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Something interesting I'm noticing that has been happening with me in social situations for the longest time is that when I ask clarifying questions (bc autism) I don't get met with frustration as much as I do belittling (? Not sure if it's the right word. It certainly feels demeaning).

And specifically the word:

Overthinking

For example:

"Can you please elaborate on _? I don't think I get it."

"Don't overthink it, it's a simple task 🥰 it's not hard !"

"Oh you're just a worrier aren't you! 🥰"

"There's no need to worry you know! 😊 You'll be fine."

"You're overthinking it, just give it a go 😊"

"How about we just try it first and then see how you get on 🥰"

And I get it. I do happen to be a person who can fall into traps of overthinking. But asking clarifying questions is not an example of that!

When I'm overthinking something, I'm rarely ever asking questions on how to DO something. It's likely something that's been upsetting me that I'll overthink, not a task that has been puzzling me. I enjoy challenges. I know I'm quite smart. Assuming every single clarifying question I have must be me overthinking feels very.. icky. Idk. It feels like you assume I am asking out of some need to be quirky and different. Almost like you think it's cute that I'm confused? Like I'm not trying to be cute I'm trying to do the fucking task you set out for me????

It makes me feel uncomfortable and I am always very very bluntly clear that I am not overthinking and I don't like being told that. It feels almost like an insult to my intelligence.

Am I right in thinking this is some covert thing allistics do to autistic people?? Knowing my track record with gut feelings I am right.

9x out of 10, the thing I want clarity on is something poorly phrased. So yes it is likely a very simple task, but it looks like this to me:

Task, simplified = water the flowers

How it's actually phrased:

"Take the device most known for feeding plant life, use accordingly and with precision."

My clarifying questions:

"How am I supposed to know what the 'device' is in this scenario when you can use many things to 'feed' plants..? What are the plants in this scenario? Does it matter? What do you mean 'with precision'??"

The answer I get:

"You're overthinking it 🥰 just give it a try!"

What they actually meant to tell me:

"Water the flowers, try not to be too messy with the watering can."

And then the way I learn that that is what they actually meant is solely through error, like I would water the flowers but I wouldn't do it in a tidy manner so I'd get yelled at. Or, I would Google "device most well known for feeding plants" it would bring up feeding pellets and I'd use those and get yelled at!!!

How am I overthinking something by asking clarifying questions!!!!

It genuinely feels like that word has become so watered down that it's just being used to describe anyone who actually thinks past one thought per task???????

Stop assuming everyone can understand what you're telling them straight away.

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🌌 You Are a Constellation, Not a Single Star: A Love Note to Systems Navigating DID 🌙

Hey, brave soul. 🌟 Take a breath. Let it linger in your lungs for a moment—you’re here, you’re real, and every part of you deserves to be seen. If dissociative identity disorder (DID) has made your mind feel like a galaxy of selves, each with their own stories and storms—you are not a puzzle to solve. You’re a constellation, complex and whole, learning how to shine together.

DID isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival story. Your brain didn’t break; it adapted to protect you. Those fragmented pieces, the alters, the gaps in memory—they’re proof of your resilience. Healing isn’t about erasing parts of yourself. It’s about listening to their whispers and weaving a tapestry of understanding.

✨ Your Permission Slip:

Honor every part of your system, even the ones that feel messy or scared.

Rest when the world feels too loud or too heavy.

Curate safety at your own pace—boundaries are love letters to yourself.

Celebrate the small bridges you build between selves.

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🌿 You Are More Than Your Survival: Some days, DID will feel like navigating a labyrinth. Other days, you’ll find pockets of peace where your system hums in harmony. Both are part of the dance.

Tag a system who needs this reminder 💞

Posting this iconic piece of media that I just NEVER found online isolated except in an archived reddit thread

Could you (those with systems) explain systems to me?

I come across adhd and autism posts everyday and interact freely with them, I also come across systems or system related posts and I avoid interacting with those, not because I don't like them but I fear I will say smth wrong by not understanding them and I don't that I'm avoiding it.

So if you are a system, could you please explain to me about what it is, what it's like and if there's smth you'd like me to know when I'm interacting with either you or other systems? <3

Also if I have said smth that's offending or badly worded, please tell me, I will apologise and fix it as soon as I can! <3

Harrison Wood Hsiang

"Aro/Ace person gets given a love potion" story but instead of them being immune or whatever, it DOES work, and they realize IMMEDIATELY that they've been fed a love potion because this feeling is so wrong and foreign but everyone keeps laughing off the idea of it being a love potion because "they were probably just a late bloomer" or "no, you just finally found the right person!" and it's just a horror story about how no one believes them even though they know, they KNOW this isn't right and they can't stand it.