About Me

I agree with the labels not being contradictory towards whatever orientation you may be yet I have to add

heteromantics are queer and thus LGBTQ+.

You don't have to like the same gender to be queer you just don't follow amatonormativity and/or heteronormativity. Let me add, this is typically not by choice like how asexuals and aromantics don't have a choice in not feeling attraction.

They have a different experience than that of heterosexuals. You may not notice, as I am going to assume that you are an allosexual/romantic by your word choice, but this world is heavily sex and romance crazed.

I am an aroace demiboy and you won't believe how hard it is to live in a society like this. We do face oppression like you as well, I'm not going to argue which is worse homophobia or aphobia because oppression isn't a contest but we do have to face discrimination as well.

Not just corrective rape and conversion 'therapy', but some doctors even put ace patients off of meds if found to lower their libido. There is nothing wrong with feeling no sexual and/or romantic attraction yet we feel broken for years. When we hear the terms asexual or aromantic we realize there is nothing wrong with us afterall.

You have to remember that this community was made to protect everyone thrown out by the amato/heteronormative society. Asexuals and aromantics experience oppression and need support just like everyone else in the LGBT+ community. Instead of infighting and saying who gets to be allowed in or not lets actually fight discrimination.

Asexuals and Aromantics are an important part of the community.

Is this person trying to say that being ace or aro makes you less of your sexual orientation…? This is just,,, so silly. A gay ace or a gay aro isn’t “basically” gay, they are gay.

Being gay doesn’t make you any less ace and being ace doesn’t make you any less gay. They aren’t contradictory! Same goes for every other sexual orientation and with being aro

~Mod Pluto

Why are we trying to please our oppressors anyways?

Lemme tell you, if they find it weird someone is using neopronouns/going by a MOGAI gender and 'out of the blue' say they don't support trans rights anymore:

They were already transphobic they just wanted to find a reason to hate the community.

Hot take: There’s no such thing as “transtrenders”. They’re just young people, often teenagers, who are just trying to figure out their gender identity and become comfortable in themselves. Bullying them does no-one a favor. Fellow trans people are not what’s holding you back from becoming “acceptable” in a cis-dominant society, transphobes are.

Just because someone's Autistic DOES NOT make their Sexual/Gender identity any less valid!

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Quickie on why people with “weird” genders tend to be mentally ill! I know the question is asked to be rude most of the time, but I felt compelled to make this anyway :3

Here is your source.

Is this person trying to say that being ace or aro makes you less of your sexual orientation…? This is just,,, so silly. A gay ace or a gay aro isn’t “basically” gay, they are gay.

Being gay doesn’t make you any less ace and being ace doesn’t make you any less gay. They aren’t contradictory! Same goes for every other sexual orientation and with being aro

~Mod Pluto

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nonbinary people who change their name are great!

nonbinary people who go by the name given to them at birth are amazing!

nonbinary people with gender neutral names are marvelous!

nonbinary people with traditionally masc/fem names are excellent!

nonbinary people with object names are cool!

💛🤍💜🖤 all the names nonbinary people go by are good and valid!! 💛🤍💜🖤

me when trumeds blame The Trenders tm every time cis people do something bigoted

Demigirl

so this is more for myself-

i'm curious to see how much my gender changes (I'm genderfluid) and what it changes to so I'll probably repeatedly reblog this with my gender shshhs

[ tw for this post, it mentions sex/sex-repulsion a few times (just the word, nothing else) and i get heated/angry talking about it. this isn’t directed at anyone, i’m just pissed off about acephobia. ]

I think a lot of people get hung up on some ace people not liking sex or thinking it’s gross/repulsive on a personal level. Even in 2020. And I’m getting sick of it.

Even other aspec people I’ve spoken to have legitimately gotten pissed off at ace people who are averse to it. I feel like a lot of y’all only accept ace people if it’s the ones who are just as okay with sex/sexual topics/etc. as you are, and I can and WILL call you out on it when it happens. Sex-averse ace people deserve just as much goddamn respect as any other ace person.

There is a BIG difference between being sex negative and sex averse/repulsed. I’m personally very sex-averse, but you don’t see me stopping anyone else? Ace people do not walk around and claim that sex is objectively bad, and if you genuinely think we do this shit on a massive scale then you might want to try actually talking to an ace person and not exclusionists a few times in your life.

If us asking for you to, I dunno, talk about it somewhere else where it won’t make us uncomfortable, spoiler it, or maybe just tone it down a little bit, feels like being “sex negative” to you, then I genuinely worry how you treat other people and topics that make them uncomfortable. Y’all respect people’s discomfort and squicks until that person is ace and it shows.

Oh and if you try and tell me this isn’t an issue, that nobody is actually doing this, I will personally put crabs in your pillows. This shit is so constant I have the (dis)pleasure of seeing it in spaces I am apparently supposed to be welcomed in. My discomfort is not respected even in spaces that I’ve made myself. I’m laughed at and not taken seriously and viewed as childish/naive for not liking or understanding extremely sexual conversations/jokes even in my own friend-groups, and even around other aspec people, and even after I ask people to stop multiple times. Do not tell me what I, a sex-repulsed ace person, “actually” experience.

We’re allowed to joke about it being weird and not something we like. We Are Allowed To Not Like Sex, Guys.

Please reblog if you think that “they/them/theirs” is a valid set of pronouns.