nutritious foods in your diet.

5.Ask for Help: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out. Many universities offer mental health resources, including counseling and support groups.

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. Prioritizing your mental health will help you not only perform better in your studies but also enjoy the university experience to the fullest.

Some tips to study!:🎀

1.Set Clear Goals: Break your larger objectives into smaller, specific tasks for each study session. This makes your progress more manageable and keeps you motivated.

2.Create a Study Schedule: Plan your study time in advance and stick to a routine. This helps develop discipline and ensures you cover all the topics you need.

3.Use Active Learning: Instead of just reading or highlighting, actively engage with the material. Try summarizing what you learn, ask yourself questions, or teach the topic to someone else.

4.Take Regular Breaks: Study in short bursts, like 25-30 minutes, followed by a 5-minute break. This method, known as the Pomodoro Technique, helps keep your mind fresh and focused.

5.Stay Organized: Keep your notes, books, and digital files organized. Having a clean and structured workspace helps you focus better and saves time during study sessions.

6.Use Multiple Resources: Don’t rely on one textbook or resource. Combine materials like videos, online courses, or apps to enhance your understanding of the subject.

7.Review Regularly: Revisit your notes frequently. Regular review helps move information from short-term to long-term memory, making it easier to recall during exams.

8.Practice Past Exams or Problems: If possible, work on past exam papers or similar problems. This prepares you for the format and helps identify areas that need more attention.

These tactics can help you stay efficient, organized, and motivated during your studies.

how to write creepy stories

over describe things

under describe things

short sentences in rapid succession build tension

single sentence paragraphs build dread

uncanny valley = things that aren't normal almost getting it right

third person limited view

limited expressions

rot, mold, damage, age, static, flickering, espsecially in places it shouldn't be

limited sights for your mc - blindness, darkness, fog

being alone - the more people there are, the less scary it is

intimate knowledge, but only on one side

your reader's imagination will scare them more than anything you could ever write. you don't have to offer a perfectly concrete explanation for everything at the end. in fact, doing so may detract from your story.

How to Grow Up

A guide on how to grow up. It was originally posted by @/friendliness but half the links were broken. So I took what links weren't broken and added other links and more things to know.

This is USA based resources

Personal

Reasons to Stay Alive – A Tumblr post of 116 reasons to stay alive by @/friendliness.

How to Get Better At Asking for Help – Website is Harvard Business Review. The article is “5 Ways to Get Better At Asking for Help” by Wayne Baker.

What to do if you Can’t Afford Therapy – Website is Psych Central and the article is by Steven Rowe.

How to Quit Smoking – “The 22 Best Ways to Quit Smoking” by Debra L. Gordon and David L. Katz M.D. from the Healthy Digest.

How to Legally Change your Name – Website is Forbes.

Wanna Learn Something New? – A Tumblr post made by @/hamletthedane with various new things to try from language learning to ballet.

Free Harvard Courses – Harvard University’s free online courses.

Getting a New Computer? – A quick and dirty comprehensive guide by WIRED on what to look for.

How to Sew – Website is Autodesk Indestructibles. The article is “How to Sew” by Jessyratfink. Having a small sewing kit (that you can pick up from nearly any craft store) is super handy and has saved my life and clothes.

What to Look For in Clothes – A YouTube video by Alyssa Beltempo titled “How to Identify High Quality vs. Poor Quality Clothing | Slow Fashion”. Here’s a WikiHow [x] if a YouTube video isn’t your style.

Home

What’s a mortgage? – Website is realtor.com and the page is called “What is a Mortgage? Home Loan Basics Explained” by Cathie Ericson.

First Apartment Checklist – A checklist PDF. Here’s another link to a Tumblr checklist [x] 

What to Ask Landlords Before Renting? – “25 Questions To Ask a Landlord When Renting a Home” by Morgen Henderson.

What’s Renter’s Insurance? – Website is Forbes Advisor. The article is by Jason Metz and titled “How to Get Renters Insurance”.

