Shapeshift!

”trans men are the weakest links of the trans community” my trans male friends and I have lived a lifetime of having our bodily autonomy stripped away to the point of sexual harassment. people talk about our bodies like everyone except us owns them because no one can handle the idea of precious female bodies being “mutilated” by gender affirming care. we are treated like traitors by women and as confused, silly girls by men. we have no spaces in which we belong because even the queer community tries to control our bodies. if we pass as men then we get ousted from queer-friendly spaces, and if we don’t pass as men we’re treated like cringe, theyfab trenders. everything we love is considered annoying. we’re called ugly and sad and “what a shame you guys are men haha”. We have to watch as society uses us as an excuse to ban gender affirming care for young people because our bodies belong to the government, because our bodies belong to our mothers, and because our anatomy is the only thing they see us as. And then we have to sit back as the trans community blames us for these bans. “All of these fake transtrenders are the reason they all hate us” when we’re busy having the women in our lives scrutinise our bodies to make sure we’re not being “infected” by the trans contagion. There’s no space we can belong in. No space that tries to make us feel welcome because either they treat us like women or they treat us like dangerous, cis men.

Every trans man I know has been sexually assaulted. Every trans man I know has been brought to suicide attempts, either due to their families or due to people online bullying them to death. Our struggles are constantly diminished and yet behind the scenes we’re fucking exhausted from fighting attacks from every single goddamn side. How fucking dare you call us weak. We’re going through fucking hell like every other goddamn trans person out there and our bodies are being abused and controlled and scrutinised every day of our fucking lives. Have you seen how TERFs talk about our bodies? How they lament us “mutilating” our breasts, our fertility, our anatomy, all in the name of feminism. That’s sexual fucking harassment, and it’s disgusting. But that’s all they fucking see us as. We’re not human, we’re just defected specimens. Cis women give themselves free passes to harass our bodies because they see us as “one of them”. One of them, but wrong. One of them, but need to be fixed. My mother regularly checks my chest to make sure I’m not trying to flatten it, and she can get away with it because “that’s what mothers do to their daughters.” Even when I’m not her daughter. Even when I’m screaming at the top of my lungs wanting to die because my body doesn’t belong to me. My body stopped belonging to me as soon as I came out as trans, because female empowerment doesn’t apply to me anymore. Female empowerment is now about “correcting” me, to restore my body back to its former glory, because only then was I worth something.

We are not weak. We are strong as fuck for dealing with the shit we have to deal with. And the worst part is, so much of the bullying comes from other trans men. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves so much that the only way to get ahead is to put down our own brothers and treat them in the way we’ve been treated.

There is no weak link of the community because we’re all dealing with absolute shit from all sides, but don’t you ever suggest that trans men are somehow the whiny babies who have nothing to complain about when we’re constantly holding back from screaming our guts out because there’s nothing else we can do.

I learned a lot today from Obviously Queer’s video essay “FEMME: Lesbian History, Identity, Politics and Invisibility” and femmebis’ “The “Lesbian-Only Term” Myth: A Comprehensive Historical Essay on ‘Butch’ and ‘Femme’ ”.

"wait but how can that work ?" instead of asking how their queer identity works, and how can it be valid, maybe ask them their experiences. ask how it feels to themself being a mspec mono, or lesboy, or turigirl, or whatever. instead of getting angry at queer identities which dont fit your standard, just perhaps let it go and ask them as a person what their identity means to them. stop policing identities and open up your mind a little.

"Transmascs can spend a lot of time in lesbian spaces pre-transition, and thus when they do transition some may not want to leave that community and shouldn't have to," AND "Transfems can be lesbians no matter what," are two statements that can and HAVE TO coexist.

These sentiments are not opposites. One does not cancel out the other. Transmascs aren't inherently more included in lesbianism because of their "female" experience, AND transfems have always had a place in the lesbian community and always will.

