“you Think You’re In Love And This Is The One And This Is It. You May Be Right, But Before You Move

08.06.19

These bygone products. via r/TheWayWeWere by @BB_67

A very dangerous state of mind: thinking one understands.

Paul Valery

I’m a cis-gender man which basically means that, when I was born, the doctor went “It’s a boy!” and when I was old enough to understand I agreed with him.

The thing is, I don’t know why I feel like a man.  I was teased and bullied for it a lot when I was little.  I’ve never had stereotypically American male interests.  I never cared about sports or cars or guns.  I was more interested in music and cooking and the arts.  I’ve always been emotionally in tune and sensitive, even when I did my best to suppress my emotions to survive a childhood of abuse from other children.

It’s not physical either.  I don’t feel like a man because I have a penis or a beard.  If you put my brain in a robot body or any other body, my essence would still feel male (I assume).  I literally can’t imagine what being any other gender would feel like, since I feel so acutely male.

I think that’s why the concept of being transgender always made sense to me.  I’m a man.  I don’t have any bloody clue why I feel like a man, but I don’t feel that it’s tied to my body or my interests or the way that I’ve been treated.  I feel like a man because of something beyond that.  Something ephemeral.  So, why couldn’t others feel the same?  Why couldn’t a person who’s been misidentified as a girl feel like a boy for the exact same nebulous reasons that I do?

And, since gender really doesn’t make any sense to me anyway, why couldn’t there also be people who feel as if they don’t have one?  Or who flow across genders like a ship on a map?

Are there people out there whose sense of their own gender is inseparable from their physical form?  If you put those people into robot bodies or, simply, other physically different bodies, would their gender identity also swap?  If so, why?  Are they actually more lost in their gender identity than I am and they need to hone in on the physical in order to anchor themselves?

Why do people feel like they are the gender that they are?

Gustav Klimt

Three Ages of Woman (detail)

(via @lonequixote)

SOME INSPIRATION FOR Y'ALL

If you want to win an earth sign over, you better make them feel comfortable, make them feel secure. Make them feel like there is nothing to worry about, they're not a sign that plays games. One sign of childish games and they will more then likely just stop fucking with you. Once they know they have you tho, they are extremely loyal, dedicated and extreme softies. They will treat you like royalty in all honesty (at least from my experience). They are also BIG family people so they need to know that you can get along with their family. That is also a big factor in their relationships, a lot of them value their families approvals. These people love their lazy days too, just wearing their pj's around the house, no makeup nothing. So they also need a partner who is able to just chill out with them and not ask much of them on these days. They value their comfort and they need someone who values it just as much if not more.

Solar Eclipse over the UAE 

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