Tumblr, Pinterest And Spotify Are Portals That Lead Me Further Inside My Own Head, To A World Of My Own

Contrary to popular belief, “hating praise” is not just a PDA thing. There are many reasons it could not sit right with someone.

It’s also assumed that people like this just hate all praise, but that’s not true either. What we hate is feeling manipulated, or lied to, or monitored, etc.

I mean, do you realize how much adults are encouraged to use praise to manipulate kids and people in care?? We’re supposed to use it to get more of the behaviors we like, and to promote a “growth mindset,” and to encourage them to stick with activities we think are good for them, and so on and so on.

That’s so much trying to get people to do what we want them to do! Is it really any wonder that praise could end up feeling disingenuous and manipulative after a while? How often are we just genuinely appreciating something they’ve done or who they are as a person, and how are they to know the difference?

If you have someone in your life who reacts badly when you praise them, maybe take a look at your motivations or the way you’re doing it instead of assuming they are the one with the problem. Maybe there’s something like low self esteem or rejection sensitivity skewing their perception, or maybe their perception is just fine and they’re picking up on your ulterior motives (and they don’t appreciate it!).

And please know that you don’t have to withdraw all praise. Everyone wants to feel like they’re good at *something* and that people like what they do. Just wait until it’s wanted, and make sure it’s genuine, with no expectations attached.

shout out to this one interaction i had with my therapist yesterday

therapist: "the best part of being human is..."

me: *tilts head*

therapist: "...the best part of being somewhat human is..."

He's very pop-culture savvy now.

i am really worried about my younger sibling but the situation is really hopeless. there's no immediate fix, and i have to have faith that they'll be okay in the meantime.

Reblog if I can spam you with boops

rereading homestuck for the first time since i was 16 and now my mental landscape (headspace? idk we just call it da narrative) has changed drastically. i think? actually it feels like it shed some light onto the more obscure corners and returned language to me.

the effects from the epilogues and BC are astounding though.

“Always got each other’s back”

The denial is genuinely going to drive me insane, how do others trust their organically resurfaced memories and not think they’re crazy? Genuinely help

Based on that one jesus meme

i don't smoke for the obvious reasons of not wanting to develop an addiction to nicotine but god do i so often feel the emotion 'i need a cigarette'.