My Biggest Problem

9 Ways To Communicate About Relationship Problems…Without Making Things Worse.

One of the biggest pitfalls in any relationship is getting caught in the trap of needing to be right. Inevitably the two (or more) people in the relationship come across things they disagree on; stumbling blocks that put the relationship in jeopardy. If you don’t know how to communicate when you come across these blocks, or if you find yourself not understanding each other, you end up with a mess. You two might start resenting each other, or you might start arguing even more. And if you’re already struggling with disagreements, fighting more could be the final nail in the coffin. Avoid this weird, complicated process by taking care of yourself and your partner, and making sure you two are on the same page.

1. Utilize “I feel” Statements

If you speak from a place of personal experience, there’s less of a chance for someone’s defense mechanisms to come into play. Many times in arguments and disagreements it’s these defense mechanisms that cause the most harm. People get angry, sad, and they no longer think clearly. By making sure you’re talking about your experience and what you feel, you’ll……

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Color Magick

Ways you can use Color Magick

When choosing your outfit for the day

When picking out a candle for your spell and ritual

Candle Magick

Painting or Drawing

To add intention to your writing

Black

Symbolizes:

Grounding

Protection

Safety

Death

Underworld

Restriction 

Night

Magickal Uses:

Reversing

Uncrossing

Unhexing

Banishing 

Black Magick Repelling

Banishing negative energy

Releasing

Defense

Scrying

Hexing

Cursing

Protection

Wards off negativity

Spirit Contact

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

Death

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Saturn

Week Day correspondence: Tuesday + Saturday

Direction: North

Brown

Symbolizes:

Earth

Concentration

Construction

Stability

Animal

Magickal Uses:

House Blessing

Animal Magick

Pet Magick

Earth Magick

To influence Friendships

Element: Earth 

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Scorpio

Capricorn

Direction: North 

Copper

Symbolizes:

Money

Fertility

Magickal Uses:

Business and financial success 

Money Drawing

Fertility 

Career Growth

Gold

Symbolizes:

Fortune

Abundance

Prosperity

Positivity  

Luxury

Health

Justice

Magickal Uses

Luck

Wealth

Good Health

Healing Spells

Solar Magick

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Sun

Week Day correspondence: Sunday

Direction: South

Grey

Symbolizes:

Loneliness

Lore

Knowledge

Wisdom

Transformation

Magickal Uses

Removes negative influences

Increases Knowledge

Inspires Transformation

Communication with the faerie realm

Vision Quests

Planet: Moon

Direction: West

White

Symbolizes:

Purity

Unity

Cleansing

Peace

Balance

Spirituality

Innocence

Truth

Divinity

Love

Calm

Unbiased Opinion

Forgiveness

Acceptance                                                                      

Magickal Uses:

Eliminates negative energy

Creates inner peace

Uncrossing

Consecration

Moon Magick

Protection

Cleanses

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Fool

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Moon

Pisces 

Associated Chakra: Crown 

Week Day correspondence: Monday

Direction: East

Silver

Symbolizes:

Stability

Intuition

Dreams

Communication

Magickal Uses:

Moon Magick

Astral Energy

Telepathy

Clairvoyance

Psychic Awareness

Meditation

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Moon

Week Day correspondence: Monday

Direction: East 

Green

Symbolizes:

Prosperity

Money

Abundance

Healing

Growth

Luck

Faeries

Hope

Rebirth

Youth

Intuition

Nature

Magickal Uses:

Money Spells

Herbal Magick

Garden Magick

Luck drawing

Faerie magick

Plant magick

Money drawing

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Empress

The Lovers

The Hermit 

Justice 

Death

Element: Earth

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Venus

Mercury

Aquarius

Cancer

Associated Chakra: Heart

Week Day correspondence: Thursday

Direction: North 

Blue

Symbolizes:

Communication

Focus

Forgiveness

Truth

Patience 

Harmony

Wisdom

Thoughtfulness 

Youthfulness

Creativity

Healing

Organization

Peace

Justice

Tranquility

Magickal uses:

Removing Bad Vibrations

Astral projection

Water element

Emotional Work

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The High Priestess

The Emperor 

The Hanged Man

Death

Temperance 

Element: Water 

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Jupiter

Moon

Virgo

Capricorn

Aquarius 

Pisces 

Associated Chakra: Throat 

Week Day correspondence: Thursday 

Direction: West 

Purple

Symbolizes:

