Since The Finalists Have Been Announced I Suppose It’s Time For Me To Post My Submission!

I started using Head and Shoulders ten years ago for itchy scalp and dandruff, and then for ten years I have not had itchy scalp and dandruff, so I thought “why do I still buy shampoo to combat itchy scalp and dandruff when I do not have itchy scalp and dandruff,” so I stopped buying the shampoo for itchy scalp and dandruff and can you guess I have now? Can you predict what currently afflicts me? It’s alright if you can’t because apparently I fuckin couldn’t either

theres been 2 times in my life where i lost every friend i had for being sick its ruthless out there

I didn’t get a lot of love growing up. Things got worse the more queer I became.

I love the way our community does found-family. I spent most of my life finding lost queers and helping them. People come and people go but I was always welcoming people into my family. Always giving what I could give. Always sharing what I know. Always sharing connections.

When I got sick everyone left. Everyone left and I am a ghost.

Turns out when you give give give give and give…people are happy to take.

They don’t come back for you when you need it.

They leave when there’s nothing left to take.

you naturally grow out of a lot of unhealthy habits and I think that something that seeing obsessive self improvement culture in the early twenties crowd makes me sad about like. you will start to drink less as your world changes, you will get better at habits as your world stabilizes. your sense of self will solidify as you make mistakes waste time and figure out what works for you and what does not thru your own bodies rejection of it. you’ll be called to sleep earlier and wake sooner and to move your body bc it won’t bounce back with out stretching it out first like there are reasons older people are more regimented bc they don’t need to experiment as much anymore to find out what’s functional. It’s not 1 size fits all

never stop deal with this so this your periodic reminder that

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!! if you see someone write different online. unless they explicitly tell you something different. leave them alone. don’t comment on their write. don’t do anything unprompted to “help” without ask. it rude annoying we heard it million times promise. !!

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some people with language disorders. agrammatism. cognitive struggles. or write with symbol base AAC that not support grammar inflections.

yes we will sometimes write different than you use to.

yes it not “correct grammar,” you so observant (sarcasm).

no it not for fun, no it not choice, no it not writing quirk.

whatever you want say, we probably heard it million times. yes even if it friendly joke - n we appreciate you friendly. but please

great that it “actually help you read/understand better than full grammar.” some people may like you tell them that. but personally not want hear it too - my way write my disability, it about me n it not on purpose it out of my control. would rather you talk about how way break down concept (something can actually control n try really hard at) as easy understand.

“this just gave stroke/seizure/whatever ‘funny’ ‘edgy’ disability” joke. not that anyone make it would listen but. shut up. it not funny to me it not funny to stroke survivors or to seizure havers.

decide stop apologize for exist if it hard read. even if you have receptive language / comprehension / reading / cognitive / etc disability - it unfortunate but conflicting accessibility exist. (yes, do understand actually, because speak from experience.)

if you want know what am say please at least put in some effort to read it.

if after genuine try, still struggle, do what you do when you see tumblr post in “perfect grammar” you don’t understand - polite ask for explain or rephrase or summarize.

it still english, or whatever language person use. unless you actual look for it be turn different language, it still english, no you not need “translate.” (no don’t care that “translate” okay in writing quirk community because again. not writing quirk)

not “fix.”

and. understand sometimes we can’t rephrase in different way, even if that different way include still write different.

personally am allow other people answer “can you rephrase” questions without go through me first, for now, because of this. - but understand this is reluctant compromise. because:

understand sometimes we still sensitive to other people rewrite explain in perfect grammar. because have long history of people refuse put effort in read our stuff but instead always give more attention to people who write perfect, even if their writing not any less complicated than ours. because have long history of be charity case n get unsolicit “help” “translate” when we never ask.

because have long history of be forcibly spoken for n be misunderstood. because people who answer may (& many times do) get it wrong & we then have to spend more effort chase down n correct when we already struggle with communication, n that other version always spread faster than our correction.

so know other people who write different, don’t allow people rephrase at all unless go through them first. please also respect that even if inconvenient.

n on that note.

unless we give you explicit permission to you (like “you specifically can do it” or like above “can do it if someone ask,” or “anyone can do it all times”). don’t. don’t rewrite what we write into correct grammar, into perfect grammar.

don’t give random disabled person unsolicited help. it not friendly it not helpful it rude n annoying. not your charity case. who even are you. no one asked.

none. of. your. business.

not need your fix. get off moral high ground.

n like everything. there some jokes n comments that *some* people who write different may be okay with if they friend with that person make it - sometimes opposite of what this post say. if you not friend with that person then. maybe don’t.

people who write different not all same. sometimes okay or not okay with different things. but. this general see.

the first time you hear about [stuff am tell you in post] probably 456737th time we re-explain it. excuse us for be exhausted n done n our time be tired n angry n impatient.

this been a PSA.

hot take apparently but just because youre disabled doesnt mean you arent ableist. being disabled doesnt erase your internalized (or externalized) ableism.

if youre paralyzed and you think ambulatory wheelchair users are 'less deserving' of a wheelchair, thats ableism.

if you have adhd and you make fun of autistic people, thats ableism.

if you have dyslexia and think dyscalculia and dyspraxia arent "real problems," thats ableism.

if you have any disability and think ableists should be 'punished' for their ableism by becoming disabled themselves. believe it or not that is in fact ableism, because it perpetuates the idea that disability is something shameful or something that only happens to bad people

so i spent a day admitted, the went home after having some relief. then it all came back full force 12 hours later so im back in emergency. lol

on day 5 of a migraine get me out of here

ITCHING to do stuff. ANYTHING lemme cook or clean or write or sew or draw anything please im so bored

guys what wards do young people go to, im always the only young adult in my wards, im clearly missing out on the cool areas 😔😔

IVE BEEN SAYING THIS SINCE I WAS A KID 😭

look accessibility can and will be contradictory

I love a high toilet seat bc it means in don't have to put effort in with my legs, but people doing a chair transfer might hate it

an audio transcript at the end of a video might make it annoying for people using a screen reader

loud music for hoh people might make an event inaccessible for people with noise sensitivity

speaking longly and specifically for people who struggle with tone might make your message for people with cognitive disabilities

and the list goes on

but if you never start making your life and content accessible, then you're not helping anyone either. there's not a golden rule of accessibility but if you don't even put in an effort, that's when you become an asshole