sometimes, when life feels heavy, itβs hard to figure out what to do with yourself. hereβs a little list of things that help me feel more grounded on days when everything seems off:
clear your scheduleΒ as much as you can. make time for yourself, to breathe, distract yourself, and focus on what brings you a little joy.
step outside for a bit.Β even if itβs just walking to the store to grab a snack. If going for a walk feels pointless, having a tiny mission (like buying chocolate or gum) can make it feel more doable.
call a friend.Β if calling feels like too much, text someone you trust. even a small connection can help break the mental loop.
stay warm.Β I swear, being cold makes everything worse.
try to pinpoint why youβre sad.Β if thereβs no clear reason, thatβs okay too, donβt overthink it. sometimes feelings just exist, and thatβs okay.
move your body.Β you donβt have to hit the gym if that feels like too much. a YouTube workout, some yoga, or even just stretching can release some of the tension.
take a shower.Β clean hair = clean mind. I donβt know why, but when my hair feels dirty, I feel awful.
chill with the caffeine.Β too much coffee makes me more restless and anxious, so try to swap it for tea or water when you're already feeling down.
get off your phone.Β do something creative instead, make a collage, bake cookies, experiment with makeup. itβs a nice way to focus on something tactile and rewarding.
find cosy productivity.Β when I donβt feel like talking to people, I stay home and study or work on small projects. being cosy but productive is satisfying and keeps my mind busy.
keep track of your meals.Β I lose my appetite when Iβm feeling down, so setting reminders to eat something makes a big difference.
sleep, sleep, sleep.Β honestly, sleep fixes more than youβd think. Give yourself permission to rest.
be gentle with yourself, and remember, itβs okay to take things one tiny step at a time. youβre doing your best, and thatβs more than enough. <3
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Absolute beginner adult ballet series (fabulous beginning teacher)
40 piano lessons for beginners (some of the best explanations for piano Iβve ever seen)
Excellent basic crochet video series
Basic knitting (probably the best how to knit video out there)
Pre-Free Figure Skate Levels A-D guides and practice activities (each video builds up with exercises to the actual moves!)
How to draw character faces video (very funny, surprisingly instructive?)
Another drawing character faces video
Literally my favorite art pose hack
Tutorial of how to make a whole ass Stardew Valley esque farming game in Gamemaker Studios 2??
Introduction to flying small aircrafts
French/Dutch/Fishtail braiding
Playing the guitar for beginners (well paced and excellent instructor)
Playing the violin for beginners (really good practical tips mixed in)
Color theory in digital art (not of the childrenβs hospital variety)
Retake classes you hated but now thereβs zero stakes:
Calculus 1 (full semester class)
Learn basic statistics (free textbook)
Introduction to college physics (free textbook)
Introduction to accounting (free textbook)
Learn a language:
Ancient Greek
Latin
Spanish
German
Japanese (grammar guide) (for dummies)
French
Russian (pretty good cyrillic guide!)
β i am a fucking prize
β having me in your life is a blessing
β it's a luxury to talk to me, its a luxury to know me, it's a luxury to have access to my space and it's a luxury to have access to my fuckinh body
β if you have me, you win. if you fuck up, you loose.
β I know ppl will show up for me the way I want them to bc no one would ever want to miss out on me
β im the whole package baby
β ppl would literally jump out of excitement if they saw me
β no one could ever compare to me, I am the best of the best
β thereβs ppl who would literally jump at the chance to court me and treat me like the goddess i am so i donβt need to get mentally fucked over someone who gives me the bare minimum
Manifestation is instant. The only reason you donβt see it instantly in the 3D is because youβre still identifying with a state where it hasnβt happened yet. Thereβs no waiting period, no divine timing, no βprocessβ unless you assume there is. The moment you shift into the version of you that already has it, itβs done. The 3D will catch up, but that part is irrelevant. Stop checking, stop doubting, stop reacting. Just be the version of you that has it, and it has no choice but to materialize.
stop ignoring yourself. fix your posture, get a new hair cut, do your nails, take care of your skin, brush your teeth, drink water, eat foods that give you energy. get strong, stop looking sloppy. when you feel good, you do good. invest in yourself.
Unpopular opinion: there is no difference between affirming to get and affirming to remind. Your subconscious is never going βare you affirming to get? DONT GIVE THIS BITCH HER DESIRESβ your subconscious is going to take those affirmations and make it your reality
disclaimer: this post is heavily inspired by @tomb-of-ligeia and @daphne-dauphinoise, and early 2010s beauty youtubers. itβs always kind to credit your inspo <3
inspired by the lookbooks and makeup charts used by makeup artists designers at high fashion runways shows and childhood bratz coloring and activity books. the law of attraction is at use heavily with this binder (writing down goals and wishlists)!
you should be keeping diy recipes you find in here.
*you donβt need a physical binder. some people function better with digital mediums. i prefer anything physical and concrete. but you can do all this in something like a notion, or your notes app, etc.
a cute girly hobby (esp for type A, anal retentive, or analytical personalities/extremely creative, hands on people) to keep track of your routines, motivate you to keep yourself maintained, and figure out what works best for you. itβs nothing too serious, just a girly pastime for people that maybe buy too many products, slip up on routines, or donβt what looks best on your features. have fun!
an intro sheet 10 different topics divided by tabbed sections: your personal features, makeup, body, fashion, skincare, hair, fragrance, nails, treatments/procedures, salons/spas/referrals/contacts π
here, you should keep your goals, desired look, and how you want to perceive yourself.
your personal features
a chart of your color season. mine is cool winter. you can use color season for whatever, i choose to apply it to my makeup.
your natural body shape. this will help you choose the best clothes to flatter your silhouette.
