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the DSM-5 defines narcissism as being characterized in part by a "need for admiration." while this is true for most of us, i think it's a bit of an oversimplification to identify every narcissist's supply needs as just "admiration."

many narcissists just want acknowledgement. supply may not just mean praise and reverence, but also simple care. not a need to be worshiped and treated as godlike, but to be spoken to and treated as an important human being.

others may not just get supply from positive attention, but also negative attention. i've heard others talk about reveling in the thought of being the subject of someone else's resentment or hatred, just because it makes them an important figure in their life.

some narcissists seek out any attention, regardless of whether it contributes to an idolizing reputation; narcissists who become self-destructive because they know it'll get people's attention.

i think most narcissists appreciate admiration, but narcissistic supply isn't just that. what all narcissists have in common is that we need more attention than most people, be it because we were deprived of it when we needed it most or because we never learned how to live without it.

regardless, none of us really have the innate ability to feel important and appreciated unless we're given as much attention we can get.

BPD culture is wanting to know who your fp is talking to and if they're talking about you, and if, god forbid, they are, what they're saying, at all times, because you're so scared they're secretly telling their friends how much they hate you.

And you also want to know when they go out and with who, so you don't have to find out from other people that they went out with mutual friends and didn't invite you, so you can stop feeling like they don't want you around.

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bpd culture is drawing you killing yourself because it's satisfying

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bpd culture is the ironic fact that all of your splits are due to misunderstandings which are resolved in the end yet your brain still manages to convince you that "yeah this is a real one. they hate you and you're annoying" every single time

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BPD (+ NPD) is being upset when no one else replies to you on (website) even though your fp will LITERALLY smother her selfish partner (literally selfish not just "grr bpd") with attention when they ask for it.

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BPD culture is no one ever believing in me even when I'm telling the truth, no one listens to me and when I try to defend myself they call me spoiled and childish???? Why even try telling them my side of the story if it's gonna be useless

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