How To Survive College Without Losing Your Goddamn Mind

How to Survive College Without Losing Your Goddamn Mind

Most self-care advice just isn’t useful for college students. You have very little time, very little disposable income, and you don’t really have the ability to just “take on less stress”. Playing hooky to have a spa day isn’t really an option when you’re a broke scholarship student trying to get into medical school someday.

So if you’re actually trying to get through school with a solid GPA and your mental health still intact:

Go to your professors’ and TAs’ office hours. Your professors’ contracts require them to sit in their offices for a couple of hours per week, and most of them are spending that time alone and bored out of their skulls. If you’re struggling with the material, uncertain about how your paper is turning out, or wondering if you’re on the right career path, don’t sit in your dorm room until you’re frustrated to tears - go talk to your professors. Most of them will be happy to help you out just so they have something to do, and they’re more inclined to cut you some slack because they can see that you truly give a shit. I can’t count how many Bs and B+s I turned into As and A+s just by going to professors’ office hours. Go.

Ask for extensions on coursework if you need them. I can’t count how many times I saw friends sobbing over their laptops while sitting in emergency rooms or after receiving news of a family member’s death, because they had assignment deadlines to meet and they didn’t realize extensions were possible. Life happens. Professors aren’t heartless. Universities are more under the microscope than ever when it comes to student mental health. If you’ve had a personal emergency, mental health crisis, car accident, etc, email your professors the first chance you get, and ask for an extension on coursework. The worst thing they can possibly say is no, and you’d be surprised how many say yes. As a student, I was granted extensions on coursework five times: after a car accident, after my father was diagnosed with cancer, after my godfather’s death, after spending the night in ER with my very sick roommate, and after having a serious allergic reaction. I’ve had friends get extensions after depressive episodes and bad breakups. It’s possible. Ask.

Don’t intentionally schedule yourself a shitty semester. A lot of students have a weird habit of scheduling all their most difficult or boring required classes in the same semester to “get them out of the way”, usually in their first or second year of school. Don’t do this if you can avoid it. It might seem tempting to have a shitty 4 months and get it over with, but you underestimate the impact that four months of constant stress over classes you don’t care about can have on your grades, your passion for school and your self-esteem. Don’t do it. Space your most dreaded classes out, and try to take at least one class per semester that you look forward to.

Lay down ground rules with your roommate ASAP. What time do you want the lights off at night? Who showers when? How many people can you invite over at once, and how much notice do you have to give? How clean do you both want the place to be? Even if your roommate seems like the most chill person on earth - hell, even if your roommate is your lifelong best friend - you need to discuss this stuff sooner rather than later, before classes really get going. The last thing you need is a stressful dispute with someone you literally cannot escape from when you’re up to your ears in midterms.

Be upfront and honest with romantic partners and hookups. Again, the last thing you need to be doing is having a tearful argument with your sort-of-SO the night before your organic chemistry final. We’re all adults in college, and it’s better for everyone to act like it. Be honest with potential SOs about what you want, and what you have time for. If you’re just looking for a no-strings-attached hookup every now and then, tell them that. If you are interested in a serious relationship but you won’t be able to answer their texts and messages very often this semester, say that. I had a particularly shitty final exam season one semester because my (non-student) boyfriend couldn’t understand why I suddenly had no time for him. Misunderstandings aren’t always avoidable, but it’s important to take steps to minimize miscommunications and hurt feelings.

Check in with your advisor at least once per semester. Program requirements aren’t always clear, new classes get introduced every semester, and most students will change majors at least once. Make sure you are constantly checking with your advisor to make sure that you are on track to graduate, and if you need confirmation that a certain course will count towards your requirements, get it in writing. Staying in touch with your advisor during your first couple of semesters will save you a lot of stress and headaches in your last few semesters.

Don’t use caffeine to pull all-nighters. I can preach to you about “don’t pull all-nighters” all I want, but realistically, you’re probably going to pull one at least once in your college career. I’m in grad school and I still pull them. Be smart about it. Chugging Red Bull isn’t going to keep you alert all night, it’s just going to make you anxious for a few hours before you crash hard. Avoid the caffeine. Drink water, eat healthy snacks, and sit in a proper chair with good posture. If you start to get tired, stand up and do some exercise - do some jumping jacks, go for a quick walk, dance to some music - and splash cold water on your face. You’ll be more effective for longer periods of time if you take frequent breaks and put the caffeine down.