Wisdom

Power

Wealth

Prophecy 

Magickal Uses:

Contact with spirits

Good fortune

Prophetic visions

Meditation

Divination

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Heirophant 

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Mercury 

Saturn

Capricorn 

Jupiter

Gemini

Sagittarius 

Associated Chakra: Brow

Week Day correspondence: Wednesday + Thursday

Direction: East

Pink

Symbolizes:

Love

Compassion

Friendship

Romance

Intimacy 

Emotions

Self Love

Calming

Harmony

New Beginnings

Honor

Magical Uses:

Brings forth new beginnings

Attracts romance

Attracts new friendship

Encourages self love

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Empress

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Venus influencing Mars

Week Day correspondence: Friday 

Direction: South

Red

Symbolizes:

Passion

Anger

War

Strength

Conflict

Fire element

Healing

Inspiration

Bravery

Courage

Strength

Ambition

Leadership

Confrontation

Combat

Mercy

Magickal Uses:

Helps find love

Fire Element Work

Purification

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Emperor 

The Tower

Judgement 

Element: Fire 

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Aries

Scorpio

Mars influencing Saturn

Associated Chakra: Root

Week Day correspondence: Tuesday 

Direction: South

Orange

Symbolizes:

Creativity

Intellect

Justice

Kindness

Harvest

Strength

Joy

Ambition

Pride

Courage

Prosperity

Attraction

Kinship

Spirit

Abundance

Magickal Uses:

Business success

Spirit communication

Relieves Depression

Correspondence to the Major Arcana:

The Lovers 

The Wheel of Fortune

The Sun

Element: Fire

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Sun

Leo

Sagittarius 

Associated Chakra: Sacral 

Week Day correspondence: Tuesday + Wednesday

Direction: South 

Yellow

Symbolizes:

Happiness

Success

Learning

Memory

Concentration

Inspiration

Imagination

Charm

Confidence

Air element

Will

Trust

Creativity

Communication

Summer

Improves balance

Friendship

Self-Esteem

Vitality

Beauty

Power

Learning

Magickal Uses: 

Sun Magick

Increases productivity

Heightens Self-Esteem

Psychic Endeavors

Correspondences to the Major Arcana:

The Fool

The Magician 

Strength

The Sun

Element: Air

Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:

Mercury 

Taurus

Libra

Associated Chakra: Solar-Plexus 

Week Day correspondence: Sunday

Direction: East

Sources: Witchipedia.com, spiritenterprise.com

May the Moon Light your path!

Moonlight Academy  

Hi, my housemate just started a medication that has serotonin syndrome as a possible side effect. I remember a while back you talking about foods you had to avoid with medications like that. Could you please remind me of them? They're far back in your blog and I can't find the post.

Wow did this arrive out of order. Sorry it wasn’t answered earlier, @noxnoctisanima

If you’re taking any sort of medication that raises serotonin, avoid like the plague: grapefruit of any sort in any form; bergamot oranges or oil or bergamottin itself (which means no Earl Grey tea, nope, can’t do it, along with lemon peel, lime peel, and certain orange peels because of their bergamottin content), hibiscus (this one is such a fucker and makes zero sense), Rose Hips (same problem as the hibiscus, absolute wtf), and no St. John’s Wort or anything that works in similar fashion. Cut your alcohol intake down to almost nill or completely zero. Oh, and no yerba mate for you. It interferes with neurological meds for neurotransmitters (including ones for dopamine, like Welbutrin), and by “interferes” I mean “stops fucking working.”

These are also troublespots for SSRIs:

non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) – a common type of painkiller that includes ibuprofen, diclofenac or naproxen

antiplatelets – a type of medication used to prevent blood clots, such as low-dose aspirin and clopidogrel

theophylline – a medication used to treat asthma

clozapine and pimozide – medications used to treat schizophrenia and psychosis

lithium – a medication used to treat severe depression and bipolar disorder

triptans – a type of medication, such as naratriptan, sumatriptan and zolmitriptan, used to treat migraines  

other antidepressants – including tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs), monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs) and serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs)

Basically, as with any medication, watch your ass, but SSRIs in particular can be dangerous when given to people who also have chronic pain by doctors who don’t stop and fucking *think.* Pain boosts adrenaline, which in turn boosts dopamine, serotonin, and several others. If you’re in pain all the time, your serotonin is often already sky-high. Adding an SSRI on top of that can kill you with one dose.

