Birthmonth Boy’s Growing Pains

happy birthday suguru!! 🩵

mine are mac and cheese, chicken tenders and chicken alfredo,, drinks are apple juice, sweet tea, or regular blue gatorade :)

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what is a safe food?

a safe food is a food that a person likes, the texture is good, and its safe to eat, and that will not cause a meltdown

Huevember day 2: Friendship 🧡

you gotta be as gay as possible on the computer otherwise alan turing died for nothing

[id: a fanart of ieiri shoko, geto suguru, and gojo satoru as cats. shoko is a calico cat, suguru is a black cat, and satoru is a white cat with round shades and fluffy tail. they're all standing on a table in the middle of a living room, shoko and satoru are sandwiching suguru as they lick his face. shoko has to stand on a book because she's not big enough to reach suguru's face. /end id]

get licked idiot!!!!!!!!

...ngl, the fact that ADD and ADHD got condensed into ADHD when the hyperactivity specifically is part of the reason so many girls were simply not diagnosed drives me up the wall.

It's not that the whole name isn't bullshit, because it is. It describes the way people outside of our experience perceive us, as opposed to the difficulties that are part of our lived experience. Even from an outside standpoint, it's recognizable that "deficit" is not always the issue with our attention... but that's beside the point.

When psychiatrists noticed that ADD and ADHD were basically the same thing... they chose to favor the typical male presentation in the literal naming of the condition, and in doing so condemned a generation of girls (and other afab people) to suffer through being told they're so smart, they just don't apply themselves enough, that it's a personal failing they can't regularly turn in homework, that they're lazy for waiting until the last minute to work on an assignment... because those girls weren't hyperactive. Those girls just kind of drifted off and daydreamed in classes. Those girls doodled or wrote stories all through their school years, and functioned measurably worse when a teacher noticed they were doing that and tried to stop them. Those girls are now so many of my adult friends who are now being diagnosed with ADHD as adults, because the hyperactive part of the diagnosis almost solely applies to children (CHILDREN, when, I might note, this is a lifelong condition) who are socialized male.

We need a whole other name for the condition, because attention deficit is not our problem at all. But my god, the hyperactivity part actually ruined my life for so many years, because I had no way to explain to my dad why it physically hurt me to be bored, why I had to read or write or doodle in class in order to keep my focus, why I excelled in tests but failed at homework so my grades sucked because of that. No one even considered I might have ADHD, all through my childhood, but earlier this year I had the opportunity to go through all my grade school reports, and they could not be MORE CLEARLY talking about a child with ADHD. "Pleasure to have in class", "assignments not complete", "does not pay attention in class", "Birdie is a highly intelligent child with specific and unique needs" (I would LOVE more follow-up on that one, from third grade, do not have it). But I was a quiet and reserved child, so obviously I couldn't have ADHD.

I'm legitimately angry about it in retrospect. I went off my Adderall for a couple months recently, as an adult who only started taking Adderall as an adult, and it completely fucked up my ability to function. For years I was just out there as a teenager struggling through high school and college entirely unmedicated because as a child I was too withdrawn to be diagnosed. Fucking wild and also infuriating.

nd culture is loving reading but hating physical books. i hate to read actual books cause i can never fully understand or absorb anything without reading the same page like 7 times. that’s why i love audiobooks because for some reason my apd doesn’t work when i’m listening to audiobooks to i actually understand and absorb what’s going on. idk what happened because in like 5th and 6th grade i read like 9 books a month during school but now i can only do audiobooks. whatever, this is an unpaid ad for audiobooks.

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hey csm and jjk fandoms, anyone know what happened to @yoshidop ? their tumblr, twitter, and tiktok are just Gone and im not finding anything. their art was really cool and im kinda concerned

listen to the bandori ao no sumika cover!!!!!

attempted realism a while ago + the sketch version bc i liked it better