~ Courtney Peppernell

How to balance your own life/self improvement & a relationship?

A guide ~

So this is for me because I’m in a loving wonderful relationship for exactly 8 months today but ever since we started dating I threw all my (very high maintenance) routines out of the window in a way I don’t do them frequently anymore.. and I want to start taking beter care of myself again.

So maybe someone else also finds some tips in this post.

🦢 communicate

I think it’s best to start of with the most important one and that’s openly communicating with your partner.

Which means tell them about your values, dreams, goals..

I personally think that can be a difficult thing because it was for me since my girlfriend has always known me as extremely confident in myself (and I still am) so I didn’t want her to know I too would like to change certain things about my life. But I did end up telling her I wanted to start taking beter care of myself again because I’ve being neglecting my good habits.

And good partners will be supportive of you! She was, so if you’re also struggling with this I assure you it won’t go wrong!

🦢 shared goals

To follow up discuss the goals you might have together.

For example maybe both of you want to start exercising? Or setting some extra money to the side for a vacation?

There might be some things you two can do together if both of you are up for that! Which can be a great motivator for some.

🦢 be a little selfish

No this doesn’t mean doing whatever you want without taking into account your partner’s feelings.

For example it is when you want to have some alone time, that you can do so even when your partner spontaneously wanted to go out. You also deserve some time for yourself.

It’s simply giving yourself some things you enjoyed/did when you were single and still being able to do them in a committed relationship.

🦢 compromise

Following that up, also be able to compromise. You obviously aren’t alone in your relationship and just as you’re allowed to want to do your own thing you’d also have to let your partner do the same.

It will not always be the way you planned it, in those situations you’ll have to compromise with your partners wants.

For example you wanted to give yourself a selfcare day but your partner would love for you to come to this family event. Why don’t you join them to the event since it’s important for your partner and do a selfcare day tomorrow if you have time?

🦢 include your partner

Obviously you’re dating this person, so I’m guessing you want a future with them. Since you do.. and since you and your partner will most likely end up living together just get it over with and include them in your self improvement journey.

It can be little things, for example she holds my hair when I do my skincare at her house and I don’t want to wear a headband. Or she’s just there when I search pilates workouts to do later. As well doing things a little more outside of your comfort zone like for me.. her knowing about this account 😅.

But it’s your partner, the person who will know you best of all. I think including them in your personal journey really will make your bond stronger!

🦢 prioritise your relationship

Lastly, but also very important your relationship should be no. 1 place!

There really is no more explaining to do. Be open with your partner, go on dates, skip a (not yet booked) facial appointment for something important they want to do with you! They’re the person you love after all.

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: ¨·.·¨ : ‌ ` ·. if you’re reading this i hope November is good to you. i hope your days get better, brighter, happier and calmer. be kind to yourself & to others and watch how amazing things get. sending love, please accept

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"Love also needs Qualification Those who hurt others, shouldn't Talk about love because for them Love is nothing but a distraction So I can't love and I can't be loved For to love is to destroy and to be Loved is to be destroyed" Amen

how im preparing for 2025⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍬💕

MY MANIFESTING LIST ;

every year i always make a list of the things that i wanna manifest in 2025, i dont always complete it in the first sitting bcuz i add onto it as the year progresses but i like to have a basic framework of everything that im manifesting in that year.

also along with my manifest list for 2025, i also create a 2025 vision board because it motivates me and reminds me of all the amazing things that im going to experience in 2025.

REFLECTING ON THIS YEAR ;

so in my notion i have a section called the 'monthly digest' where every single month i break down the 4 weeks of the month and everything that i did in them in relation to my goals. after every month i write a little summary.

so with that being said i have a LOT to go back to and reflect on so that i can see what i accomplished this year and what i can do better in the next year. this reflection system that i have is so helpful so i'll set one up for 2025 so that i can also have that at my disposal.

