How To Validate Yourself Without Needing Others

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OUTER THIGH

60 DUMBBELL SIDE LUNGES (ALTERNATE)

30 DUMBBELL STANDING OUTER THIGH LIFTS (EACH SIDE)

50 LYING OUTER THIGH LIFTS

50 HALF BRIDGE SIDE ABDUCTIONS

50 WALKING LUNGES

INNER THIGHS

30 INNER-THIGH CRISS CROSSES (ALTERNATING)

15 INNER-THIGH CIRCLES (EACH SIDE)

50 SUMO SQUATS

CALVES

100 CALF RAISE PULSES

100 PLIES CALF RAISE PULSES

100 TOES-IN CALF RAISE PULSES

50-STEP FARMER'S WALK

GLUTES

50 SQUATS

2-MINUTE WALL SIT

50 DONKEY KICKS (EACH SIDE)

50 DONKEY RAISES (EACH SIDE)

30 LEG HALF BRIDGE CIRCLES (EACH LEG)

100 SWIM KICKS

WAIST/OBILQUES

30 SIDE HIP RAISES (EACH SIDE)

100 SIDE HEEL TOUCH CRUNCHES

50 BUTTERFLY TWISTS

200 CRISS-CROSSES

60-SECOND VACUUM

STOMACH/ABS

20 LYING DOUBLE LEG LIFTS

20 REVERSE CRUNCHES

10 SINGLE-LEG BALL ROLLS

12-MINUTE PLANK

10 1-2-3 PULSES

10 DIGS AND DRAGS

ARMS

40 DUMBBELL BICEP CURLS (ALTERNATING)

10 PUSH UPS

10 DIAMOND PUSH UPS

1-MINUTE GOLF BALL ARMS (EACH DIRECTION)

11/2-MINUTE CHEST PRESS PULSE

10 SINGLE-LEG TRICEP DIPS (EACH SIDE)

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The Ultimate It-Girl Guide

to start every new year

grab your fluffy pen and notebook besties. this is our year! claim it! this year and beyond it’s a must that we gain confidence, have goals, ideas, self love and the will to bring our vision boards to life. i put together this guide to help keep myself on the right path and for you all to get inspiration to do the same ఇ

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1 ) Attitude

pretty girl with a pretty attitude to match

making sure we have a positive attitude will always help us succeed in whatever we do. i know things can go wrong and can be discouraging but trying to look on the bright side and being optimistic will make life so much better. if something does go wrong, we have to try not to completely shut down, we should take a moment to process what happened, see if there’s a possible way to fix it, then do so.. and if there’s not we must feel whatever it is we are feeling (whether that’s sad, angry, frustrated etc), then eventually let go of that negative feeling, accept the outcome, then move on gracefully

this also applies to just everyday life situations. we don’t want to be known for having a nasty attitude in general. let’s try to check ourselves in the exact moment we realize that we’re being rude or bitchy. now i’m not saying be fake nice or anything like that because it’s normal to get an attitude at times, i know i do. i just mean we should be more mindful when speaking to others and try to consider their feelings as well

2 & 3 ) Affirmations and Manifestations

Affirming

it’s important to recite positive affirmations to yourself daily, truly believe what you’re saying and watch how beautiful life blooms for you.

some New Year affirmations to get us started

this year will be my best year yet

this year will be very luxurious for me

i am healing from my past

i have the power to create the life i desire

nothing can stop me from living the life of my dreams

this is my glow up year

i choose to love and accept myself unconditionally

i will be gentle and patient with myself this year

i will put in the work to make my vision board come to life

i will do things from here on out that will make my younger self proud and things that my future self will thank me for

Manifesting

bringing my desires to life

make a vision board with everything you desire (it’s not too late) ... it can be tangible : getting supplies you need at the store so you can hang it up in your room, it can be on Pinterest, it can even be in your notes.. however you want to do it, it’s up to you ෆ it’s the intent behind it that matters 🎀

manifest daily or weekly (have a journal and a pen for manifesting only)

Put In The Work : manifesting is all about strongly believing and knowing that you already have what you want but that doesn’t mean you should sit there and do nothing, you also have to have the will to make your visions come to life, work towards your goals and dreams.

