Idk If This Applies To Neurotypicals As Well Or Even Other Autistics But I Think I Figured Out Why I

Idk if this applies to neurotypicals as well or even other autistics but I think I figured out why I hate talking on the phone:

I can’t multitask and am understimulated.

An in-person conversation demands you pay attention to where someone is in the room, their expressions and body language, even if you’re distracted while talking to them *your* body language can make it clear that you’re still listening.

Text, on the other hand, does not need an immediate real-time response so I can be doing 3 different things and not have to worry about mishearing or not hearing something someone says because it’s in text right there.

But a phone conversation? I have no one to look at and have no expressions and body language to rely on for the “I’m listening I promise” cues, and I can’t see what they’re saying so it’s really easy to miss words unless I’m solely focused on the phone conversation. Which means I can’t do anything else that requires split focus and have to stop everything else that I’m doing to devote entirely to this call.

Text has its own problems lacking tone and inflection, but in terms of “why I hate phone calls” this awkward middle ground of focus is like an itch I can’t scratch.

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• Those emotional scenes you’ve planned will never be as good on page as they are in your head. To YOU. Your audience, however, is eating it up. Just because you can’t articulate the emotion of a scene to your satisfaction doesn’t mean it’s not impacting the reader. 

• Sometimes a sentence, a paragraph, or even a whole scene will not be salvagable. Either it wasn’t necessary to the story to begin with, or you can put it to the side and re-write it later, but for now it’s gotta go. It doesn’t make you a bad writer to have to trim, it makes you a good writer to know to trim.

• There are several stories just like yours. And that’s okay, there’s no story in existence of completely original concepts. What makes your story “original” is that it’s yours. No one else can write your story the way you can.

• You have writing weaknesses. Everyone does. But don’t accept your writing weaknesses as unchanging facts about yourself. Don’t be content with being crap at description, dialogue, world building, etc. Writers that are comfortable being crap at things won’t improve, and that’s not you. It’s going to burn, but work that muscle. I promise you’ll like the outcome.


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how to explain to mutuals that while yes you can have my discord, and i wanna hang out! my response time is anywhere between 3-7 business days

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[They/Them, They/It, It/Its]Gamer, writer, musician, artist.Sometimes I draw, sometimes I don't.Multifandom blog and sometimes other stuff.I was the editor of Broken and Healed on Ao3I have no idea what I'm doing, ever.Basic DNI. No DMs if I don't know you IRL, but asks are fine.

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