Empathy - Blog Posts
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Today, I encountered a little black girl who looked frail and seemed timid, and it nearly brought me to tears. There was something in her eyes, a glint of quiet pain, of low self-esteem. She seemed afraid to speak, to take up space, to simply exist in the fullness of who she is. And in that moment, my mind instantly went to my younger sister. And of course, to my younger self. I see so much of myself in my little sister. I love her with everything in me, and I would do whatever it takes to shield her from the cruelty of the world—from my father's rage, from society’s judgment, from the harshness I was never protected from. I couldn’t save my younger self from all the things that broke me. The things that silenced me, made me shrink, made me feel like I wasn’t enough. So when I see little girls like that—like her—I feel this deep, aching need to protect them. I glanced at her multiple times today, and she might’ve thought I was judging her. I wish I could’ve told her I wasn’t. That I cared. That in a world where others might overlook her or treat her like she’s invisible, I see her. I would be there for her. But I couldn’t say it. Because that would've scared her off. I hope I see her again. Sometimes, I wish I wasn’t this sensitive. I wish I could just numb myself just a little, so I wouldn’t have to feel so deeply all the time. But here I am, writing this with tears in my eyes. Empathy is starting to feel like a curse to me.
—A lady and Her Quill, Journal of wandering thoughts.
mannnnn until we all get okay with the idea of people needing other people to get them water/food/etc like. idk we’re just never gonna make it
Sometimes i wish i was born wealthy. Not for personal use but so i could use money to give others an opportunity they wouldnt have originally have had in life. Money is needed in order to make any sort of change. Not everybody is born into an environment where they are set up for success. If anything they live FAR from it and Its heartbreaking to realize some of the paths people take is because they had no other option. Some choices can simply mean being able to have food and shelter. I wish there was MORE i could do to change the world.
Most of you guys are not as empathetic as you think you are
"All autistics have low empathy" - This statement is wrong.
"Autistics having low empathy is a MYTH, we actually have HIGH empathy!" - This statement is ALSO wrong.
Autistics can have low empathy, they can have high empathy, they can have learned empathy. The myth would be that all autistics only experience one end of the empathy spectrum.
In spreading around misinformation that autistics actually have high empathy, you are disregarding the autistics who do have low empathy. And vice versa.
Lead life with empathy. That's all I can say. When you lead life with empathy, you can make the world a better place.
Lead life with empathy. If you want to be an actual ally that can help make a difference, you have to lead life with empathy and compassion. We teach children all the time to treat others the way we want to be treated, so why not continue that into adulthood?
As an Autistic and queer person myself, I totally understand why horror and dark fantasy overlap with our own understanding of the world. It's why movies like The Shape of Water or stories like Frankenstein resonate with those of us who feel othered by the world. We empathize with the monsters because in many ways, the monsters might just need someone who understands them.
Your body is the only place you'll never move away from.
Empathy is a beautiful thing
i was in the grocery store and saw an onion on the ground and picked it up, absently saying “poor little guy.” behind me a teenage girl started laughing and then stopped and went “aww. i’m sorry for laughing. that’s nice actually.” and the cycle of cruelty is broken for another generation as a young person realizes that it is not embarrassing to have empathy for another thing that was once living, because certainly to be a lone white onion rolling on the ground in a supermarket would be terrifying to anyone
Old dogs CAN learn new tricks!
It's fun. When we're young we get shoved in many directions by those who are supposed to be "teaching" us. We don't realize just how broken most of those folks are and to be fair, they usually don't have a clue either. As we grow and experience life, we get shoved around by reality and forced to play by certain rules because well, things don't slow down long enough in many cases to realize there are other options. Here's where I giggle and say again... broken humans creating broken humans. But, if we're lucky... there comes a point where we can take a breath, look around, see just how twisty things, situations, and people really are.... and begin to rethink how we want to navigate our way through the chaos. That's where I'm at. It's messy. I make mistakes. I wander around clueless a lot. I flop onto the floor and just wait for things to give me less of a headache. I try new things. I laugh and cross some things off my try, or try again, lists. And sometimes... I squeal like a hyper six year old and giggle bounce trying to show anyone who will pay attention my most recent accomplishment... even if sometimes it seems MUCH bigger to me than it would to ANYONE else. hahaha The important part here is that I'm learning a LOT about who I am, who I was sort of forced to pretend to be, and how the actual me can function more smoothly in the world of twisty humans. I'm beginning to understand glitches, adjust my priorities, find new ways of seeking the options I want, and having plenty of fun in the process. I really wish I could have done this when my brain and body were a bit more... cooperative but hey... take it when ya get it right? heh Anyway... I've shared. I hope you're having some fun in the little glimmery moments of life. Laters.
Pain....