Plant Care – A master list of how to care for plants made by @/difficults

Job

Time Management – Website is Entrepenuer and has 10 time management tips. One I personally recommend is keeping a physical calendar book on hand. I keep mine in my bag with a designated pen.

Finding the right job – Website is The Muse and it has 13 free career assessment tests.

Make a resume – Website is Resume Now. Many hirers look at your name, the middle of the page (where your experience list is) and skim the rest.

Job Interview Tips – Website is Linkedin. The article is titled “10 Job Interview Tips to Land The Career of Your Dreams” by Caren Merrick.

How to Write a Cover Letter – Website is The Writing Center. University of Winsconsin, Madison. It’s titled “Writing Cover Letters” and I can’t find the author.

Money

Couponing! – Website is Coupon Database :: Southern Savers. It has a list of mobile apps for coupons to places.

Call 211 for Help – the website leads to 211.org. It's anonymous and can help you get connected to food programs, paying bills and things like doctor appointments. Here’s a Tumblr post about it [x] by @/poessionisamyth

Groceries! – This is a Tumblr meme post, but scrolling through tags/reblogs/replies and there’s plenty of good tips. The post is by @/charlotten

What To Do if You Can’t Pay Your Bills – Website is Nolo. The article is “When You Can’t Pay Your Bills: Thiings To Know” that was updated by Amy Loftsgordon. 

Are You Paying Too Much for Your Phone Bill? – An article by Beht Beverman titled “How Much is Too Much to Pay for a Cell Phone Bill?”.

54 Ways to Save Money – Website is America Saves.

How to Do Taxes – Website is Wiki-How.

The 70/20/10 Method – Website is Business Insider. The Article is “A Beginners Guide to the 70-20–10 Budgeting Method” by Paul Kim.

Side Hustle Ideas – Website is Forbes. “30 Side Hustle Ideas To Make Extra Money In 2024” by Krista Fabregas.

Emergency

Your Rights When a Cop Pulls you Over – Website is Business Insider. Cops are allowed to lie to you, and they will, so be careful.

Hotline List – The website is DoSomething.org. Depression/Suicide, domestic abuse, child abuse and runaway/homeless/and at-risk youth hotlines.

What to Keep in Your Car – Website is MentalFloss. I live in a snowy area that gets blizzards and bad ice. I keep blankets, water and other aids in my car as well as a knife and road flare. I also own a self jumping car battery and it has saved my ass more than once. Heimlich Maneuver – A one minute video by the Mayo Clinic.

The Heimlich Maneuver on Yourself – A one minute video by The List Show TV.

What to Keep in Your Wallet – Website is PureWow. The article is by Rachel Bowie. Keep your drivers license, medical insurance card, and an emergency contact in your card. If you have a pet home alone make sure that you have a card detailing this. Free printable one here [x]

Traveling

Packing List – Website is Smarter Travel.

Traveling with Little to No Money – Website is Nomadic Matt.

How to Pack a Suitcase – Website is Real Simple. The article is by Thersa O’Rourke.

How to Apply for a Passport – Website is WikkiHow.

Making a Travel Budget – Website is Travel Made Simple. “How to Make a Travel Budget” by Ali Garland

100 Dialogue Tags You Can Use Instead of “Said”

For the writers struggling to rid themselves of the classic ‘said’. Some are repeated in different categories since they fit multiple ones (but those are counted once so it adds up to 100 new words). 

1. Neutral Tags 

Straightforward and unobtrusive dialogue tags: 

Added, Replied, Stated, Remarked, Responded, Observed, Acknowledged, Commented, Noted, Voiced, Expressed, Shared, Answered, Mentioned, Declared.

2. Questioning Tags 

Curious, interrogative dialogue tags:

Asked, Queried, Wondered, Probed, Inquired, Requested, Pondered, Demanded, Challenged, Interjected, Investigated, Countered, Snapped, Pleaded, Insisted.

3. Emotive Tags 

Emotional dialogue tags:

Exclaimed, Shouted, Sobbed, Whispered, Cried, Hissed, Gasped, Laughed, Screamed, Stammered, Wailed, Murmured, Snarled, Choked, Barked.