I understand there are some transphobes out there who view transmascs as "female" and thus they can be lesbians, while "male" transfems can't be, but; a transmasc still identifying with lesbianism, or hell even their AGAB, will NEVER inherently cancel out the transfem lesbian experience.

And for fuck's sake, stop pitting us up against eachother. WE ARE NOT OPPOSITES.

Goth genre stamps. Show off your favorite goth genres with these stamps + can be an aesthetic stamp since i put some fancy pixel graphics

Ethereal and coldwave was difficult to me to think what i associate of, so i just slap some pixel "waves" or some abstract but ethereal background. Coldwave is just black and white since most of coldwave albums i see is minimal.

Goth genres:

Gothic Post punk (i.e. The Cure, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Bauhaus, Joy Division)

Anarcho-Goth - not really a genre but there are actually goth bands that also have anarchist tendencies (like Anarcho-Punk but well.. goth). Anarcho goth usually have a deathrock sound (especially with modern deathrock bands). Examples: Horror Vacui, Rudimentary Peni, Christ vs Warhol

Goth rock (i.e. Sisters of Mercy, Fields of the Nephelim, The Merry Thoughts)

Coldwave (i.e. Molchat Doma, Opera de Nuit, Asylum Party)

Darkwave (i.e. Clan of Xymox, London After Midnight, Switchblade Symphony, Twin Tribes, She Past Away)

Deathrock (i.e. Christian Death, 45 Grave, Scarlet's Remains, Nox Novacula). Modern deathrock bands may also call themselves "dark punk"

Ethereal Wave (i.e. Dead Can Dance, This Mortal Coil, Cocteau Twins)

feel free to use it to your personal page, carrd, neocities, strawpage, toyhouse, sheezy, deviantart, etc. No need to credit when using the stamps (like putting html embeds and stuff) but linking any of my pages is appreciated when reposted, reblog, or reupload on different places.

The way some people don't even TRY to think about sexualities or genders more deeper then just "cis and trans people" is insane like they'll only think about binary trans women and men and binary women and men but like y'know what type of binary I mean, right? Everyone completely forgets multigender people exist or abrosexual/fluid sexuality, nonbinary people in general and it pisses me off! Some people will even act like they support multigender people and nonbinary people, maybe also abrosexual people and try to be "inclusive" but when there's a complex identity, they think like a caveman!

"women are non men and never men! And men? Same thing! Nonbinary people? Don't exist right now cause I'm caveman brain right now, and cis? Nope no one else can be cis except 100% binary cishet people and multigender? What's that?? And identifying with your gender at birth? Only cis people do that! And cis people can't EVER be trans!" LIKE OMG SHUT UP!

like I swear someone on fuckin TikTok or Pinterest could hear something like...I don't know a flag for people who identify with their gender at birth but are also trans and immediately forget nonbinary people and multigender people exist!!

it is so disappointing the amount of queer people, especially those i know irl, who claim they are the biggest advocate for other queer folks in the community and yet "agree to disagree" with me when i talk about my experience as an mspec lesboy. do you know how rich the history is of trans men and multigender folks in the lesbian community? do not create an entirely new binary in a space where there was not supposed to be one. queer spaces have already collectively agreed enough that gender is extremely flexible and its easy to blur the lines of. can we please do the same with sexuality? they interconnect and intertwine so constantly, there are infinite experiences one may have in any community or any label they feel best fits them. fuck you if you dont let people be who they are. "it's transphobic and lesbianphobic!" no, it isn't. what's really transphobic and lesbianphobic is the shit that you just pulled out of your ass about some "non men loving non men". anyway happy masc lesbian week fuck yeah we love you lesboys ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

i do love that you can name pets pretty much anything. with children you have to be reasonable but with pets you can just do anything. you can name your tortoise panopticon

Folk punk fans r the most annoying to make fun of ur like folk punk is genuinely bad music they're like lol yeah totally i love my tuneless dogshit music