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I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

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Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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[Ninjago] WHATS WRONG BABYGIRL 🥺

EXACTLY like no one in 2021 actually cares about the green ninja drama; making lloyd the green ninja was a fantastic idea why are they still mad 😩

went on ninjago tiktok and like dam just... it’s been ten years and y’all still mad that kai wasn’t the green ninja

YES YES YES

Once you get this you have to say five things you like about yourself, publicly, then send this to ten of your favourite followers SPREAD THE LOVE 🤍

whohoo okay here i go

1. I'm happy with the progress of my art currently :)

2. I like how I've developed as a person and i would like to believe that I've developed and questioned what i know and believe to be a better person overall

3. i like my hair i think it's neat

4. i like how I've become more open to new ideas as time has passed

5. lego people

I think the thing that frustrates me most about the Rebooted love triangle is - besides it being super contrived and cliche - that it didn't have to suck. More specifically, it laid down the foundations for some potentially very interesting character arcs that could have just as easily been achieved without the use of a love triangle. But they added in a bunch of needless romance drama anyway, and all that potential was squandered.

To explain what I mean, let's start by reviewing why most people, myself included, hate the love triangle:

It's contrived, and it felt like it came out of nowhere

Cole didn't even exhibit any interest in Nya until Jay started fighting with him over her, and the attempt to build up chemistry between Cole and Nya felt annoyingly rushed

It led to a lot of unnecessary conflict for conflict's sake and overall felt rather pointless/directionless. It didn't even get resolved until ToE, with the tension between Jay and Nya persisting until well into Skybound

It completely derailed the entire season, which otherwise had a lot of narrative potential. Zane and Pixal's little robotic culture exchange, Kai overcoming his distaste for technology, the curse of the golden master, Lloyd bonding with his father, Garmadon's redemption, Wu turning evil, a robot apocalypse, going to space - Rebooted had a lot of really fun ideas, and could've been a really fun season. But pretty much all of that got eclipsed by the love triangle, and everyone paid the price

That on its own is enough reason to be annoyed with the love triangle, but here's the nail in the coffin: it could have been interesting if it wasn't a love triangle.

That...probably doesn't make much sense. But let me explain.

If we strip away the context of the love triangle and all that three-way romance drama nonsense, what do we have left? Well...

At the beginning of season 3, Jay is clingy and at times seems somewhat codependent on Nya, and Nya is beginning to feel claustrophobic in their relationship as a result. (Nya: "What did we talk about?" Jay: "Right. Boundaries.")

Nya has a hard time opening up to others about her feelings, as she feels that vulnerability will threaten her Strong and Independent persona. She's got a lot of baggage and abandonment issues, and she's not very good with handling her emotions as a result. Hence why she's so prone to anger and lashing out. She finds it easier to explode and be tough than to cry and show weakness. Opening up to others, asking for help, admitting she's not perfect, are all some of her biggest flaws. (Nya: "Oh Jay, this is the reason [...] you're the only one I've ever let into my heart.")

Jay, on the other hand, doesn't have as much baggage, and while he probably didn't have a perfect childhood (he was definitely bullied at lot while growing up), he also doesn't have some horribly tragic backstory like everyone else does. We haven't seen much of his past, but we can draw a reasonable conclusion that it was fairly mild compared to everyone else's. As a result, he doesn't have quite as many hang-ups about self-expression, nor quite as much baggage, so being open and free with his feelings comes more naturally to him. We see this through all of his iconic rants and screams and his generally frantic nature. He's got insecurities, and lots of them, but they don't significantly impact his ability to be emotionally vulnerable in front of others

Practically from the very beginning, one of Jay's primary character traits has been his crush on Nya, and a big chunk of his development hinges on his relationship with her (Jay: "Oh, we're saving a girl? Is she hot? Does she like blue?")

When Nya has to choose between cutting the black and blue wire, what does Jay say? "Choose blue! You know blue! You're comfortable with blue!" From this we can at the very least conclude that Jay's understanding of their relationship is one of stability, comfort, and status quo. Those are good and important things to seek out in a relationship, yes, but not when you become dependent on the other person for them. Which, I feel, is why Jay had become so codependent on Nya by the start of season 3

Nya is a very strong, stubborn person, and Jay deeply admires this part of her. He's constantly singing her praises, and it's good to be proud and affectionate towards the ones you love, and this is one of his most endearing traits, but at times it does often feel like he's putting her up on a bit of a pedestal

Because he so highly values her strength of character, I would argue that his crush on Nya pre-Skybound was in part a coping mechanism. He's had a relatively stable upbringing, thanks to Ed and Edna, so all this fighting and conflict is relatively newer to him than the rest of the ninja. He isn't used to this level of turmoil and unrest like they are. He's struggling to cope. And since he sees her as a source of stability, a source of strength, he begins to rely on her for those things. Hence the uptick in codependent behavior we see from Jay in the beginning of season 3. Of course, that's just my interpretation of it

Really, we could spend all day debating the reasons for Jay's codependence, but the fact remains that it's there either way. And he's never gonna work through it until Nya isn't around for him to cling onto

