the idea that all coping mechanisms are valid and completely immune to criticism is honestly one of the worst things on nd/mentally ill tumblr.
just because you’re doing something to cope doesn’t mean it’s not hurting you, or that it isn’t hurting others.
sometimes, coping mechanisms hurt other people, like compulsive lying or constantly expecting your partner to give you reassurance every second of the day. sometimes, your coping mechanisms harm your recovery even though they feel good at the time. sometimes, your coping mechanisms just further entrench you in whatever you’re struggling with.
stop defending unhealthy behavior with the justification of “oh it’s just me coping”. you’re not permanently chained to whatever harmful bullshit you do.
“just because you took longer than others, doesn’t mean you failed.”
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if you need me i’ll be in the forest, searching for portals to another dimension,
“One day it just clicks… You realise what is important and what isn’t, you learn to care less about what other people think of you and care more about what you think of yourself. You realise how far you have come and you remember thinking that things were such a mess they’d never recover and then you smile. You smile because you’re truly proud of the person you have fought to become.”
— Unknown
I hate leftist infighting so much. We could be exploring each others bodies instead 🙄
who cares if your interests are basic? if it brings you joy then don’t let anyone shame you just because it’s not a “unique” interest. do what makes you happy.
You can read the rest of the thread here. Plus here's the 84 page document submitted by South Africa
If you’re in that place in your life where you’re trying to please everyone and feeling so bad about yourself because you’re not meeting other people’s expectations: I see you, and I love you.
It’s okay to not fit in! It’s okay to not please others. I’ve learned that lesson, but it was hard. I’m confident enough to make decisions that others might disapprove of, but I know are the right choices for me. I’ve learned to brush off meaningless criticism, but I’ve spent so many hours crying over what others have said about me. Maybe you don’t yet think it’s possible to be confident, to be comfortable in your skin, but it is. I love you. I love you so much.
the fact that I have to heal and grow and get better and do it all by myself because no one else is responsible for that except for me.........