4. Descriptive Tags 

Insightful, tonal dialogue tags: 

Muttered, Mumbled, Yelled, Uttered, Roared, Bellowed, Drawled, Spoke, Shrieked, Boomed, Snapped, Groaned, Rasped, Purred, Croaked.

5. Action-Oriented Tags 

Movement-based dialogue tags: 

Announced, Admitted, Interrupted, Joked, Suggested, Offered, Explained, Repeated, Advised, Warned, Agreed, Confirmed, Ordered, Reassured, Stated.

6. Conflict Tags 

Argumentative, defiant dialogue tags:

Argued, Snapped, Retorted, Rebuked, Disputed, Objected, Contested, Barked, Protested, Countered, Growled, Scoffed, Sneered, Challenged, Huffed.

7. Agreement Tags 

Understanding, compliant dialogue tags: 

Agreed, Assented, Nodded, Confirmed, Replied, Conceded, Acknowledged, Accepted, Affirmed, Yielded, Supported, Echoed, Consented, Promised, Concurred.

8. Disagreement Tags 

Resistant, defiant dialogue tags: 

Denied, Disagreed, Refused, Argued, Contradicted, Insisted, Protested, Objected, Rejected, Declined, Countered, Challenged, Snubbed, Dismissed, Rebuked.

9. Confused Tags 

Hesitant, uncertain dialogue tags:

Stammered, Hesitated, Fumbled, Babbled, Mumbled, Faltered, Stumbled, Wondered, Pondered, Stuttered, Blurted, Doubted, Confessed, Vacillated.

10. Surprise Tags

Shock-inducing dialogue tags:

Gasped, Stunned, Exclaimed, Blurted, Wondered, Staggered, Marvelled, Breathed, Recoiled, Jumped, Yelped, Shrieked, Stammered.

Note: everyone is entitled to their own opinion. No I am NOT telling people to abandon said and use these. Yes I understand that said is often good enough, but sometimes you WANT to draw attention to how the character is speaking. If you think adding an action/movement to your dialogue is 'good enough' hate to break it to you but that ruins immersion much more than a casual 'mumbled'. And for the last time: this is just a resource list, CALM DOWN. Hope that covers all the annoyingly redundant replies :)

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The Very Basics of Not Killing Your Computer

AVOID HEAT STRESS

If you have a laptop DO NOT use it on a soft surface like a pillow or on a blanket, it’ll block the vents on your computer and make it get really fucking hot inside.

If you have a desktop you gotta open it up and blow out the dust sometimes.

If you are moving your laptop in a bag turn the laptop off. Don’t put it to sleep, don’t just shut the screen, turn it off, because otherwise it’s in the bag generating heat and there’s nowhere for the heat to go in the bag. OFF. Not sleep. OFF.

DO NOT DROP

Okay I know that should be obvious but drop damage to your hard drive is bad bad news. Be as careful as you can to set your computer gently on flat surfaces; don’t leave it hanging out on a bed where it can get knocked off, don’t set it on the roof of your car. And yes, just dropping it a couple inches can kill your hard drive or totally shatter your screen.

DON’T PUT SHIT ON YOUR KEYBOARD

Look I’ve seen four people ruin their laptops because they had a pen on the keyboard and closed the laptop and it fucked up the screen and the keyboard and it sucks so much and you feel awful after it happens because it’s so avoidable just don’t put things on your keyboard and always check that your laptop is clear before you close it.

PROTECT YOUR PORTS ON YOUR LAPTOP

You’ve only got one power jack and a limited number of other inputs on your computer and if they detach from the motherboard you’re fucked. USB ports get damaged because people use them a lot and eventually it weakens the connection and then they just stop working and it sucks. You can get around this with USB ports by using a USB hub to connect things like your keyboard and mouse.

For your power plug you just gotta be careful. Avoid tripping over the cord at all costs, don’t yank the plug out of the computer. It will SUCK VERY MUCH A LOT if you have to buy a new computer because the power port lost contact with the motherboard.