Don’t compare yourself to other people. I know that it’s hard not to see everyone around you as your competition, and it can be tough to not feel a little pang of jealousy or panic when someone else achieves something you want. But this isn’t a healthy mindset. Seeing yourself as being in direct competition with everyone around you is a lonely and stressful way to live. There is lots of room for success. Tens of thousands of people get into medical school and law school and business school every year. Someone else succeeding does not mean that you fail. Celebrate the fact that we have so many brilliant and wonderful people to take on the world’s toughest problems together. Let yourself be happy for others. Invest in dry shampoo and baby wipes. You’re not always going to have time to shower, and nothing pulls your mood down faster than feeling dirty. Find easy ways to freshen up now and then to boost your mood. Use some dry shampoo, take a baby wipe to the essential bits, change into some clean clothes, brush your teeth. Looking like less of a wreck will make you feel like less of a wreck.

Have a life outside of school. Have something. A club. A volunteer position. A band. A writer’s group. Have something that you look forward to, that lets you socialize with other people you have things in common with. Having nothing but school and homework in your life is a quick recipe for going full-on “Jack from The Shining”. My best memories from college are all from the clubs and organizations that I joined, and all of my most meaningful, long-term friendships are with the people I met by being involved on campus. It matters a lot, and it can mean the difference between enduring college and enjoying it. Go easy on yourselves, drink water, eat vegetables, and have a safe and healthy semester, everyone.

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art cheats

hello i am here today to not lose track of the art cheats i have discovered over the years. what i call art cheat is actually a cool filter/coloring style/way to shade/etc. that singlehandedly makes art like 20 times better

80’s anime style

glitch effect

glow effects

adding colors to grayscale paintings

foreshortening ( coil )

foreshortening ( perspective )

clipping group (lines)

clipping group (colors)

dramatic lighting ( GOOD )

shading metal

lighting faces

that is all for today, do stay tuned as i am always hunting for cool shit like this

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6 years ago

One Of The Best Heartwarming Scenes Between Zuko And Iroh. The Fact That Zuko Is Truly Repentant And

one of the best heartwarming scenes between Zuko and Iroh. The fact that Zuko is truly repentant and Iroh is unconditionally forgiving despite everything he’s endured. And of course, they can make you cry one moment and laugh in the next.

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2 years ago

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OH MY GOD?? Art god alert

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6 years ago

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4 years ago

EMERGENCY COMMISSIONS: SOLIDARITY WITH POLAND

I have not seen many people from outside of Poland either spread the news or offer help so far, so I am offering. If you don’t know what’s going on, here’s the rundown:

Oct. 22, a court ruling deemed abortion due to fetal defects unconstitutional, basically banning almost all abortions taking place in the country. Now, only abortions in the case of rape, incest, and endangering the mother’s (parent’s) life are allowed. This will force anyone who gets pregnant to carry the child even if they know the child will not survive. This is a huge violation of human rights and will cause countless people pain, and even death, as in some cases illegal abortions lead to the death of the mother (parent).

Here are several posts you need to read if you want to understand more about how serious this is:

https://rembrandtae.tumblr.com/post/633036867171926016/i-just-want-to-remind-everyone-outside-of-poland

https://the-brave-and-the-dumb.tumblr.com/post/632695867674181632/so-people-tend-to-forget-how-situation-in-poland

https://rembrandtae.tumblr.com/post/633151309888045056/thats-it-the-chairman-of-the-law-and-justice

Futhermore, LGBTQ+ rights there are an absolute joke. The country is ranked worst in the EU to be gay or trans. Poland does not recognize same-sex marriage or civil unions, same-sex couples cannot adopt, and the current Polish President Andrzej Duda has called “LGBT ideology” worse than communism. He does not think we are people, just an ideology.