Pain is interesting. It makes people do strange things. It can make folks weird, angry, sad, and many other things. Just like any "animal" when someone is in pain, they may do things, or say things, they wouldn't say if they weren't hurting. What makes it more interesting is that you can't see... pain. You can't look at someone and always know for sure if they are hurting. You can read their angry posts or texts, grumble at their complete avoidance of activities, or wonder what is wrong with them when they deal with their pain by being utterly goofy but you can't always SEE... pain. Just a fun fact to share. Something to think about when someone acts a bit gruff or gives you a dirty look in passing. Might not have anything to do with you. Might have a lot to do with pain... plain and simple. Just sayin.
I am not a ghost.
I don't have a job. I have always had a hard time making money. I will not show you my tits or do sexually charged things with you. I won't constantly stroke your ego. I can't connect you to anyone "important". I won't agree with everything you say or do. I won't laugh at stupidity with you. I don't think life is always easy nor do I feel that easy is always the best idea. No, I won't make sure to maintain a certain "appearance", I don't even wear make-up. While I do understand that money is a "need", waving your net worth at me will not impress me. I strongly believe in effort, learning, and making constant adjustments. I have often put a lot of energy into helping others but I have finally also accepted that I deserve acknowledgement and help as well.
I know. I understand. More than one human has explained that I am simply being too difficult and that's why I can't connect. I get it BUT, I also understand that I'm not invisible. Just because I am not one to conform to common behavior patterns does not mean that I deserve to be treated like I am even less noticeable than the homeless person you happily see as either a problem, or a way to feel better about yourself by donating to the charity case. I am very much alive. I too have feelings. I... am not a monster... or a ghost! I am simply different. I don't want to be medicated or changed so I can be more "normal". I just want to be me, and be accepted as human. Yes, I know... good luck with that. Humans can't even seem to get beyond skin color so why would I expect my list of differences to be accepted? meh... A girl can dream.
next person I date needs to at least understand mental illness. it would make a difference if I actually dated someone that understood 🖤
Y'know. Empathy isn't just feeling another person's pain in your chest and feeling their tears in your eyes.
It's also "dang, that sucks a lot dude." It's also a pat on the shoulder. It's also giving someone a bit of your tasty food. It's also offering to distract them with a game, or some fun conversation. It's also letting them blab on about whatever's going on, being an ear for them. It's also offering solutions when they're ready and willing to hear them.
You don't need to Feel™ to have empathy for someone. You just need to know that something sucks and want them to feel better.
One of my favorite podcasts of all time… As a behavior analyst/specialist, I found this to be super interesting. Applied behavioral analysis therapy is used typically to help people who have autism spectrum disorders, but have you ever tried to apply it to your own behaviors?
If you’re an authentic person who considers themselves as an empath… you’ll definitely relate to this episode!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612?i=1000554072096
hihi!
my daddy isn’t all that into ddlg stuff and some of the bdsm things that i myself am into
however he’s interested in sex and mostly sex he’s not interested in the emotional side of bdsm purely the sex and pleasure for him
it upsets me that he doesn’t want to explore kinks with me but i can understand most of the time
i was wondering if you had any advice
The short answer here is “it depends”. It depends on multiple factors. Perhaps your partner is just selfish and does not care all that much. More likely, your partner may just not be super comfortable with taking the dynamic further and doesn’t want to feel embarrassed… like they don’t know what to do. Rather than risk looking/feeling stupid, they avoid taking things further and may even claim they are not that “into it”. Fear generally and fear of something so personal as sexual embarrassment are quite potent motivators to overcome. If he doesn’t care enough, that is another story altogether.
However, if they care about you, you may be able to convince them to explore more, but it will take some work to make them comfortable with it.
In anon... I can only offer some general advice on how to get an intimate partner to explore more things with you. Every relationship is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Therefore, I encourage you to communicate openly, honestly and respectfully with your partner about your desires and expectations and listen to their feelings and preferences. The biggest key to deepening your relationship this way and reaching your goals is empathy. It is the most powerful thing humans do. There are ways to help this, but that is a bit deeper and would likely require direct messaging rather than anon. Or if you like I can point you to some resources on it.
Feel free to reach out more if you like. Either way, I wish you all the best.
loosing my shit over certain ones from lis fandom being happy about people who worked on DE getting fired....🤷🏽
so full disclosure, i really hope that square enix/deck nine did away with the nazis that somehow snuck their way into the company and put horrible shit into true colors bc what the actual fuck - i have zero sympathy if they lost their employment and i hope they never get hired again in any game development space.
even though it wasn't the strongest life is strange game (narratively speaking), it's still sad that they lost their employment so close to the holidays. sure, they "broke up pricefield", but that does not mean that their unemployment should be celebrated. these are real people who have families and bills to pay. the industry has something of a significant turnover rate and it's disgusting behavior to cheer about people losing their jobs because "waaah they broke up our pricefield". like, have some goddamn empathy.
the release of double exposure has really brought out the worst in this fandom and i hope it goes away soon (and lets be real - it probably won't)