You Have To Be Okay With Being Fat On Your Own.

if you could give only one piece of for beginner feedees, what would it be?

I’m assuming you want one piece of advice! Here’s my response:

You have to be okay with being fat on your own.

I think some feedees get caught up in the fantasy of having a partner that is a feeder that will stay with them forever and never leave them. While that is the case for quite a few people, you still have to keep your relationships grounded in reality. People break up, people die, people move on and grow apart. A feeder is not bound to you just because they helped make you fat. A feedist relationship is still a relationship. That’s why, if you decide to enter a feedist relationship, you need to seriously consider what will happen if your relationship doesnt work out. Will you be okay with being significantly fatter without a partner in the picture? Will you be okay existing as a fat person without the validation of a partner reassuring you how attractive you are? Will your mental health remain stable?

Unfortunately, no matter how hot you think it is, there are real life social/health/political/familial/daily consequences to voluntarily becoming obese and/or gaining significant amounts of weight. You need to be prepared to face those consequences with or without someone at your side.

If you feel unprepared you either need to do some serious self reflection and research, or keep your feedist fantasies as strictly fantasy only.