Here are posts about it:

https://starysubiekt.tumblr.com/post/620830984637661184/hi-it-would-be-nice-if-you-could-reblog-what-is

https://ashisurana.tumblr.com/post/625885890679635968/lgbt-situation-in-poland

Here is a carrd you definitely should take a look through:

https://polandlgbt.carrd.co/#section01

I am opening up writing and art commissions to help out; if you want a piece from me, you’ll have to donate to any of the following organizations:

https://zrzutka.pl/en/kasa-na-aborcyjny-dream-team-55g5gx

zrzutka.pl

Money for activities of the ABORTION DREAM TEAM in Poland | zrzutka.pl

A fundraiser for the activities of the Abortion Dream Team. As a consequence of today’s Constitutional Tribunal ruling we expect a massive i

https://stopbzdurom.pl/help-us/ (PayPal)

Stop Bzdurom

help-us

Queer without fear [anti-repression fund][action against homophobes][hundreds of thousands of stickers for queer][more]What we need most

https://amnesty.org.pl/wspieraj/przekaz-darowizne/#support-form

amnesty.org.pl

Przekaż darowiznę

Amnesty International jest organizacją niezależną i bezstronną. Nasza działalność jest możliwa dzięki składkom członkowskim oraz darowiznom

https://www.asn.org.uk/?form=donatetoday

Abortion Support Network

Need to travel for an abortion? - Abortion Support Network

ASN supports people who need to travel from Ireland, Northern Ireland, the Isle of Man, Malta and Gibraltar to have a safe, legal abortion.

If you cannot donate to any of these, we will figure it out. I am also hoping to be able to directly donate to Polish folk who need it once this gains traction. (Ex. People who are protesting, people in need of binders, etc) All will be figured out in due time.

Here is my commission prices post for both writing and art: https://itomecha.tumblr.com/post/634054343923007490/these-commissions-are-to-help-out-with-the

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EMERGENCY COMMISSIONS INFO

These commissions are to help out with the situation in Poland as of now, but if I get enough attention I will extend it to 2-3 other non-Am

Summary: The situation in Poland is an absolute mess and we should be standing in solidarity with women and LGBTQ+ people who live there.

And no, I don’t want any fellow Americans in the reblogs or notes saying “but the USA is worse” “there’s stuff happening here too” WE KNOW. The media constantly covers it. I don’t care about your concern over the USA right now, you know why? Because police brutality is clearly evident in other countries such as India, 11 women are murdered PER DAY in México, the president completely ignoring the mass killings. Because Chile is having a massive uprising, people being shot with pellets and being tortured by the police.

THAT IS WHY. FUCK YOUR (WHITE) AMERICAN CENTERED ACTIVISM.

If you say you support LGBTQ+ rights, the rights of women and indigenous and black and poor people, you need to support them EVERYWHERE, in every country, or else your advocacy means nothing to the people who need it most.

(If any Polish people want to add on–as it is inevitable that I missed a few things, being American– feel free to do so! Places to donate, info, etc. I encourage you, please.)

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6 years ago

can i just say that im,,,

REAL sick,,

of seeing klance posts where one of them is portrayed as “the girl”

like its usually Keith but once in a blue moon its lance

neither?? of them??? are girls????

they are both???? men???????

portraying one as super feminine and the other as butch is heteronormativity neither one of them is canonically feminine they are both masculine bye

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1 year ago

Assassin’s Creed: Valhalla - Concept Art By Even Amundsen

Assassin’s Creed: Valhalla - concept art by Even Amundsen

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6 years ago

Writing Traumatic Injuries References

So, pretty frequently writers screw up when they write about injuries. People are clonked over the head, pass out for hours, and wake up with just a headache… Eragon breaks his wrist and it’s just fine within days… Wounds heal with nary a scar, ever…

I’m aiming to fix that.

Here are over 100 links covering just about every facet of traumatic injuries (physical, psychological, long-term), focusing mainly on burns, concussions, fractures, and lacerations. Now you can beat up your characters properly!

