Life Lessons - Blog Posts
Don't get wrapped up in the beauty you see in pictures online; they don't matter. What matters is you and how you choose to act.
"The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion." – Albert Camus
20s is about being everything
I have never been a person who had any big plans for my 20s. Honestly, my plans have always been about life in general, like I should ultimately become this, I should have someone who loves me and I should travel a lot but no goal like I should achieve this particular thing in my 20s. Although now when I am really in this stage of my life I have realised how much I have to do and how much I am doing. It's really a life changing phase, you are no more a kid and you are not even a responsible adult. Your time to make 'n' number of mistakes is over but yet you are clueless about the best decisions for yourself in more than 99% of occasions. You have people to support you but you don't have people to walk with you on difficult paths.
I am in my 20s unaware of what is right and what is wrong. Adulting at my own pace usually seems slower than others. Deep down I know I am growing, I appreciate how far I have come but on the other end it doesn't seem enough. I have learnt a lot, I am different from what I was in school. I am stronger but yet more fragile than before. I am confident yet afraid of others' perception about me as a whole. I am surrounded by people yet alone for long. I want to be loved romantically yet I am afraid of commitment. It's complicated but still clear. Maybe 20s is about being everything, being a super hero and a weakling together. It's about feeling everything so that ultimately you know what you want to be. It's about living different lives with single soul. It's about experimenting everything so that in your 30s you know which experiment had the most successful results.
It doesn't need any planning, it's just about living in the moment, going on a road trip without a map but with hope of reaching the destination. It can be a successful and joyful ride, it can be a painful and rough ride but in the end where ever you reach will be far away from where you started and would be indeed more lovelier than what you plan.
No matter how early you read the poem 'The Road Not Taken' by Robert Frost, you are going to understand it completely only in your 20s.
Do you ever think 'how did I end up here?' Like you are in a maze and totally lost and it's all your fault because you were the one who made every turn? And you know that there are many routes that could have helped you out, because you hear all the people on the outside of the maze who made it through, and they are laughing and smiling. And sometimes you get a glimpse of them through the hedge. A fleeting shape through the leaves. And they seem so damn happy to have made it and you don't resent them, but you do resent yourself for not having their ability to work it all out. Do you? Or is this maze just for me?
The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
"The act of seeing is no small thing. To see something is to be possessed by it. Sometimes it carries off a part of you, sometimes it's your whole soul." - Motojirō Kajii, Landscapes of the Heart
"But, I don't know, maybe it takes a long time to figure out what you're truly searching for. Maybe you spend your whole life to figure out a small part of it." - Satoshi Yagisawa, Days at the Morisaki Bookshop (Translation by Eric Ozawa)
"Day by day, the leaves of the trees along the streets turned to gold. It delighted me to see how well the changing colors matched the slow transformation happening inside me." - Satoshi Yagisawa, Days at the Morisaki Bookshop (Translation by Eric Ozawa)
YALL
HEAR ME OUT
let's start shipping same sex homophobes that bully gay people together and see what will happen
thats it.
This is low key describing the development of my life philosophy over the years. Like, in order and everything. Get out of my head.
job interviews: did you mean, advanced lying
I learned more through the pain, it’ true but barely enough to make it through
Know Your "No."
Being an Old on Tumblr, I'm often down the rabbit hole of youthful angst and despair, especially from young women who don't know who/how to be in the world and are looking for answers in moodboards, trends, and memes. And listen — that doesn't end. It's why we have mid-life crises.
It's better to figure out your "no."
You gotta know your line. Your absolutely the fuck not.
Here's why...
Sometimes that "no" is hiding under a "yes." It's the guy who A1 d*ck who talks to you like shit. The high-paying job/competitive college program that stresses you the fuck out. The "Baddie" aesthetic that includes shoes you can't fucking walk in. You get what you want but because you didn't define what you didn't want, you're telling yourself this is fine.
When you start with Absolutely the fuck not, you free yourself up for exploration.
You put less pressure on yourself to have all the answers because as long as you don't see the Absolutely the fuck not, you can be guided by curiosity.
"Huh. What's over there? Let's try that on and see what happens."
No matter what your fave influencer says, you learn about life by living. You make a choice, it goes well, you learn what you like. You make a choice, it doesn't go well, you learn what you don't like. Rinse and repeat. This, and only this, is how you "figure it out." By doing.
When you pinpoint your Absolutely the fuck not, you trust that anything — no matter how good it looks on the outside — that requires you to do what you absolutely do not want to do is not for you.
Everything else? Fair game.
When knew that forming meaningful relationships actually improves your quality of life??? Why wasn't I told this sooner
Do not be daunting and immovable, do not be inflexible and stern, limit neither your growth nor your movement. Do not be a mountain for they are reduced to dust by little more than slight rains and soft winds.
Be water, flow through life picking up wisdom but don't let it overburden you. Be transient, change your form as and when required. Be as hard and cold as ice, rise up to the skies when the land becomes too unkind, let yourself be dragged through sewers if that'll keep you alive and revert back to your original form when the conditions suit you. But most importantly, don't lose the sight of your true nature through all this.
Be water.
There was a time I stood before fire and used its power to create beauty. I threw away those days out of greed and fear, and I have regretted it ever since. Don't give up building the life you want. Even if you don't have the money, power, or means, if you push away your love, you may never get it back. Don't put that life on hold to sell your soul for something you never needed.
I'm glad God sat me down & put me through things that forced me to mature & grow!!!!!! ❣️
Sometimes I'm like a spinning top. I fall away; spinning out of control where I eventually pick myself up, only to fall again. But I've learned a valuable lesson being the spinning top. Eventually I'll settle and focus on my surroundings and know that it'll be okay.
I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.
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One tends to look on the brightside of things and remain positive, the other one....doesn't. They both have different opinions, things they like, or what they do..but they're not too similar. But...even though they aren't similar, they both have things they wanna work on. One of them hopes he and the other person will someday get along, he tries to entertain the other person or talk with them. He's hoping for a better friendship, but thinks it'll be long till then. The other one hopes that he will someday be worthy of being loved by others, and doesn't believe the love his friend gives him is really true. Just an act to make him feel better about himself, he doesn't. He tries to act different or do other things and get approved by others, but he thinks it'll be long till then. But.. if they would want to get anywhere, and also improve their friendship. One of them would get up, and say to the other person with the words: "Hey, we both have flaws but maybe..we can fix them together.....
Like friends would."
𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒅! 𝑬𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒄𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕. 𝑶𝒏𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒘𝒆 𝒎𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒙𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒔𝒐 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒍𝒔𝒆'𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆. 𝑨𝒏𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒄𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒉𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔. 𝑰𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒆.
M.
I am the only one who can deciede my worth, all of your opinions aren't shit
Kisses from your fav Angel (aka me)💗🎀
be addicted to real dopamine
be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there
experience new exciting things that bring you joy
love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections
make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free
stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book
do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down
move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying
listen to music that matches the moment you’re in
eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort
get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day