4 ) Pretty On The Inside And Out

look good feel good. it’s time to get ourselves together girls, inside and out. no more putting things off, no more being lazy & no more being careless with how we come across and make others feel ♡

this year we are making our health a priority by eating better. let’s consume more fruit, more salads, more water etc .

let’s workout more often - go to the gym, try pilates, try yoga, try zumba etc

you can even romanticize working out so it can be a better experience for you. buy cute workout clothes , pieces that will motivate you to want to workout. buy cute workout necessities .. for example : pink yoga mats , pink water bottle , pink towel , pink dumbbells , pink bag to carry everything , bring your headphones to listen to your favorite music while working out

meditate !! life can be so stressful and it can take a toll on us mentally, physically and have us take our frustration out on others, so my suggestion would be to meditate regularly. meditation is a big part of my daily life. it helps me calm myself and makes me really relaxed. you can do it in silence or with some calming meditation music/sounds (i use meditation music mostly because it helps me concentrate

let’s work on our personalities - being a mean girl is so lame. let’s be more considerate, more generous, more thoughtful, more mindful, more caring, more compassionate. give compliments and give advice with good intentions.

keep our nails and toes done (and when i say done you don’t have to get acrylic & tips if you’re not into that, i mean keep your nails and toes clean & filed)

make healthy hair a priority

make clear skin a priority

dive into your personal style (see #8)

5 ) Journal Prompts

journaling is free therapy !!!

it’s important to start a new day, new week, new month and new year with journal prompts

journal prompts help us sort out how we feel

doing these help guide us on what we need to work on within ourselves and help us remain appreciative by writing down what we are grateful for regularly

each day or each journal entry write down one or three things you’re grateful for

each week write down 3 goals you want to accomplish

you can look up journal prompts on pinterest, make up your own or buy a journal with them already in there (i suggest having one of these because it’s so helpful and easy to get started if you don’t really know how)

journaling is a free form of therapy. i suggest journaling a lot because other than the fact that it’s very healing, some people don’t have others to talk to or they may not feel comfortable being so vulnerable with people, so journaling is a great alternative. it’s like your own personal therapy session 💗

when you’re sad, depressed, anxious, happy, overwhelmed, grateful etc ! writing down how you feel can help so much. even when you don’t know exactly how you’re feeling, just jot down any words that come to mind

here’s some of my Journal Prompts for the new year ↓

6 ) Beauty and BRAINS

learning never gets old. there’s always something new to learn and it’s always good to keep your mind sharp!

read more

listen to podcasts

search and look up things you’re interested in

be thirsty for knowledge even if you’re done with school

teach yourself something new! like a new hobby, sewing to make your own clothes, crocheting, painting, learn to do your own nails, learn to do your own hair .. the possibilities are endless

7 ) Cull Cull Cull

out with the old, in with the new

go through your following lists on all social media and unfollow accounts that’s not good for your mental health, accounts that don’t serve you in any way!

go through your emails and delete junk mail

go through your contact list and delete numbers you never call, block people who are toxic and even change your number if you feel like it will benefit you in the long run

unsubscribe from things that no longer serves purpose

go through your closet and get rid of everything you’re not wearing, everything that’s taking up space .. donate it all!

clean out your vanity/ makeup case! throw out all old makeup, clean your makeup brushes, clean your hair brushes (better yet buy new ones), wash your scrunchies and hair ties

8 ) Style

find your style this year! start buying pieces that you love!

what kind of clothing makes you feel good about yourself?

what are you comfortable wearing?

what makes you feel pretty?

play around with some things until you find what’s right for you <3

buy timeliness pieces

do you like to wear color? neutrals? black and white?

be mindful when shopping

make sure everything you buy is something you love and something you want a part of your dream wardrobe

keep in mind, you do not have to break the bank to get cute outfits! you can thrift, you can go to places like Target, F21, find pieces on depop etc .. so don’t ever feel like you can’t be cute on a budget <3

it’s time to stop living through others and live life ourselves! ♡

you can create a beautiful wardrobe just like your favorite influencer! you can do anything you want to do, start anywhere! even if you’re starting from scratch, one piece will eventually turn into lots of pieces and in no time you will have the closet of your dreams !

