💉 HRT ANNOUNCEMENT 💉

when will people use the anon function to send passionate, homosexual anonymous love letters

Please do tell me! I love hearing about other’s passions!

Someone: oh there’s this show I’m watching... oh, nevermind, it’s silly you probably don’t wanna hear about it

Me, knowing fully well how much it sucks to have your passions invalidated and how cool it is to rant about something you love:

While the Egyptian government remains impotent, and complicit, when it comes to the atrocities taking place in Gaza, the Egyptian people continue to do what they can. Here, Egyptian citizens unaffiliated with the government brought generators and cables to the border fence to provide electricity to Gazans who have been displaced to Rafah near the border.

(Dec. 20)

I don’t think welfare fraud is a problem period I genuinely don’t. I don’t care when it happens and it means nothing to me. I’m glad. As if the government doesn’t steal from you every day lmao… I don’t give a damn

Saying that you don’t need to care about Palestine because you/your ancestors have some sort of background of oppression that many people are not well informed about and because the general population does not spend their time advocating for your people, you don’t need to advocate for Palestine or learn about its history with Israel is what makes you part of the problem and is the reason modern day genocide are able to happen and be facilitated for so long

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

Fourth in a series I of comics about protesting safety tips I made with @this.is.ysabel . This one is about the dangers of police surveillance and how to avoid it if possible. Keep being safe when you go out. Don’t get snatched!

i always mean it when i say i love you btw

fun fact: any policy on drugs that isn’t harm reduction is going to cause addicts to suffer and die