So if your friend has chronic pain, and their doctor didn’t take this into consideration, they need to go revist this doctor and beat them with a folded metal chair. (Just don’t get caught, and it wasn’t my idea.)

Last thing: if your friend goes from feeling depressed to better with no other difficulties? Great! If your friend’s “better” becomes “completely apathetic” it’s time to adjust doses and/or medications, because apathy is not the result you’re wanting. Also, purple-blue fingernails and toenails = call your doctor right fucking now, and prepare to possibly suffer dropping an SSRI cold turkey.

(Why do I know all this shit? Because one of my previous doctors tried to kill me three fucking times and blew off her own incompetence when I pointed it out. Also every time the intake nurse would put “NO SSRIs” on my file, someone would conveniently go back afterwards and remove that notation…)

Okay, so one more thing: most fucking idiot/useless doctors go right to SSRIs first for patients who come in with depression, most often without actually doing the blood tests that YES, THEY DO EXIST, DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE to see what your primary neurotransmitters that affect mood are actually doing. You should be tested for all 7 of your primaries: acetylcholine (neurotransmitter used by neurons in the control of functions ranging from muscle contraction and heart rate to digestion and memory), norepinephrine, serotonin, dopamine, GABA, glutamate, and endorphins before you are prescribed *any* sort of anti-depressant, but the 4 most important ones are usually norepinephrine, serotonin, dopamine, and GABA.

Anyway: Good luck, because getting proper treatment for this shit is a handbasket of fuckin’ Nope.

Celebrate Yule

Outside:

Leave out birdseed ornaments as offerings to the season

If snowing, play in the snowfall to appreciate the changing season or collect some for snow water

After the sun has gone down, burn a yule log in a bonfire

Take some friends and go wassailing! 

In the Home:

Make stovetop potpourri as an alternative to incense 

DIY gifts with your witch skills for your friends and family 

Read a winter solstice tarot spread for yourself

Decorate your holiday tree, blessing the ornaments with good energy

Hang mistletoe for protection and (consensual!) kisses

In the Kitchen:

Make one of these Celtic Yule recipes

Prepare some traditional or non-traditional wassail for any adults

Bake mini yule logs to share with family and friends 

Make Swedish Lussekatter rolls or Norwegian Julekake bread 

In the Bath:

Bathe with fresh orange slices and frankincense and myrrh essential oils for a prosperity ritual bath

Take a lazy witch holiday LUSH bath (our suggestions here) 

Do a pre-solstice ritual bath with essential oils

Make winter spice bath bombs and enchant them for prosperity

On your Altar:

Use colors like reds, greens, whites, and metallic colors

Add holly, pine, ivy, mistletoe, juniper, or cedar for some greenery

Decorate with a yule wish bottle to for some easy magic

Represent the seasonal harvest with oranges, pears, nuts, and berries

Incorporate snowflake obsidian, clear quartz, or bloodstone

How to Make Tarot Spreads

Learn how to make your own tarot spread. This is based on my personal practice so feel free to customize it as needed! 

I've written the steps out in a linear manner but they are not numbered. The reason for this is because the process itself is rarely linear (for me) and I tend to bounce between steps, changing things as I go until I've got the finished product.

On to the creation process!!

Think about a life event that you wish to have guidance on (or wished to have guidance on at the time). Or perhaps a situation that left you with many burning questions time and time again. These will be your main topic for the tarot spread.

You can also choose a topic that's easier and less hard-hitting like a new season, natural phenomenon, or celestial cycle (ie. the new moon in Leo, Taurus season approaching, the last frost, etc.) You can also pull from pop culture to create a tarot spread.

Pick a number, something manageable. I usually go between 3 and 7 cards, personally. Sometimes the number of cards you use will also be relevant to your spread if you hold certain beliefs about numbers. If this is the case then feel free to leverage this when creating cards!

Think about questions that the situation left you with or things you wished you'd thought about while going through the event. You'll use these to create prompts for the cards. 

Choose a pattern, aka how your cards will lay once they've been pulled. This is the "spread".

Put it all together and you've got a spread! You can choose a title or not, I usually choose the title somewhere within the creation process as they just sorta come to me naturally. Sometimes the title comes first and I work from there.

Example:

Topic: I've been dealing with a breakup recently so that will be my topic for the spread. I'll walk you through my process. 