extra tips: my post on how to find your aesthetic ↓

9 ) Romanticizing life

it’s up to us to make our lives magical and worth living! romanticizing life is such a good way to do that.

ways to romanticize your life

use your best things! don’t wait for a “special” time to wear your favorite clothes or perfume, make everyday special

buy yourself flowers

take yourself on a date

play dress up with all of your pretty clothes

have tea using fancy teacups / tea kettle

use candles or fairy lights for cozy vibes instead of regular lights around the house

watch the sunrise / sunset

when you wake up comb your hair and put on something cute and comfy even if you are staying home

take yourself shopping and out to lunch regularly

get dolled up just to take pictures

find a spot under a tree and read

make your room your favorite place to be, your sanctuary <3

write love letters

explore a library or museum

take bubble baths regularly with candles, rose petals, crystals and soft music playing

do face masks and mani/pedis on yourself for an at home spa day

go to a coffee shop to journal

one by one replace all of your things until everything you own is pretty and aesthetic .. even little things

example : hair brush, combs, hand mirror, vitamin/pill case, water bottle, cookware, bath towels etc

10 ) Girl Power

there’s so many of us online who have similar tastes in things and seem cool and i’m sure you know someone in real life like this too and i know we can be shy or scared to approach people but we should make it a goal this year to be friendlier to one another

we should step out of our comfort zone and make friends with girls who seem cool to us

we should uplift eachother

we should give credit when credits due

be less messy

leave the drama behind

no more mean girl persona

you never know, you could meet your new best friend sometime this year <3

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PSA: this is a timeless ItGirl Guide! even if you come across this mid 2024 and beyond, it still applies! yes it’s curated for a new year but it’s never too late to learn tips & tricks, it’s never too late to better yourself! this will be an active guide for years to come because i feel like i’m never going to be fully done with this, i’m always thinking of ways to improve, or tips i want to share, so i may add to this later or make this a series ෆ

i hope you all love this ItGirl Guide and can get some inspiration from it ♡ til later dolls, sending love always

xoxo,ℳ

🎀🍓⚞🎀・◦・⚟ YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.🎀🍓⚞🎀・◦・⚟

🍓REALISE THAT LIFE IS A IMAGINATION.

You going to your job. Your job is your bosses imagination. He imagined a company that he wanted to create and then he put it into physical realm. So you are basically working towards your bosses imagination.

Countries are not real. We all collectively imagine a border but it's not real. It's all earth. Everything is earth but we imagine that those countries are separated.

Money is also imagination. It's just a piece of paper. We imagine that the amount of money in our bank is worth that much but it isn't. If tomorrow a big corporation says that the money in your account isn't worth that much or the money isn't in use anymore . It's not.

All this means that we all are living in a imagination. A dream . A game . Matrix. Whatver you want to call it.

We imagine everything we do. We imagine our future and dwell in our past which also doesn't exist. Future and past doesn't exist. Only this moment exists.

🎀REALISE THAT YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR IMAGINATION.

We can create this imagination or dream however we want it to be.

🍓QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

How do I want to create my game , my dream ?

How do I want my imagination to look like ?

Who do I allow into my imaginations ?

How do I behave ? Who am I? What does my character look like ?

🎀BEING A VICTIM MAKES YOU FEEL SAFE

Being a victim is the most comfortable thing because you don't have to do much. Your life is a circle. Everything just keeps moving in the same way , in the same circle. But this is comfortable for you. Why ? Because you know what is going in happen in the circle. You don't have to take risks. You don't have to deal with different people.

🍓CHANGING YOUR LIFE AND STOP BLAMING OTHERS

To take a leap of faith , you need to be brave. It takes guts. Everyone wants to blame everyone . At the end you will be left no one to blame but yourself. Your life is shit because of you. People don't care about your victim mentality. You know when they care ? When you get out of it. When your life becomes a success story. David Goggins is not David Goggins without his success. No one would care if he was the same guy before.