a close up, unfiltered clear photo of your bare face. note your skin type, color, undertone, and any other things that stand out to you.
note what you wanna enhance and what you wanna improve. this will help throughout your binder.
makeup
put on a light layer of every lipstick/lip gloss/etc. you have and make kiss shaped swatches in your binder. note the shade, brand, and finish. then the mood/occasion in which youβd wear it.
swatch all your lip liners, again leaving the details of the product.
swatch your foundation shades. note the finish, name and brand.
make a sheet dedicated to all your βholy grailβ, essential products.
swatch your eyeshadow palettes. i have all my shimmer pigments swatches and itβs the prettiest thing to look at.
do you have any go to makeup looks? your casual look, going out look, no makeup makeup look, etc.? do these looks and take high quality pics. make personalized face charts by printing them out and noting the steps and products you used.
take c*nty pics of your lashes after trying on all your mascaras/falsies. note the effects and when you would be most likely to wear them.
print out any pics of interesting makeup looks and products you wanna try.
try on lip combos and kiss swatch them. iβm doing this because i do amazing lip combos all the time but i forget which products i used, and itβs hard to replicate the look.
body
take a stick figure-esque picture of yourself and print it out. any outfit you want to buy, print and clip it out first and see if itβs something youβd wear and actually like.
are you experiencing any skin issues on your body and trying any products? keep track of the issue and how the products are doing.
if you donβt already have one, brainstorm workout routines and general wellness/fitness goals.
what are your fav body products? what products did you buy, and hate? TRACK THEM!
any detoxes/diets youβre doing should be recorded in this section.
record βbeauty enhancingβ foods and drinks here. mine include matcha, lemon water and acv shots.
fashion
outfit planning! take pics of pieces you already have and clip them out. (iβm doing this currently and keeping them all in a little pocket in my binder).
make a moodboard of your personal style(s). how do you want your closet to look? try to see what details, colors, additions are consistent throughout. when shopping, these are what you should keep track of.
print out your signature clothing color palette if you want to have one.
dedicate a page to accessories you have/want, and how youβd style them.
*this can be expensive but the fashion girls will prob love this* go to the fabric store and buy little swatches that you like. take note of what the fabric is and why you like it.
dedicate a page to all your signature details. all the little specific things that scream YOU and NO ONE else! that means do not write pink, girly, etc. here. that is not exclusive to you, hun.
skincare
take a current filter free photo (make it glam! tie your hair up in a ballerina bun and put on some cute earrings) of the state of your skin. if your skin is perfect, iβm jealous and how does it feel to be godβs fav? if not what problems are you experiencing?
log your current skincare routines and how theyβre working.
make a page for your skin type, how it feels when you wake up and how it feels and looks by the end of the day and research tips to deal with your personal skin type.
skincare wishlist! list any products you wanna try and what they are for. sample them from ulta or sephora if itβs possible.
dedicate a page to the skincare ingredients your skin loves the MOST! mine are retinol, bha, and vitamin c.
i have a page for all the extra cute little skincare devices i want. on it thereβs a stainless steel gua sha, an ice pack, facial steamer, and pink foreo.
hair
whatβs your hair type, density, porosity and curl pattern?
write down any hair goals you have. mine is frizz free tailbone length caramel brown hair with honey blonde highlights by the end of this year.
whatβs your signature hairstyle? do you have a signature? brainstorm here.
clip out hairstyle inspo from pinterest and insta and try to recreate all the looks!
what are your fav hair products? i keep track of the best curling creams and leave in conditioners for my hair personally.
take note of any trending products you wanna try.
fragrance
make a moodboard of how you wanna smell. after this, research notes and how they work together.
now track your fav perfumes, your most complimented, etc.
note what fragrances go with what occasion and how they make you feel.
make your perfume wishlist! my fav part!
nails
swatch all your polishes. label them and their finish.
whatβs your signature/go to nail look?
do you have any pics of your fav mani + pedis? print them out and write the details you loved the most.
write down your at home mani and pedi routine and itβs frequency.
write your fav colors and styles to wear on your nails. mine are glittery pink, pale pink, white, cream, french tip and pink frenchie. a hyper girly twist on the classics.
treatments/procedures
take note of any surgeries or procedures you want done and what they do.
anything you leave the house to have done regularly, keep track here.
donβt limit yourself! forget your budget! what are some high maintenance treatments you wanna experience? manifest it.
references
write down the sources of which you find great info for beauty and fashion
keep addresses of your fav salons and spas.
keep business contacts of your fav estheticians, stylists, nail techs, etc.
use my branding yourself guide to assist in your beauty binder! so much inspo and so many good resources! π
Reread the phrase over again with me. Nothing is hard. Nothing is difficult. Itβs just done.
If you know that to be true now, congratulations. You are a master manifestor!!!
If you donβt know this to be true now, congratulations. You are also a master manifestor!!!
If you donβt know anything at all and just decide to go with the flow of life, congratulations. You are a master manifestor.
The words on this post are already written out and complete but only because you are assuming right now that you have more words to read. That is how simple manifesting is. It is simply based on your idea of it. Manifestation is simply your perception of it. Nothing happens outside of your awareness so if you decide manifesting is easy for you, it is. If you decide manifesting is hard for you, surprise surprise!
Thatβs why when people want to tell you manifesting is not real or itβs a cult, you donβt need to argue with them because they are right. In their world, manifesting is cultish so everything they see will prove that right to them.
The great Hannah Montana said it so beautifully not long ago. βLifeβs what you make it.β
Nothing about manifesting is hard. Nothing about manifesting is difficult. If you refuse to accept that, congratulations. If you know this to be true, congratulations.
You are now and have already always been a master manifestor. Stop thinking otherwise.
law of assumption - being the best version of yourself β pinterest: sthefnx0
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