Why Do People And Be That I Mean Guys Prefer A Prettier Face Than A Good Nature??

don’t be embarrassed that little joys take up a lot of space in your heart. sometimes they’re the most important things there are in your life, and deserve your attention

“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

Don’t hold the younger you to the standards you hold yourself to today. You didn’t know as much. You were in a different headspace, with different things affecting and scaring you, facing challenges that seemed big at the time. Maybe you were even lonelier. What’s important is that you know better now, and you know more now. That’s something to move forward with, not something to curse the past with.

reminder that anger isn't a bad emotion!! in fact, no emotions are inherently bad. your anger is usually trying to protect you. it's a part of you that wants you to be treated right. of course you should always consider your actions, and you may feel angry at someone that hasn't actually done anything wrong in which case you shouldn't lash out at them, but you're still allowed to feel angry. listen to your anger, sit with it, hear it out. maybe it's not always reasonable but that's not it's job. you're allowed to be angry.

existentialism

it is believed that what you think or feel or believe has no impact or any meaning because in order to show who you are you need to act. Well, you don’t always act on just anything. you act on what you believe, your morals, who you think you are, etc. This makes me think about the quote “Life is what you make it”

Our minds are naturally really good at envisioning worst case scenarios and worrying about problems before they’ve ever happened. And since it comes from your own head, of course it’ll feel like truth. But the actual probability of something going exactly the way you think it will is very low. Next time you keep yourself awake with nightmares conjured up by your fear, try to think of it like this, “I cannot predict the future, much less in the state I’m in right now,” and trust that the reality of things will be much more indifferent (and maybe even much kinder) to you than you are to yourself.

“You don’t want to wake the dragon, do you?” // Don’t make me angry…

“The frightened child who sheltered in my manse died on the Dothraki sea…” // That frightened little girl died in Ann Arbor, MI; in Washington, DC; in Oxford, England.

“I must be strong. I must have fire in my eyes when I face them, not tears.” // Don’t let them see, don’t let them know how much they hurt you. Stop wasting your emotional energy on people who don’t care about you. Attorneys don’t cry, they get revenge.

“Why do the gods make kings and queens, if not to protect the ones who can’t protect themselves?” // Why did I become an attorney, if not to fight to make the world better for those who can’t?

“If I look back I am lost.” // Why I am I still waiting for apologies I know I’ll never get?

“She is the queen we chose.” // All I’ve ever wanted in my life is to be someone’s first choice. For once in my life, not to be an afterthought. To be the best friend, not just a friend. The one who’s always there, no matter what, swallowing her pride and her hurt, finally invited instead of just included. The one who’s always checking in on others, finally having someone check in on her. The one who’s always telling people she loves them, finally being told she’s loved too.

Relationships are not a game. Quit the “well they didn’t answer my text for two hours yesterday so now I’m gonna wait two hours to answers theirs.” Quit the “I’m not gonna tell them that I’m upset cause if they really care they’ll notice and if they don’t notice they don’t really care.” Quit the “I’m not gonna text first cause it’s their turn.” Quit all of that. If you want to talk to them, talk to them. If you want to see them, ask them if they want to hang out. If you care about them, let them know. If you have something to say, say it. Stop playing all those silly mind games. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.

Don’t hold the younger you to the standards you hold yourself to today. You didn’t know as much. You were in a different headspace, with different things affecting and scaring you, facing challenges that seemed big at the time. Maybe you were even lonelier. What’s important is that you know better now, and you know more now. That’s something to move forward with, not something to curse the past with.

It is okay to completely change your beliefs, ideas, intentions, boundaries, expectations and desires. You are a dynamic being. You are “supposed” to explore more and change. Change is a core part of your expansion.