Me: Hey So Uhhhh If Being A Woman Must Be Experienced One Certain Way Then How Do You Factor In Women

Hey, here’s a concept. What if we stopped saying “but autistic people CAN do all those things” (erasing high support needs) and instead started saying “not being able to do those things doesn’t impact someone’s value as a person nor does it make it okay to commit eugenics”.

we did NOT have a period of discourse about how 'if trans women don't pass as women, but they do pass as men, they don't pass as men - they pass as 'queer' or 'other'' for yous to fucking go 'if trans men don't pass as men, which they're privileged for if they do, then they pass 100% as cis women, which they're privileged for when they do'

like SHUT UPPPPPPP I DID NOT PASS AS A CIS WOMAN EVERYONE THOUGHT I WAS A DYKE/TRANNY/QUEER. I NEVER PASSED AS 'WOMAN' I PASSED AS 'FREAK OF NATURE'. I WAS BARELY TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING LET ALONE A WOMAN

Fuck it -- God bless the rural queers. God bless every dyke, faggot and tranny who lives in a town with less than 10k. God bless every queer living in red towns in red counties, in blue states or red states alike. God bless every queer who's also a redneck, who knows how to hunt and fish. God bless every queer living in a town where every other house is condemned. Where half the storefronts are empty.

God bless rural queers.

i've been on this site for 10 fucking years and the fact that black people and trans women are systematically chased out and have been chased out one by one from this website is really fucking gross. I hate this website. Racist fucking website.

Friendly reminder that sex negativity and queer liberation can never coexist. Friendly reminder that 'kink critical' rhetoric and queer liberation can never coexist. Friendly reminder that pro-censorship ideology and queer liberation can never coexist. Friendly reminder that "men are inherently evil" and other forms of essentialist radfem rhetoric can never coexist.

you don't "hate kids," you hate being forced into a caretaking role.

you don't "hate kids," you hate censorship passed off as family values.

you don't "hate kids," you hate the constrictiveness of the nuclear family.

you don't "hate kids," you're just not used to occupying fully age diverse spaces so you're not used to the noise or the many different kinds of needs.

you don't "hate kids," most public spaces just aren't built for kids, and so the few kids you see are always uncomfortable and distressed.

you don't "hate kids," you hate the intense social rules assigned to kids and anyone who interacts with kids.

You don't "hate kids," you hate how society reproduces its most restrictive elements and how kids are powerless to resist it.

Okay, this is a very nuanced thing to say and I want people to understand that. But it is actually a fairly common afab experience to hate your breasts when you’re growing up, even for cis women. It can be hard to distinguish dysphoria from the upsetting experiences afab kids have during puberty. Growing breasts can be really upsetting, because now you have to change how you dress, people will look at you, and for too many people you will now be seen as a sexual object and that’s terrifying. It’s extremely common for kids who “develop early” or happen to grow larger than their peers to experience sexual harassment from adults, even though they are children. And this trauma or bad experiences becomes emotionally tied to the breasts. I know a lot of people who binded and thought they were trans/nonbinary and ended up as cis women. But I also know people who were out as trans and nonbinary in high school and still are! A lot of trans men, trans mascs, nonbinary people, and cis women can relate to the experience of having really deep discomfort surrounding their chest, but at the core the reason for their discomfort is different. Gender dysphoria vs body dysmorphia, those two are very similar and can be hard to distinguish, let alone when someone experiences both of them.

people often talk about "transfem hypervisibility and transmasc erasure" as if these are some equal but opposite forces, but this doesn't account for how transfem hypervisibility is a form of erasure all of its own.

when news panels have debates on trans women's inclusion in sports or bathrooms or society as a whole with no trans women present, that is erasure.

when cis men are hired to play trans women, that is erasure.

when every "family friendly" movie or sitcom you watch growing up has a hateful joke at trans women's expense, from Friends to fucking Shrek, that is erasure.

when the trans panel or trans anthology doesnt feature a single trans woman, that is erasure.

when people justify our exclusion because "trans women are already talked about enough, when is it our turn?" that is erasure.

erasure is not only "not being talked about." erasure is also being talked over, excluded from discussions about your own lived experience. when you meet someone who has never heard of someome like you, you get to introduce yourself, you have influence over how they see people like you. when you meet someone who has heard all about you, but never from anyone like you, when they only know you from mean spirited jokes, from porn, from politicians calling you a pedophile, well, the trans violence statistics speak for themselves.

what ppl defending kids on ipads don’t seem to understand is that there are other ways to keep kids occupied. my mom had a whole bag full of little toys and games for me to play with while waiting in lines at disney world. once your kid is like 7 or 8 they can read a book. they can color. or they can literally just sit there and imagine things. i did that a lot as a kid.