BREAKING UP THE NEXT YEAR ;

i break up my year into 4 quarters (each lasting 3 months) that way i can see my year broken up and i have a clear plan and i can be organized. quarter one (january - march) quarter two (april - june) so on and so forth. and after every quarter i do a little analysis.

something else that i wanna try for next year is giving myself quarterly themes. like for each quarter of the year i'll focus on a different aspect of myself, i think that could be fun…💬🎀

PREPARATIONS ;

im wrapping up some things like my projects, assignments and things of that nature so that i can go into the next year on a clean slate. furthermore im making plans for new years eve, and january and making sure that i've already set some things in motion.

all in all, with everything in motion and everything set in place im going into the new year INCREDIBLY confident 💕📔

🎀🤍KNOW YOUR WORTH🤍🎀

🤍" In order to be valuable to others , we need to be valuable to ourselves first " -The Wizard Liz

🎀To develop self-worth, you must realize that it is not extrinsic but intrinsic. It was present since the day you were born . You will not find your self-worth in other people or their opinions. Self-worth is innate , it comes from within.

🤍Your value does not come from your status or followers . It does not come from anything that is external , it is always intrinsic. You have control over your self-worth. Nothing or no one can make you feel bad without your consent. We all have the same level of intrinsic value , the problem is not everybody sees it.

🎀When God created you , he did not put your value in your grades , skin color , in size of your nose or flesh . He put your value in your spirit. Your spirit was made in the image of God. Understand how valuable you are , you were created in the image of an eternal , infinite and omnipotent God.

🤍If you do not acknowledge your worth , you will sell yourself short. If you start valuing yourself , others will start valuing yourself. If you know your worth or value , you will have high -standards . You will not be desperate, you will be highly-selective with who you allow in your inner circle and life. Don't allow everyone to have access to you or your energy.

🎀Never try to find your self-worth in other people's opinions . If you allow other people's opinions control how you feel , you are giving them your power. You will become their puppet . Be strong in yourself , know your worth and never settle for less. Never ever make your value go down because of anyone or anything.

🤍You matter , you are important and precious. It does not matter who made you feel small . You have the power to make your confidence go back up. Start acting like you matter because you do !

🎀The Universe wants you to know your worth , If you ignore the Universe's message, it will continue to be louder. You will continue to attract people who will mistreat you and treat you as if you are less than them.

🤍If I crush or beat 20$ , it would still have it's inherent value. Right ? You must know your value and not try to find your value in others or their opinions or how they treat you. How others treat you is a reflection of them , it is never personal.

🎀To cultivate a sense of worth, shift your focus to your strengths , believe in yourself and be clear about your values - have boundaries for yourself , speak up for yourself and find ways to validate yourself. You can also use affirmations to develop self-worth. Tell yourself, " I know my self-worth " .

🤍Never underestimate your self- worth . Know and own your self-worth . Refuse to be treated any lower than what you deserve. You are worthy of love and happiness . You deserve the best life !

💗🍨REBRAND & REINVENT YOURSELF💗🍨

🍨If you feel uninspired, unmotivated,dull,tired and like every single day of your life is boring then you are in need of a rebrand. IT IS NOW TIME TO REINVENT YOUR ENITRE LIFE AND SELF. This doesn't mean you need to let go of yourself completely and be someone you are not, it is about loving yourself enough to say " My current situation is not working for me , I deserve better whether that be my environment , appearance, Confidence etc.

💗PLANNING

Understand who you are,who you want to be and where you want to get. Do a SWOT analysis of your life. What are your weakness ? What is threatening you ? What is getting in your way to achieving your dreams ?

Shadow work is easy, all you need to do is search shadow work journal prompt on Google or Pinterest. This will help you unpack your trauma that you might not be aware of , move on fully from your past and enter into your new era without bringing the past baggage because we don't need it. Create your alter ego and step into that energy permanently.Write a script describing your future self down to every single detail , write it in present tense to speed up your manifestation. After doing shadow work , reinvention script, SWOTS Analysis and understanding yourself, you need to find solutions. Let's say your weakness is that you can't wake up early but in your reinvention script, you wrote that your ideal version is a morning person. Bring few simple techniques, for example , develop a slow morning routine. Take each habit week by week. The first week , just focus on waking up early, the second week , wake up earlier and go to the gym and the third week , wake up earlier, go to the gym and eat healthy. You are building up slowly.

