Aro Pride - Blog Posts

Am I gonna talk about my aroace-ness again? Yes, yes I will

I fucking love being aroace. I may be a teen and others may be falling in love and doing the big sex (I find sex funny cause I don’t get it, but good for them). I am perfectly content with all my friends and I love them to the earth, the moon, the stars, the vast universe, and all the way back again. I love to hear their stories and their perceptions. I could gush over all my friends all day. I’m glad that I don’t have to deal with as much drama due to lack of interest and attraction. Also good for other aros who feel little attraction and good for aros who still want relationships, ya’ll do be swell. That about wraps it up :)

The struggles real, am I right?

Being polyamorous while also being aroace has been the most confusing shit of my life. I just wanna vibe in a polycule and I want to feel cared for. I feel cared for my friends at the moment, so I’m okay now, but it’d be nice in the future, cause I don’t wanna live alone. I really shoulda known I was aro though....like the signs were so obvious...and ace even more obvious. I am glad though that I basically embody chaos at this point.

“if the clootie dumpling gives you a button youre gonna be single forever”

my aroace ass:

Omg I just found out what is happening in the aro community, and I think it's cool!

Who is to decide what makes someone queer? It's none of anyones buisness.

The ace and aro phobia, especially when it comes to cishet people is stupid.

And cishet aro men are super valid!

so what if i just consensually kiss a bunch of my friends to figure out if i'm aromantic?

aros, please let me know if this is a good idea

Who even came up with the stereotype that aromantics are soulless and emotionless? Yes, people are different, and "bad" aromantics exist, but... My girlfriend is aromantic, my friend is aromantic and they are very nice and kind.

(they also say this about asexuals, btw 😭)

happy pride to all my aspecs and arospecs out there

happy pride to asexuals

happy pride to aromantics

happy pride to aplatonics

happy pride to aroaces

happy pride to alloaces

happy pride to alloaros

happy pride to het aces/aros

happy pride to demi romantics/sexuals

happy pride to grey romantics/sexuals

happy pride to ace/arospecs in platonic, romantic, and/or sexual relationships, or relationships that dont fit into any of those categories

happy pride to ace/arospecs who aren't in relationships and never want to be

happy pride to people who use microlables to describe their ace/arospec identity

we are all valid and we belong in this community no matter what anyone says. we deserve pride too.

I saw the tv glow and turned it’s brightness up.

I was happy to see that other people’s tv’s also glowed, but I noticed that my tv was a different shade than theirs. Soon after that, I noticed that my tv was a completely different colour. It was a deep green, turning into white, turning into grey, turning into black.

I turned the brightness of the tv down, but left it just enough to always play in the background, like a little song in the back of my brain that I can’t remember the words of.

I never saw a person whose tv had the same colour as mine and it made me feel like no one would appreciate it. It was quite an interesting colour; I did plenty of research on it, but the people who did have their tv that colour never really got to be a real part of society.

I turned the brightness up again this year—not by a lot, just a bit to make out the colours—and while looking at it, I realised something. If I were to let my tv glow, it would mean never truly feeling a part of this world.

Love was such a big part of a person’s life. So why didn’t I feel any of it? I loved my friends, I loved my family, I loved my pets. Why wasn’t I cable of loving on another level? Why didn’t romance strike me as this beautiful thing rather than this tedious chore? I wanted to rip my heart out—why wasn’t it feeling things like the other hearts felt them? Why didn’t it speed up at the sight of a pretty woman or handsome man? Why did it just pump my blood and not my feelings?

If I were to let my tv glow, it would mean embracing who I truly am. But I don’t know who I truly am. And I haven’t known for a really long time.

do any fellow aros have any song recommendations for becoming great friends with someone who ends up falling in love with you? Happened to me recently and I can only find songs from the perspective of the friend :(

I’m aromantic but I’ve been dating this girl for 2 1/2 years because I didn’t realize that I was aro until after we started dating but I didn’t break up with her after I realized because our relationship was kinda just like a friendship but with extra kissing and being affectionate anyways and we’re both ace so we don’t gotta worry about “that”.

And I’ve asked her if she’s okay with that. If it hurts her feeling when I say I don’t love her the same way she loves me and she’s said it’s cool and she doesn’t care. And the other day in ceramics class we quite literally planned how we were gonna get married.

Like I’m gonne pull up to her house on her 18th birthday, we’re gonne go down to the courthouse and get married+have her name legally changed, and then 3 years later when we’re 21 we’re gonne have a small forest wedding that kinda has a cult vibe, and then a few years later when we have the money we have a more “traditional” wedding with a bunch of differences.

Me and this girl have matching bracelets, we’ve kissed in front of her parents after a concert “for the bit”, she’s let me just kinda chew on her finger for a whole class period because I was bored. She bought me a pink 3D printed sword but it broke in the mail so she gave me a PLASTIC SWITCHBLADE.

All this to say aromantic people can be in loving relationships that work for them and nobody should have a say on if your love is “correct” or not. You’re not any less aromantic for being in relationship. All that matters is that all parties involved care for each other and communicate. If you and somebody vibe and you put the label of dating onto the relationship that’s cool and if you don’t that’s cool to. As long as Yall are happy that’s ok that matters

There no “right way” to love somebody (as long as it’s all legal and consensual) whether the love is romantic or not, the connection, care, and your happiness is all that really matters.

My new design for Elliot <33

Update on my shoes. I got markers so I took the paint that was already chipping off the shoes and I used the markers, I colored the white dashes on the shoes as well as the holes the shoelaces go through, and got new shoe laces.

Since I was feeling bold and creative I painted the shoes more so here we are

I love having flags and labels that are so rarely known that oblivious homophobic people wouldn't even be able to tell that its what that is. I have a plastic egg painted with the aroace flag taht my grandmother (homophobic) has seen and not noticed, same for my qpr painted fake plant pot and power bank. I just got shoes this morning and painted them with the uranic oriented aroace flag and the pangender flag and she had no clue. Lesser known lablels can be an absolute pain sometimes, but they can also be absolutely wonderful. If you want to see the shoes lemme know

(The shoes)

haven’t made anything new in a while but a lot of these little handmade guys are still hanging around my etsy store, all non-fandom related stuff is 20% off for the rest of this month !

valentines day is almost over aros we attack at dawn