Don’t move your computer with things plugged into it. Take the power cord off before you put your laptop in the bag, take out the USB mouse dongle, do not travel with little nubby bits sticking out of your computer that can easily get caught or get tweaked or snap off inside of the thing.

(I really can’t emphasize enough that most of the “it will cost more than it’s worth to fix this” laptops I see are because of USB ports and power jacks. People don’t seem to know that this isn’t something that can be fixed easily; a broken power jack is a “remove the motherboard and resoldier components” job, not a “plug a new one in in fifteen minutes” job and most computer repair shops aren’t going to solder things for you and if they DO it’s going to be very expensive)

RESTART YOUR SHIT AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH AND JUST LET THE FUCKING UPDATES RUN

You should probably restart more than once a month but whatever. This is actually something that I consider part of reducing heat stress because when your processor is straining to keep up with all the background bullshit that’s running from a program you opened three weeks ago it’s going to use up resources and get hot and look just restart it once in a while.

Also the updates are almost always okay and safe and generally running updates is a good and secure thing to do (though maybe follow a blog dedicated to the OS you run because if there IS a problem with the updates that blog will probably talk about it before the update gets forced on your computer)

ANTIVIRUS BULLSHIT

Yes you should probably be running an antivirus.

Sophos is free and it’s fine. But don’t pay for it - if you’re using Sophos use the free version.

If you’re looking for something paid and a little more comprehensive I recommend ESET - get the cheap version, renewals cost less than the initial purchase, and feel free to get a multi-year version, the credentials follow your email not the computer so if your computer dies before your license expires you can install the license on a new computer.

DO NOT INSTALL NORTON OR MCAFEE THEY ARE EXPENSIVE BULLSHIT. Kaspersky is whatever. It’s less bullshit than Norton or McAfee but not as good as ESET for about the same cost.

If you think you’ve got a virus run the free version of Malwarebytes and get your shit cleaned.

KEEP LIQUIDS THE FUCK AWAY FROM YOUR COMPUTER

Again this should be obvious and yet. But seriously, just make a rule for yourself that drinks aren’t allowed on the same table as your computer and you’ll save yourself a lot of headaches.

PLUG YOUR COMPUTER INTO A UPS

Okay I fucking hate amazon but here’s a thing you should be using, just search the rest of the internet for “surge protector/UPS” and you’ll find something that isn’t from amazon - APC is a solid brand for this.

Basically you want a fat surge protector that has a little bit of a battery backup and you want to plug your computer (desktop OR laptop) into that instead of into the wall. The benefit of this is twofold:

1) if there’s a power surge the UPS will prevent your computer’s power supply from getting fried and possibly frying parts of your motherboard

2) if there’s a power outage and you’re *at* your computer you’ll have enough time to save what you’re working on before your computer loses power (like, you’ll maybe only have a minute or two on a small UPS but that’s still time to hit CTRL+S and keep from losing work)

At a bare, bare minimum your computer should be plugged into a surge protector but NOT directly into the wall.

BACK YOUR SHIT UP

[we interrupt this yelling for me to tell you that Western Digital has apparently released their new My Passport line and I’m obligated to inform you that you can get a 2.5″ USB 3.0 backup drive with FIVE FUCKING TERABYTES OF STORAGE for $130. Or you can get 4TB for $93. Or you can get 1TB for $53. basically what I’m saying is that it is not only cheap computer season it is also cheap hard drive season.]

[also if you’re getting a backup drive get western digital not seagate seagate fucking sucks and has a much higher failure rate]

Uh, okay, anyway - Do an image backup of your computer every once in a while so that if you get infected or your hard drive dies or whatever you can just restore from backup and move on like nothing happened.

HERE’S HOW TO DO AN IMAGE BACKUP.

SAVE YOURSELF THE WEAR AND TEAR

You know what is cheap? USB Keyboards and USB mice. You know what is not cheap? Fixing the touchpad on a laptop or replacing a laptop keyboard.