Questions someone has when going through heartbreak are things like: What went wrong? Is this for the best? What did I do wrong? What did I do right? When will I feel ok again? What do I do now? Etc.

Pulling the Cards: Of course, you can choose the tried and true shuffle-and-pull method of pulling cards, but you can also get more creative with it.

I've chosen a "sandwich" method, where you shuffle the deck and find a specific card, then you pull out the card directly in front of and behind the card in question.

What do I think of when I think of tarot and breakups? The three of swords, a card notorious for being about heartbreak.

So, we'll look for the 3 of swords and pull out the card in front of and behind it. I will shuffle again and pull the 3rd card from wherever in the deck it calls to me.

Pattern: I want to keep with the theme of the 3 of swords so I plan on the 3 cards being pulled laying above and slightly angled, similar to the look of the original 3 of swords.

Prompts: Questions someone may have when going through heartbreak are things like, What went wrong? Is this for the best? What did I do wrong? What did I do right? When will I feel ok again? What do I do now? Etc.

Using these questions and emotions, I can come up with the card prompts.

Put it all together. If you're extra, like me, you can create a graphic or draw up a design for your tarot spread! You can find the finished product of my tarot spread here: 

3 of Swords Heartbreak Spread

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Aphrodite Antheia, the friend of flowers moodboard 🌹

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Closeted Witch Masterpost

Hey all:) I decided to whip up a quick masterpost with some of my favorite resources for the secret witches out there! I’m planning on adding some more later, but I wanted to get this up anyway. 

Tips & Tricks & Masterposts

Concealing Your Craft

Closet Witch Masterpost

Secret Witch Masterpost

100 Secret Witch Tips

Secret Witch Tips

Closet Witch Tips

Closet Witch Tips

Secret Witches

Discrete Witch Tips

Alibi Tips

Easy Containers 

Candle Alternatives

Hiding Pendulums 

Clever Alter Ideas

Digital Alter

Making a Portable Alter

Lunar Ritual Tips for Closet Witches

Unconventional Spell Components

Protection Correspondences

Sigil Tip for Closet Witches

Random Tip 1

Random Tip 2

Random Tip 3

Random Tip 4

Random Tip 5

Random Tip 6

Random Tip 7

Possibly Useful Sigils 

“My Grimoire is protected”

“I Am Protected”

“Protection”

“I Will Aquire a Safe Living Space”

“This Item Will Remain Safety Within My Reach”

“The Topic of ____ is off-limits”

“I Am Free From the Control of My Parents”

“My Parents Will Love and Accept Me for Who I Am”

Sigil Nullifier 

Easy-to-hide Witchcraft 

Infused Water

Teas for Divination

Playing Card Divination

Palmistry 

Milkshake Magic

Make a Sigil ;)

Audio Sigils

Laundry Magic

Stichomancy

Color Magic

Colormancy

Nail Polish Magic

Witchy Garden

Astrology Birthcharts

Coffee Magic

Hot Chocolate Magic

Aromatherapy Magic

DIY Tarot for Closet Witches

50 Simple Charms

Super Simple Potions

Artsy Witch Ideas

Emoji Magic

Tea/Coffee Reading

Casting Glamours 

Shower Cleansing 

Resources

Useful PDF Books

Other Books

More Book Recommendations

Even More Book Recommendations!

How to Research

Other

Fun witchy crafts

Cute witchy worksheets

Tricks for Broke Witches

Advice for Baby Witches

More Advice for Baby Witches

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Witchcraft Masterpost 5

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☾ m o o n s a l t  ☽

☾ What is moonsalt?  ☽

I knew moonsalt since I was a little kid, and I  had no idea that it was witchcraft. thing. Basically moonsalt = salt+ash+oil. Of course you can add wahtever you want to  this is just a base.

☾ What i need to make it?  ☽

★ 1 or 2 teaspoons of salt (normal or sea salt, I prefer normal)

★ piece of paper and a pen

★ some oil (I use lavender oil)

Write a sigil on the paper. I mostly use protection or balance sigil. Then burn the paper (be carefull!)

Mix ash, salt and oil and keep it safe in a tiny bottle. You can carry your moonsalt in your bag for protection or keep it in your house for balance. 

☾ Why moonsalt? ☽

I was a kid when I called it like that, probably because of its colour. 

☾ Moonsalt will help you to keep balance in your life and its really simple to do even for baby witches ☽