gotta highlight the ones that infuriate me the most from what i’ve seen:
remaining ignorant about bi discourse
only speaking on biphobia when bi people use terms or speak in ways you don’t like
if you are unaware of bi discourse you are biphobic
if you are unaware of the major ways the media and certain prominent gay creators and activists are biphobic you are biphobic
biphobia isn’t just really overt stereotypes and hatred like “bis need to pick a side” ‘bisexuality isn’t real" “bi women are disgusting because they’ve slept with men” “i’d never date a bi person”
it’s also remaining silent about bi issues
remaining ignorant about bi discourse
remaining silent when biphobia happens
speaking in ways that indirectly erase bi people
speaking in ways that imply bi people are more privileged or powerful than gay people
remaining silent when bi erasure and biphobia happens in the media
only speaking on biphobia when bi people use terms or speak in ways you don’t like
speaking with authority on biphobia when you are not bi
denying the importance of bi spaces and bi community
remaining silent on the higher levels of substance abuse, unemployment, mental disability, abuse and sexual assault of bi people, esp bi women
ignoring the unique aspects of the bi experience
etc
if you have never blogged/reblogged about biphobia except to call out bi people you are biphobic
if you have never spoken about biphobia other than to critique bi people’s discourse you are biphobic
if you are unaware of bi discourse you are biphobic
if you think bi people’s experiences are not unique or important you are biphobic
if you are unaware of the major ways the media and certain prominent gay creators and activists are biphobic you are biphobic
if you ignore the ways in which gay people have shut bi people out of their communities and erased bi people and undermined bi solidarity you are biphobic
and even if you are multisexual and you do these things; it can be internalized: you still are biphobic
it’s not always about what you do, it’s also about what you don’t do
bi people have suffered and died due to biphobia in the gay community and you don’t care
that makes you biphobic
i feel like i never really see affirmation anymore for bisexuals who don’t have a preference, for bisexuals whose fluidity is constantly changing, for bisexuals who simply do not want or care about categorizing their attraction to every gender. as a bisexual i hate getting asked “what do you prefer?” because it forces me to simplify my complex relationship with my sexuality. it’s also a biphobe’s insidious way of asking “so are you actually straight or actually gay?” people can also use whatever label they identify with, but when you try to push the “bi means gender plays a factor into your attraction/you have a preference” definition, you are a part of the problem. you’re making people who identify as bi hyperanalyze their own sexuality. bisexuals do not need to think about who they prefer. i’m just tired of seeing every single post on social media about bi people being in relationship to preferences.
preferences are just not something i think about. i know i love everyone and that’s all i need to know. and i want this to be affirmation to anyone who is bisexual. you are not some meter in a scale. you don’t have to make a bar graph to explain your attraction to different genders. you can love everyone point blank full stop. your experiences will always be more important than having to define yourself. just live your bisexual life and keep being perfect 💗💜💙
Bi women aren’t secretly straight. Bi men aren’t secretly gay.
People who get really bothered by the fact that bisexual women like men are so funny to me . “Bisexual women be like I am into a man 😂” yes that is something that often happens when a person is bisexual
10k likes is crazy … well someone call dykes on bikes and the dyke march and the dyke alliance and
Controversal opinion, I don't think it's really ever appropriate for people to theorize about groups they're not apart of.
That's how you get things like "non binary people aren't oppressed" and "trans men are exactly like cis men in every way and therefore have male privilege" and "asexuals aren't LGBT" and "bisexuals have straight privilege" like maybe like, include the group you're theorizing about to talk about their experiences because it always ends up exclusionary otherwise.
middle right is genuinely gorgeous omg that’s so pretty!
Note: this is not identifying as bisexual and straight or saying that bisexuals are het >:( this is just taking back an insult used against bi sapphics under the guise that we aren’t “queer enough” 🩷🖤🤍💙
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