Passive Bumper Stickers [collegehumor]

There has to be a better way to deal with my dad's medical bills (he had a stroke) than making phone calls while crying. Phone calls are my only option to explain he is unemployed and disability projected 10+ months to make a decision, but like, I also can't not cry about it?!? Also sucks half the people I need to call are on holiday, but I also work the same days/hours they are open

This is such an accurate description of how I was raised

I know it's useless to ruminate, but I've been thinking about the way I was raised, and the indirect ways I was taught that the rules and standards are different for me and for other people.

I was taught to never judge anyone, but also that I should not embarrass my family by acting or appearing any way that people would judge. I was taught that it was rude of me to talk on and on about things that are boring, but also that it was rude of me to not listen attentively when someone else was talking on and on about things that bore me. That people were allowed to take their anger out on me, but that I was not allowed to be angry at anyone or anything. That everyone's feelings are vaild and their actions are understandable, except for mine of course.

If they ever heard me say this, my family would argue "nobody ever explicitly said that to you, word-for-word, at your face, so therefore none of this is true", but they did, indirectly and inadvertently, teach me that I must always be nice, patient, polite, understanding, and good to people, but that it's preposterous of me to expect anyone else to treat me as nicely as I'm expected to treat them.

I was taught what is, and what is not, the appropriate way to treat other people, and to unconsciously understand that I don't really count as "people".

Some women are conditioned to be fragile and weak, and to believe that it's a sin to outperform a man. Her feminism would involve allowing women to be strong.

Some women are expected to be strong at times when they can't. Her feminism would involve reassuring her that it's okay to not be strong.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're too stupid to ever amount to anything. Their disability activism would involve reassuring them that they're capable.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're smart and gifted, and are expected to live up to impossible standards. Their disability activism would involve allowing them to fail, make mistakes, be stupid, etc.

Some children are constantly reminded "you're the child, I'm the adult" in order to deny their autonomy. Their youth rights activism would involve treating them like an adult at times when they feel ready for it.

Some children are treated like adults in order to justify increased expectations or to downplay abuse against them. Their youth rights activism would involve allowing them to be a child.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to oppression. Each individual person's experience is different. Whatever trauma is caused by their oppression, the activism should focus on undoing it.

POV: your station on the Enterprise bridge is right next to the turbolift.

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Well we did it tumblr, finally an accurate GIF about getting your period

Happy Threshold Day to all who observe!

i miss getting party bags at the end of parties why dont we still do that party bags were the best part of the party

My father hates the idea of accommodating me so much he is willing to risk his own health and safety. I have issues processing audio, so I got him an emergency button that pushes to my phone in case I can't hear him calling for help. He refuses to use it and is livid every time I don't hear him. Find out, I guess.