General resources

WebMD

Mayo Clinic first aid

Mayo Clinic diseases

First Aid

PubMed: The source for biomedical literature

Diagrams: Veins (towards heart), arteries (away from heart) bones, nervous system, brain

Burns

General overview: Includes degrees

Burn severity: Including how to estimate body area affected

Burn treatment: 1st, 2nd, and 3rd degrees

Smoke inhalation

Smoke inhalation treatment

Chemical burns

Hot tar burns

Sunburns

Incisions and Lacerations

Essentials of skin laceration repair (including stitching techniques)

When to stitch (Journal article–Doctors apparently usually go by experience on this)

More about when to stitch (Simple guide for moms)

Basic wound treatment

Incision vs. laceration: Most of the time (including in medical literature) they’re used synonymously, but eh.

Types of lacerations: Page has links to some particularly graphic images–beware!

How to stop bleeding: 1, 2, 3

Puncture wounds: Including a bit about what sort of wounds are most likely to become infected

More about puncture wounds

Wound assessment: A huge amount of information, including what the color of the flesh indicates, different kinds of things that ooze from a wound, and so much more.

Home treatment of gunshot wound, also basics More about gunshot wounds, including medical procedures

Tourniquet use: Controversy around it, latest research

Location pain chart: Originally intended for tattoo pain, but pretty accurate for cuts

General note: Deeper=more serious. Elevate wounded limb so that gravity draws blood towards heart. Scalp wounds also bleed a lot but tend to be superficial. If it’s dirty, risk infection. If it hits the digestive system and you don’t die immediately, infection’ll probably kill you. Don’t forget the possibility of tetanus! If a wound is positioned such that movement would cause the wound to gape open (i.e. horizontally across the knee) it’s harder to keep it closed and may take longer for it to heal.

Broken bones

Types of fractures

Setting a broken bone when no doctor is available

Healing time of common fractures

Broken wrists

Broken ankles/feet

Fractured vertebrae: Neck (1, 2), back

Types of casts

Splints

Fracture complications

Broken noses

Broken digits: Fingers and toes

General notes: If it’s a compound fracture (bone poking through) good luck fixing it on your own. If the bone is in multiple pieces, surgery is necessary to fix it–probably can’t reduce (“set”) it from the outside. Older people heal more slowly. It’s possible for bones to “heal” crooked and cause long-term problems and joint pain. Consider damage to nearby nerves, muscle, and blood vessels.

Concussions

General overview

Types of concussions 1, 2

Concussion complications

Mild Brain Injuries: The next step up from most severe type of concussion, Grade 3

Post-concussion syndrome

Second impact syndrome: When a second blow delivered before recovering from the initial concussion has catastrophic effects. Apparently rare.

Recovering from a concussion

Symptoms: Scroll about halfway down the page for the most severe symptoms

Whiplash

General notes: If you pass out, even for a few seconds, it’s serious. If you have multiple concussions over a lifetime, they will be progressively more serious. Symptoms can linger for a long time.

Character reaction:

Shock (general)

Physical shock: 1, 2

Fight-or-flight response: 1, 2

Long-term emotional trauma: 1 (Includes symptoms), 2

First aid for emotional trauma

Treatment (drugs)

WebMD painkiller guide

Treatment (herbs)

1, 2, 3, 4

Miscellany

Snake bites: No, you don’t suck the venom out or apply tourniquettes

Frostbite

Frostbite treatment

Severe frostbite treatment

When frostbite sets in: A handy chart for how long your characters have outside at various temperatures and wind speeds before they get frostbitten

First aid myths: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 Includes the ones about buttering burns and putting snow on frostbite.

Poisons: Why inducing vomiting is a bad idea

Poisonous plants

Dislocations: Symptoms 1, 2; treatment. General notes: Repeated dislocations of same joint may lead to permanent tissue damage and may cause or be symptomatic of weakened ligaments. Docs recommend against trying to reduce (put back) dislocated joint on your own, though information about how to do it is easily found online.

Muscular strains

Joint sprain

Resuscitation after near-drowning: 1, 2

Current CPR practices: We don’t do mouth-to-mouth anymore.

The DSM IV, for all your mental illness needs.

Electrical shock

Human response to electrical shock: Includes handy-dandy voltage chart

Length of contact needed at different voltages to cause injury

Evaluation protocol for electric shock injury

Neurological complications

Electrical and lightning injury

Cardiac complications