Do Yo Ever Feel Alone And Like You Always Have To Hide From Friends And Family? Does Your Kink Ever Make

Do yo ever feel alone and like you always have to hide from friends and family? Does your kink ever make you wish you were "normal"? I surely feel these things and I am very sad.

This is a common feeling for a lot of people, so I want you to understand that you're not alone, but also understand that it's not something you should continue allowing yourself to feel! A fetish can be extremely intimate since it's so closely tied to sexuality, personal history, etc. but feeling like you have to hide or be alone because of it is very unhealthy.

I recommend starting by trying to break down the stigma around weight gain and fetishes. EVERYONE has kinks and fetishes and niche interests that they like to keep hidden. And feedism/tummy love is actually a VERY common fetish! Trust me, as a feedism model I can guarantee you that I've gotten way more attention both on/offline as a 300+ lb person than I ever did when I was thin. It's not inherently dirty or wrong to be attracted to fat people or to want to be fat for your own sexual/personal fulfillment.

Try looking into fat politics more! Read up on biases surrounding fatness and weight gain and how that may be impacting your mental wellbeing. Do the work to unlearn what's been pushed onto you and in time you'll start to feel more comfortable speaking outwardly about fatphobia and how being fat/fatness is beautiful. At some point things will start to click for you and you can feel more at ease both with yourself, and with talking to others about your interests! This isn't to say that you should broadcast bluntly your fetishes and what turns you on, but being able to join in on those kinds of conversations when they happen can be really wonderful with building community with your friends!

Again, you are normal. Liking fat bodies (your own or others) is normal. Having fetishes is normal! It's up to you to destigmatize things and unlearn the fatphobia and puritanical ideology that's holding you back from feeling connected to others.

As a fat feedist with friends/family/community that know all about what I do for a living and why I gained so much weight, I promise it's possible to live without shame.