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maybe there's something im not understanding here, and honestly at the end of the day i don't really care one way or the other this is a pretty exclusively online topic, but the whole "neo/xeno AGAB" thing is like... vaguely transphobic right?
and i am absolutely 100% NOT the person to try to tell others how they should identify or what labels they should be using, im literally a transmasc nonbinary mspec/queer lesbian transspecies werewolf who uses xeno pronouns for fucks sake, it doesn't really get anymore "queer as in wtf is going on" than that.
but from what i've seen and read about it, it kind of seems to be simultaneously reinventing and discrediting the definition of transgender. To directly quote the "AGAB Non-Conformity" infographic made by @/nonconformityhub,
"Those who reject their AGAB, are unassigned, or were forced to fit a binary sex at birth may wish to self-assign a different AGAB. It's based around the idea that we shouldn't be forced to stick with a falsely assigned gender."
like, am i not understanding something or is that literally just the definition of being transgender or gnc?? i think the thing that rubs me the wrong way about it is that it almost kinda implies that as a transgender individual you should or need to disclose the gender you were assigned at birth to others, which (unless it's for legal or health related reasons) you literally just don't. If you are a trans man, congratulations, you are a man. You don't have to be an "AFAB man", you're just a man. As far as anyone else needs to be concerned, you are male and have always been such. The whole point of being trans is to reject the gender you were assigned at birth because it's flat out not what you are.
Idk again I don't really care that much I don't think it's gonna single handedly set back trans liberation or anything of that sort, I just feel like we SHOULD be focusing on dismantling the system of assigning genders at birth to begin with and reasserting that sex ≠ gender, rather than simply modifying the system to appeal to certain individuals and disregarding preexisting communities trying to accomplish that goal, and would maybe just encourage everyone to look at this kind of stuff with some healthy skepticism
me: so being autistic effects every part of me...
allistic: ok
me: it even changes my perception of gender...
allistic: that makes sense
me: i identify as autigender because my experience of gender is intertwined with my autistic experience
allistic: AuTisM IsN’T A GENDer?!!!!
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autigender doesn’t necessarily mean autism is a gender, it is simply a term autistics can use to describe the way their gender and autism interact (hope that helps explain it!)
call me a dumbass furry werewolf otherkin faggot but I genuinely don't think queer people having genders tied to their nonhumanity is a bad thing at all. it has no impact on whether or not we're actually. oppressed. or not, so why not let us talk about how our elf or dragon or wolf or cat or whatever nonhuman identities affect our genders, who cares lol
My Pinterest is glitchy as fuck and won’t let me comment/reply most of the time and also I can’t see my keyboard when I’m typing and it drives me batshit crazy
So instead of informing the person I wanted to inform on Pinterest why pipeline punch monster energy is actually a valid gender, I’m gonna tell you.
Xenogenders were created for I believe autistic or general neurodivergent people.
Not everybody experiences the concept of gender in the same way, and sometimes we just can’t find the right terms to explain exactly how we feel, so we get as close as possible.
A bridge example is the singular xenogender label that I personally am considering. It’s a song gender of Savage Daughter. I think my gender fluctuates, I don’t think I’m a girl a lot of the time, but when I listen to that song I feel a deep sort of femininity that is specifically like a wild woman in folklore. I could stand to be a girl if I was a wild woman in folklore, but not in the modern interpretation of femininity. The way in which I am feminine is raw and open, and if it was anything but a xenogender based on a song it would be much more widely accepted.
And people who use xenogender labels don’t hurt anyone. The only way I can think of would be queerphobes or people new to the concept of queerness getting overwhelmed by things they can’t understand yet, but that’s why we take things one step at a time. Just because not everybody can do multiplication doesn’t mean algebra doesn’t exist.
I understand the feeling. It doesn’t make sense, it seems like a mockery. But it’s not a mockery, it’s genuinely how these people feel and it’s the best way for them to communicate themselves.
TLDR: let people use xenogenders. They are doing their best. It’s not your problem. Try to be kind, as a general life principle.
A guide to lesboys
People are very skilled at hating this term (lesboy) without actual knowledge of it, so I made a guide!! Also, while I forgot to add it to this, some abro folk use the term at times. ^_^
[Repost from my Pinterest account]