🎀YOUR LIFE WILL ONLY CHANGE IF YOU CHANGE

Everyone moves on and you will be left behind. NO ONE IS GOING TO SAVE YOU. WHY ? BECAUSE NO ONE CAN SAVE YOU. The only person that can save you is you. No one is going to make you change.

🍓GROWTH IS : 2 STEPS FORWARD AND 1 STEP BACK.

Everytime you learn something,it's one step forward because you have more knowledge but if you put it into practice, you will be 1 step back because you are not used to it. You still have to continue. If you feel uncomfortable and give up, you will be right back where you started. Stop abusing yourself by being in the same circle that you don't like. Stop abusing yourself by being the same person that you don't like. Look in the mirror , we don't have anyone to blame. As a victim it's easy to run away and be like " I tried I tried", You didn't try and you didn't try hard enough . Try again . Try again until you get there.

🎀REALISE THAT YOU ARE ADDICTED TO DRAMA.

Alot of people when they come out of abusive household , later they will think that it's too peaceful . They will start to attract people that will give them that toxicity again because this is the only thing they knew. Realize that you are the creator of that drama though. You can choose to have a peaceful life. You can choose to have peaceful people around . If you can't find peaceful people , just be peaceful on your own for a while until you find someone that makes you feel peaceful.

Stop creating drama when it was never meant for you. Stop involving yourself in things that were never meant for you. Stop watching things that are so dramatic.

🍓REALISE THAT YOU HAVE CONTROL.

You have control who comes into your life , you have control about who you date . You have control about what you watch , listen to , what you read. You have control over what you put in your mind. Your mind isn't a dustbin.

If you decide to open the news and it's all negative and now your day is bad. Don't blame the news. Blame your eyes and blame your hands for putting that on.

🎀ASK YOURSELF : WHY DO I ALLOW THESE PEOPLE IN ?

"My friend , partner is toxic". Why don't you start looking at why you allow them in ? Don't you have control over who I allow into my life? Why don't you ask yourself ? What is it in you that you don't feel worthy enough of having people that actually respect me ?

🍓WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO FIX YOUR LIFE ?

What part are you playing in life ? You can cry all day about being overweight or underweight . Are you doing something to fix that or are you just crying all day ? What are you doing to fix your life?

🎀WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING BADLY YOU WILL FIND A WAY

When something wants something badly , they will get it done anyway.

🍓GO FROM COMPLAINING TO GRATITUDE

Turn your mindset around. Set your mind on a plan and focus on it . The more you start going from complaining to gratitude, the more your life will change. If you constantly focus on what isn't there instead of what it is , you create more of that.

🎀REALISE HOW PRIVILEGED YOU ARE

You are privileged and you want to talk about people in North Korea. They won't be able to see liz video or read this post since they don't have access to internet but you do.

🍓WE NEED THE GOOD AND BAD TO KEEP THE WORLD IN BALANCE.

This is how the world works.

🎀PAST AND FUTURE DONT EXIST

Accept your past and start working on yourself. It doesn't exist. You only have now. Don't dwell on the future. What are you doing now ? How you are now will determine your future and not the other way around.

🍓RECOGNISE THE WAYS YOU SABOTAGE YOURSELF.

Everytime something good comes into your life. Do you ruin it ? What in life are you doing that sabotages you ? You have to ask yourself these things.

🎀START TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR BEHAVIOUR

It's not fair what happened to you but whatver I do with it next , it's on you.

🍓TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST IS THE MOST SELFLESS ACT

If you don't take care of yourself , you can't show up as the best mother , daughter, employee or boss. You don't feel good . You are depleted and depressed. If you want to perform the best you want to be for others , then you should think about you first and nurturing you first so you are happy. If you don't feel good in your life , it's okay to take a step back from everyone and focus on nurturing you . Put yourself first . No is coming to take care of you.

🎀YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU DESIRE

You deserve everything you want and you can get once you set your mind to it. Stop taking advice from people that you don't want to share lives with ,these people are miserable themselves.

🍓🎀 ⚞🎀・◦・⚟I LOVE LIZ SO MUCH. 🍓🎀 ⚞🎀・◦・⚟

♡ Black Girl Summer ♡