Cole has a tendency to withdraw and act closed off from others, resulting in a lack of communication that leads to disastrous consequences for his interpersonal relationships. It's something we first see a glimpse of in his relationship with his dad (Jay: "I'm starting to see why Cole is so closed off. It's because Twinkle Toes here couldn't deliver the goods. Is that why you ran away?"), and later when he chose to remain at odds with Jay instead of talking things out (Cole: "We should have been honest with each other instead of bottling this up."). Instead of talking things out, he runs away from his feelings

While it's all well and good that Cole was able to make amends with his dad, there's no evidence that this caused him to stop being so closed off with his emotions. The only way to truly shake Cole out of this habit is to force him to face the consequences of his poor communication. Bottling up his feelings and not talking things out with Jay directly contributed to a conflict between him and his best friend, nearly tearing them apart for good

See? All of that is potentially fascinating character dissection, and yet none of this necessarily has to link back to a love triangle. Not once in that whole rant did I ever mention Jay and Cole fighting over Nya because of some contrived matchmaking thing.

With that in mind, here's what I propose as an alternative:

Nya is feeling claustrophobic in her relationship due to a combination of Jay's clinginess and her own fierce need for independence, so she starts growing distant from him. She sees the first signs of impending vulnerability and begins pushing him away. She's scared of letting him into her heart.

Jay and Cole do end up having some kind of conflict, but it's not over who gets to date Nya. This time it's something completely unrelated to romance and Nya in any way, and being at odds with his best friend puts Jay's whole world off kilter. So he turns to Nya for emotional support - but she doesn't provide it. She's not good with emotions or comfort, and the very thought of experiencing something so raw and vulnerable with Jay is rather unsettling to her. So she doesn't help him, and Jay gets understandably upset. And now Jay feels like both his girlfriend and best friend have turned on him. Since he's still kinda codependent on Nya, still idolizes her as someone amazing and perfect, he probably chooses to blame Cole for her betrayal instead of acknowledging that Nya herself hurt him. And this naturally further fuels the grudge between them until it crescendos into something unbearable.

Then Zane dies, and that bad blood between them reaches its boiling point - which results in their ultimate separation. When they fight in Chen's arena, it isn't over a girl but rather the shambles of their own failed friendship.

Cole faces the fallout of his emotional repression in season 4, and he and Jay have to work as a team to piece themselves back together. And to do that, Cole has to stop being so closed off and actually communicate his feelings instead of running away from them.

And then his ghost arc in season 5 would be about putting that lesson to the test - is he going to internalize and learn from past mistakes, or is he going to repeat history again? Luckily, this time, when he's struggling with his new ghostly form, he doesn't close himself off from everyone and he doesn't run away. He communicates his issues. He talks things out, and as a result he's able to reconcile his new situation much more smoothly. Healing and growth and all that jazz.

Then in seasons 5 and 6, we get some actual character development for Nya and Jay as separate people. Jay has to decouple himself from the notion that Nya is some perfect and amazing goddess from which he can derive stability and comfort, and that she's just as prone to mistakes as he is, and that his own codependence on her led in part to their falling out. Now that he can't cling onto her, he has to seek out newer and healthier coping mechanisms. And Nya also has to accept that she's not perfect, that she can have flaws and be vulnerable, and that it's okay to not be strong and independent all the time. It's okay to be weak.

Jay still sees the future reflection of him and Nya together, still has that resulting character arc in season 6. But now we have the emotional context of Jay's past codependence - so this is less a matter of violating Nya's boundaries because it's destiny, and more a matter of him violating Nya's boundaries because destiny opened up the chance of them getting back together and he took that opportunity to cling to past codependent behaviors again.

He does still have his icky incel-like behavior in Skybound, because as unpleasant as it was i do think it was important for his character to experience that kind of ugliness. But now his motivations are a bit more complex and dare I say interesting.

So when Jay and Nya end up facing off against Nadakhan, we can now shift Nya's willingness to let Jay save her into something that makes a bit more sense. It's not because of some "I'm making a choice and I'm choosing for you to save me" bullcrap, but rather Nya finally letting herself trust someone else and accept that she doesn't have to be a one-man army all the time. It's okay to let other people save you, it's okay to ask for help. So she does. She decides to open up to Jay, to trust him, and trust that he'll save her. She decides to let someone save her for once instead of insisting on doing everything herself.

And in this version of events, Jay's quest to save her and stop the wedding is no longer about just rescuing the woman he loves - it's about being apart from her, it's about seeing that she can be weak and vulnerable and choosing to love her anyway, faults and all. It's about proving to her that her newfound trust in him wasn't misplaced. It's about him becoming a leader, growing a spine, and standing on his own two legs. It's about learning how to cope with all the stresses and traumas of life without needing to unhealthily latch onto another person for stability.

This would pretty easily wipe out all the annoying and vaguely sexist bits of the Skybound romantic subplot too, while we're at it!

See what I mean? The love triangle had all the makings of some interesting character development. But I think they screwed it up by making it an actual, y'know, love triangle. Even though they definitely didn't have to. Look at that, it's not even hard! You can give them all interesting conflict and development without falling into a cliche love triangle. You can actually have your cake and eat it too, folks. It's really easy. It only took me like...a half hour, tops, to come up with all that. Imagine what could be achieved by people who are actually paid to think about this stuff.