I Mod For Two Different Aro/ace Blogs And I’ve Seen So Many Asks From Aspec People Who Are In Some

I mod for two different aro/ace blogs and I’ve seen so many asks from aspec people who are in some deeply unhealthy friendships at this point that I think it’s really time to make a post about it.

Your friends should not mock or belittle your sexual and/or romantic orientations. Your identity is an important part of who you are and an actual friend would know that. People who mock your identity aren’t your friends, they’re bullies. 

Your friends should recognize and respect your boundaries. You’re touch averse and your friends keep touching you even though you’ve asked them not to on multiple occasions? Sex jokes make you uncomfortable and you’ve asked your friends to not make them around you, but they refuse to? You’re romance repulsed and have explained to your friend that hearing about their relationships all the time is bad for your mental health but they still won’t stop? Then those people aren’t respecting your boundaries and you either need to have a serious talk with them until they figure it out or you need to stop being their friend.

This can be hard to hear but it needs to be said. Don’t let your friends mistreat you just because you’re aspec. You deserve so much better and I promise there are better people out there.