To be disciplined and create solutions to get from your A to B , delete all the take-out or dating apps, block every single one of your exes, change your phone number if you have to or donate your old clothes. Taking such measures shows you that there is no going back. You are entering a new era in your life.

🍨 APPEARANCE

Follow the 80-20 rule which is 80% of the time you need to follow a healthy diet, and the other 20% of the time you can treat yourself because you deserve it.

Start drinking matcha over coffee. Coffee has negative effects on our gut health, brain health and life in general.

Benefits of Matcha.

Boosts brain function

Helps you lose weight

Eliminates toxins

Creates a calm and focused mind

Helps prevent cancer

Trust in your health and treat your body like a temple. Don't fall into prey for not taking of your health because it's " cool " .

Take your supplements, it will change your life.

If you are not wearing it in 5 years, don't buy it . Quit trend buying. Go for what you like and what suits you.

Going on tiktok or youtube, watch make-up tutorials. It's not about buying expensive products but knowing about how to place them to enhance your features. Learning make-up that suits your face. Personally, I would recommend Dear Peachie since she has the best make-up tips.

Buying one of everything and stick to it. What works , works .

Work on your posture.

Explore non-toxic products and clean beauty.

💗MINDSET TIPS

Undoing the negative. Block your exes . It doesn't matter how good the relationship . Delete their pics. They are not part of your life anymore.

Get rid of limiting beliefs. Develop abundance mindset.

Change up your environment.

Incorporating the postive

Stay self-aware. Instead of focusing on what other person did , you need to ask yourself what you did wrong. It is not about saying that it is all your fault. You need to know if you self-sabotaging yourself or not.

Embody the habits and lifestyle you want to have.

Engage with your past and future self. You are looking at your current version from outside perspective.

Develop the IDAF mindset. You are holding yourself back when you care about what other's think about you.

Please don't be upset about not getting attention from the wrong people. If they fun of you or judged you , the fact they did that shows how lame they are.

Stop explaining yourself to everyone and stop telling others about your goals. They will not get it. If you believe in yourself, you will end up getting where you want to be and everyone around you is not going to be judging they are gonna be clapping.

Follow people who inspire or educate you. It will help you gain something from being on social media instead of scrolling through pointless memes.

You get to decide your emotions. If someone said something hurtful , realise they are not the right person, distance yourself or don't react. Use your pain as motivation.

🍨NEW HABITS

Exposure therapy. Get used to being cringy and embarassing. Being cringe is to be free. Face your fears.

Become the life of the party. Put your attention to how you are going to make other people feel.

Stop being everywhere for everyone. BOUNDARIES!!!!!!!!!!! HOW CAN YOU LEVEL UP IF YOU DON'T PUT YOURSELF FIRST ?

You are not missing out on anything. Be picky , only go to events if they align with you. Not everyone needs to know about your buisness.

Identify the nonsense in your day and remove it. Be a little self-aware.

Fake it till you make it. Be comfortable with sitting with discomfort.

Hot girls are always grateful. Gratitude is the greatest vibrational frequency you can operate at.

💗HOME-WORK

Do some SWOT analysis , Google shadow work prompts to fully evaluate your weaknesses.

Draw out your ideal self. What do you wanna become ? What does she dress like? What her mornings look like? Who are her friends?

Evaluate your current situation and drawn out the map of your future situation so you can get from A to B much faster.

Create your mood board and set it as phone wallpaper

Invest in one thing that can level up your appearance.

💗🍨This post was requested , I hope you liked it . Also , I will make more posts like this for Tam Kaur and The Wizard liz💗🍨

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