Medusa with the Head of Perseus, Luciano Garbati, 2008
i鈥檝e been saying this to myself this morning and i鈥檓 going to say it to you in case you need to hear it: you are not here to be physically attractive. that is not your purpose. you are here to learn new things and be kind to people and listen to your favorite music and pet cute dogs and read big books and drink good coffee. you are here to see beauty in the world and create it when you can鈥檛 find any. you are not here to impress people with how you look.
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Being uncomfortable with feminity doesn鈥檛 mean that you are not a woman
It means that feminity is uncomfortable and has nothing to do with being a woman
Today I learned that in the first Olympics that had women鈥檚 weightlifting, the united states weightlifter (who was 17 years old) set a U.S. record that hasn鈥檛 been beaten. She鈥檚 one of the most decorated female athletes in U.S history.
Her name is Cheryl Haworth, and this is her:
And this is her and her wife:
Ilustraci贸n: Peer Jongeling (IG)
[Traducci贸n propia]
No porque no exprese la feminidad (hegem贸nica) significa que soy menos mujer.
Ilustraci贸n original:
a lot of detrans women seem to very quickly be bombarded with questions about what they're going to do to look more feminine again...seems kinda fucked up.
like a community of women isolated and alienated as a result of gender roles (among other issues but that's the key one here) and we're just gonna chuck a couple more gendered expectations at them?
people asking if detrans women will get reconstructive surgery or laser hair removal, offering them make-up tips or talking about reclaiming femininity...it really seems like the opposite of the unconditional acceptance detrans women need.
(i'm talking about this from the perspective that pushing femininity onto ANY woman is inherently harmful, rather than a detrans position. but another harm caused by this is of course that detrans narratives are being pushed into another box. no two detrans women have the same experiences, positive and/or negative, with transition; or relationships with their bodies. women can absolutely love their post-transition bodies, or have mixed feelings or feelings completely unrelated to transition or just feel completely neutral about their appearance. but whatever the needs and motivations of individual women, femininity is harmful to its core and shouldn't be encouraged as a "counter" to transition in any way.)
bottom line is, (de)trans women don't become more or less female at any step along their (de)transition. they are and were women all along because womanhood is not an identity, it's just female reality.