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Reminder for stealth perisex trans people that saying "I'm cis, I just have low/high T" (and similar phrases) to explain your secondary sex characteristics, like voice pitch, facial hair, breast growth, etc, IS LYING ABOUT BEING INTERSEX.

A cis person with features like what you're implying WOULD BE INTERSEX. An AFAB person with natural male-typical facial hair IS intersex. An AMAB person with natural female-typical breast growth IS intersex. You guys are just lying about having intersex traits in order to pass. Some of you straight up say "oh I have a hormone disorder". You're simultaneously co-opting our cause and furthering our erasure with the portrayal of intersex traits as "cis person with sex disorder", which separates these traits from the word intersex. You're still lying about being intersex even if you never actually say the word intersex.

And it doesn't even help yall avoid transphobia. Intersexism and transphobia go hand & hand. You're still a target.

If you are put in a position where you need to lie, I'd recommend lying about being a detransitioner. That's the only thing I could honestly see working.

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cisgender butch lesbian: i don't care about being misgendered

all the cisgender people in the comments: she understands how she looks. why can't everyone be like that about misgendering?

weird way of telling transgender people to stfu about being misgendered.

like they're just pointing at gnc cisgender people and say "see, this person doesn't mind being misgendered based on looks, those transgendereds are just too sensitive!"

when they know full well misgendering hits different when you're transgender.

especially because she also said "when they see my boobs, they know i'm a woman".

and for transgender people it's often "and when they see [gendered body part] they think they know i'm a man/woman".

those are very different experiences.

especially as a nonbinary person where no one ever genders you correctly.

i've seen more and more cisgender people recently telling transgender and nonbinary people that we're not allowed to get upset when people misgender us if we "look like men/women". i'm tired of it.

stop holding transgender people to cisgender standards down to how we feel about being misgendered.

like, especially for me as a nonbinary person every he and every she just reminds me that the world was never meant for me.

gender stereotypes need to be abolished so people don't get misgendered based on clothes or hair or bodies anymore.

and don't even get me started on "but you look cisgender/like your AGAB". cisgender, transgender, nonbinary, female, male etc. don't have a look. i am nonbinary therefore i look nonbinary.

I’m so sick of transandrophobia & enbyphobia istg.

I’m so sick of trans “advocates” leaving transmascs and nonbinary folks like myself out of conversations.

I’m so sick of us ONLY sometimes being brought up in convos when it’s about getting pregnant/the ability to get pregnant, or only being brought up as a “gotcha” in the bathroom debate. By “gotcha” I mean when people say “well, you don’t want transmascs in the women’s, do you?”

I’m sick of talks about abortion & birth control being solely centered around cisgender women when I’m directly affected, too. I’m sick of them being called “women’s rights” when they’re MY rights, too.

I’m sick of people speaking on my chest size like I can control it & I’m sick of transmasc bodies being mocked and policed.

I’m sick of being the first transmasc/nonbinary person most people have met.

I’m sick of the fear mongering around T.

I’m sick of the side effects of T being mocked or treated as “gross.”

I’m sick of being forced into the binary as a “confused trans man” & being told I don’t understand my own gender.

I’m sick of getting tips to “be more feminine” in my transition.

I love you lezboys. I love you lesbian boyfriends. I love you boydykes and dykefags and butchtwinks. I love you he/him lesbians. I love you butch/stud transbians. I love you femme transmascs. I love you trans women with beards. I love you trans people that don’t have dysphoria and don’t transition physically in any way. I love you lesbians on T. You are not a threat to my queerness. You are not ruining anything for anyone else. You ARE queerness. I love you.

if you are a trans boy, especially a teenage trans boy, i wanted to say that as a trans man in their 30's, you have my deepest respects and condolences for what you may be going through right now.

it has become socially acceptable and basically online custom to bully teenage trans boys & mascs, call them cringy, or excuse misgendering them for whatever reason. people put trans boys on this pedestal of "must perform masculinity and manhood to cartoonish degrees" even though they're still children.

people make trans boys fight for their manhood before they can even be boys. i am sorry people can be so judgmental and harsh on you. you are not wrong for wanting to be a boy. you are experiencing something wonderful. it's okay if you still want to be a boy even if people have treated you poorly, or tried to make you feel bad for being a boy. there is nothing wrong with being a boy.

it's okay if you never socially transition. it's okay if you're afraid to come out because it's not safe. it's okay if you never change your outward appearance. it's okay if you try very hard to pass but struggle to. it's okay if you wear "women's" clothing and shoes, bras, makeup, etc., it's okay if you're gay and love other men. it's okay if you're scared of hrt. it's okay if you don't want surgery. it's okay if you mainly occupy girl's spaces still. people will find every reason to pick these things apart and ridicule trans boys for, but they are all perfectly fine experiences that do not make you any less of a boy. you are the one who is in control of your transition, presentation, and state of being- you should be able to prioritize your safety over the comfort of random strangers who have no impact over how you live your life.

i've been put through this too, but later in life as i came out when i was an adult. people still try to make me feel bad for identifying as a trans man, for whatever reason they have in their head to justify hatred of a trans person. i've had enough. there will never be an excuse for how people try to excuse the infantilization and abuse that trans men and trans boys face.

take care of yourselves, no matter what age you are, if you are a trans boy, man, or masc you deserve to know that other trans men care about you, especially when people are scrambling to find ways to punch down on you. there are people who suck, but there are also a lot of people who care about you. keep your chin up. you know who you are

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Tired of Aphmau having all the men be obsessed with her! Why can't the men be obsessed with other men!

Trans and genderqueer joy forever