As Someone Who Is In Their 40′s And Who Was Around At The Dawn On The Internet And Online Fandom -

As someone who is in their 40′s and who was around at the dawn on the internet and online fandom - who moved from only being able to find fanfics in zines bought at a corner table at the far end of a con to things like yahoogroups, to ff.net, to livejournal, to message boards, to here, the problem in fandom today is moderation. In the old days anti’s would have been kicked out of a community. They wouldn’t even be allowed a platform to spread their vile. Any person raising shit within a yahoogroups community, within a livejournal community, within a message board, would have been given a warning, then expelled entirely with repeated bad behavior.

Tumblr fandom has forgotten this basic fact:

It’s rude, selfish and intolerant (to the fact that tastes vary) to post hate. Why? Because other people like the thing you are hating on and it upsets them to see that hatred of the thing they like. Would you go up to someone at SDCC wearing a Deadpool costume and tell that person Deadpool sucks? No. That would be an gigantic display of bad manners (and poor parenting on your parents’ part) and a serious display of a character flaw on your part, especially as what constitutes ‘suck’ is subjective (in my opinion Deadpool does NOT suck). It’s putting your need to be an asshole over the feelings of others.

Same principle should apply on Tumblr.

Before anyone hits the ‘post’ button they should stop and consider the following:

Does this post contribute positively to the community?

How will this post affect others?

If the post I am making were about something that I love that someone else was trashing on, how would I feel to read it?

Hate posters are under the impression that only their mindset matters, only their feelings, and they care little for the feelings of others, which is not only intolerant, and selfish, but it is an attitude that should be discouraged at all costs by the rest of the community. It should not be an attitude that is allowed to fester within fandom. I wish more people would publicly call this very poor behavior out.

Freedom of speech is a responsibility as much as it is a right… a responsibility to choose our words wisely and be mindful that this world is a shared one.

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rocketbabyworld

8 years ago

i’m still emotional that commander rogers canonically sat down one day to assess tony stark and on the “cons” section he didn’t list all those stereotypes (selfish! arrogant! self-absorbed! doesn’t play well with others!) no went right into the heart of the thing pretty much like “he’ll fuck himself up HARD when he’s too stressed” like i’m just?? help me he cares about tony so much i’m so emotional

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rocketbabyworld

7 years ago

raise your hand if you will never not be salty about the lack of development of a friendship between Steve Rogers and Tony Stark in the MCU

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rocketbabyworld

7 years ago

I agree. That’s exactly right. You can’t dismiss some character’s pain and trauma to ennoble your favorite. IMO its disgusting. But come on, Tony’s fans do it all the time! If it angers you all so much then stop doing it to other characters. Many times I’ve seen these completely dismissive posts about Steve, Natasha, Wanda, Bruce, etc and for some reason nobody reminded authors about human decency. I think it should be applied to every character not only Tony

I don't get why you baby Stark so much. So his father neglected him? He was too busy to tuck him in or hug him? Yeah that's shitty as fuck but Howard loved him in his own way. Clint Barton, abused by his own parents and then abused in the circus before left for dead. Steve Rogers, bullied and beaten his entire life pre serum, sick constantly and only family his best friend who he LOST. Natasha, I don't think I need to elaborate on her past.. Wanda&Pietro, fuck of their story isn't awful.

Wow.

So by your line of reasoning, only the Avenger who had the worst childhood is worthy of love and/or respect. I guess that means Bucky isn’t worthy, since his childhood was the best out of all of everyone. But no - in your eyes, Tony is the only one whose abuse can be excused.

Well let me tell you something, anon. I am fucking appalled by the fact that you are literally excusing child abuse by saying that “his father loved him in his own way,“. As if that makes it okay. There is no excuse for child abuse. Ever. Period. It doesn’t matter if it’s emotional neglect or physical abuse or whatever, there. is. no. excuse.

In addition, abuse, especially child abuse, is not a competition and I can’t even put into words how upset it makes me that you’re implying that Tony is not worthy of being “babied” just because you think his abuse wasn’t as bad as the rest of the team. As though there is some sort of ruler by which we measure abuse, and Tony isn’t making the cut.

Finally, I’m gonna let you in on a secret. Fandom is a place where everyone gets to like whoever they want to like. I will “baby” Tony as much as I damn well want to, and you can fuck right off.

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rocketbabyworld

7 years ago

I’m not ready for this

Thank you to the best fans in the universe! Marvel Studios’ “Avengers: Infinity War” Trailer TOMORROW.

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rocketbabyworld

6 years ago

inspired by the amazing @starksquill‘s superfamily edits, here’s Tony and Steve being funny on instagram (joke stolen from Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds)

more superhusbands au

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rocketbabyworld

7 years ago

So, like, here’s the thing. Good people make mistakes. They get emotional and act selfishly, and that doesn’t take away from the good they’ve done. Steve Rogers and Tony Stark are both good people who’ve done bad things. Too many people in this fandom (and everywhere) refuse to see the flaws in their faves. They refuse to understand the motivations behind anybody who opposes their fave. I say “refuse” deliberately, because it requires willful ignorance to decide either of these men are bad people. Quite frankly, all that shit can stay about 7000 light years away from me. It is completely unwelcome here.

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rocketbabyworld

8 years ago

Steven Attewell: Steve Rogers Isn't Just Any Hero - Lawyers, Guns & Money

At this point I don’t think Steven needs an introduction — or wouldn’t, were it not for the fact that he’s now Doctor Steven Attewell, and we all know how that title can change a man. — SEK A while ago, I came across an argument on Tumblr over whether “modern approaches to writing steve …

Some time ago I quite unexpectedly became fond of this superhero. I started researching and this post was one of the first things I’ve read about Steve. He is one of those people (real and fictional) who inspired me to try to change things around me and be more outspoken.

And this analysis is such a good introduction to nuances of Cap’s cbs historical context. Especially for us foreigners