Get yourself a USB hub, a USB Keyboard and a USB Mouse (wired or wireless, doesn’t matter) and if you’re using your laptop at home plug *that* into your computer.

Also if your keyboard on your laptop breaks it’s fine just to use a USB keyboard instead I promise; if the screen breaks it’s also usually cheaper and easier to get a used or inexpensive monitor than it is to replace the screen. Your laptop is basically just a very small version of whatever bullshit is going on inside a desktop, if the peripherals break but the core components are fine you can just use it like a desktop.

Unless it’s a piece of shit that doesn’t have any USB ports or video out in which case you got ripped off, friend, demand functionality in your devices I’m sorry.

/rant

a couple snippets from a presentation i gave at school this past week on storyboarding!!

‼️DISCLAIMER: I am still a student and have only worked on student and indie projects! This is just stuff that I personally find helpful as an amateur, so feel free to take it with a grain of salt!

Happy boarding, friends! ✍️💕

Scott Pilgrim is, I think, the best example I can think of for establishing a setting's Nonsense Limit. The setting's Nonsense Limit isn't quite "How high-fantasy is this". It's mostly a question of presentation, to what degree does the audience feel that they know the rules the world operates by, such that they are primed to accept a random new element being introduced. A setting with a Nonsense Limit of 0 is, like, an everyday story. Something larger than life, but theoretically taking place in our world, like your standard spy thriller action movie has a limit of 1. Some sort of hidden world urban fantasy with wizards and stuff operating in secret has a nonsense limit around 3 or 4. A Superhero setting, presenting an alternate version of our world, is a 5 or 6. High fantasy comes in around a 7 or so, "Oh yeah, Wizards exist and they can do crazy stuff" is pretty commonly accepted. Scott Pilgrim comes in at a 10. If you read the Scott Pilgrim book, it starts off looking like a purely mundane slice of life. The first hint at the fantastical is Ramona appearing repeatedly in Scott's Dreams, and then later showing up in real life. When we finally get an explanation, it's this:

Apparently Subspace Highways are a thing? And they go through people's heads? And Ramona treats this like it's obscure, but not secret knowledge. Ramona doesn't think she's doing anything weird here. At this point, it's not clear if Scott is accepting Ramona's explanation or not, things kind of move on as mundane as ever until their Date, when Ramona takes Scott through subspace, and he doesn't act like his world was just blown open or anything, although I guess that could have been a metaphor. there's a couple other moments, but everything with Ramona could be a metaphor, or Scott not recognizing what's going on. Maybe Ramona is uniquely fantastical in this otherwise normal world. And then, this happens

Suddenly, a fantastical element (A shitty local indie band finishing their set with a song that knocks out most of the audience) is introduced unrelated to Ramona, and undeniably literal. We see the crowd knocked out by Crash and The Boys. but the story doesn't linger on the implications of that, the whole point of that sequence is to raise the Nonsense Level, such that you accept it when This happens

Matthew Patel comes flying down onto the stage, Scott, who until this point is presented as a terrible person and a loser, but otherwise is extremely ordinary, proceeds to flawlessly block and counter him before doing a 64-hit air juggle combo. Scott's friends treat this like Scott is showing off a mildly interesting party trick, like being really good at darts. The establish that Scott is the "Best Fighter in the Province", not only are street-fighter battles a thing, Scott is Very Good at it, but they're so unimportant that being the best fighter in the province doesn't make Scott NOT a loser. So when Matthew Patel shows off his magic powers and then explodes into a pile of coins, we've established "Oh, this is how silly the setting gets". It's not about establishing the RULES of the setting so much as it is about establishing a lack of rules. Scott's skill at street-fighter battles doesn't translate to any sort of social prestige. Ramona can access Subspace Highways and she uses it to do a basic delivery job. It doesn't make sense and it's clear that it's not supposed to. So later on, when Todd Ingram starts throwing around telekinesis, and the explanation we're given is "He's a Vegan" , you're already so primed by the mixture of weirdness and mundanity that rather than trying to incorporate this new knowledge into any sort of coherent setting ruleset, you just go "Ah, yeah, Vegans".