Ricky's Issue

ill redraw this someday

happy final destination day!

broke: imagining reddie in college aus as aged up versions of finn and jack

woke:

Rosanna Pansino "The Socialite"

Mood Board

This is for everyone that thinks that Nini has done nothing wrong and that the breakup was all Ricky's fault.

For the record, Ricky has done some messed up stuff. I've talked about what he did and why I believe he did it, here, here and here (the last is not my post), and talked about rini in general (including some of what Nini did), here. Those are not excusing what he did by any means, but hopefully they give more if an understanding to his actions.

Now this post is focusing on Nini.

I've heard people say that there's nothing wrong with her wanting to be independent and focus on herself and that's true, but when you're in a relationship, communication is key.

First of all, she lied about why she stayed in Salt Lake. She knew that Ricky thought she stayed for him and just let him believe that, and then got upset when he mentioned it. You never told him, your boyfriend, the reason why you made such a huge decision that could have a big effect on your life. Only to be upset that he thought it was because of him, when you made it seem like it was and didn't tell him otherwise.

Secondly, Ricky can't read Nini's mind and I think she forgets that. She makes decisions about her life that can affect her relationship with him without proper communication and explanation and gets mad at him when he asks questions about it. She's been distant and he wants to know why, it's only natural for him to think that it's because of something he did. And if it isn't, then tell him that.

Finally, she hasn't told him what she wants. He's trying to help her but all he has to go off of is the last thing she told him she wanted, which was to be an actress. She literally left to go to an acting school. She can't blame him for trying to get her back into the musical because when he asked about it, she didn't say "No I do not want to be in the musical", she said something like "It doesn't seem fair" and brushed it off. He wanted to surprise her by talking to Ms Jenn about it but when ms Jenn said no, he dropped it. He didn't push for her to get a part, Ms Jenn came up with it herself. Even if her dreams changed or if she doesn't fully know what they are yet(which she said in episode 4), Ricky could offer his support to her while she figures it out. Right now, it seems like she's half in, half out, she's going through so much on her own and treating the relationship as though it's a side thing and not a big thing that she should be committed to. She lives for her independence, which I can understand, but she can't push Ricky aside like that with no explanation.

He is your partner.

He deserves to know why you're pushing him away. Set boundaries and cooperate with him and have calm discussions about what you both want. Say that you need some time to figure yourself out, or break up with him. It's that simple.

Camilo: *Watching Dolores sleep*

Camilo: *Thinking* Oh, she looks so calm and peaceful when she sleeps.

Camilo: *Places a megaphone next to Dolores's face*

What would be the favorite Broadway musical of each loser?

Eddie: Dear Evan Hansen

Richie: The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Bill: The Lion King

Stan: The Phantom Of The Opera

Mike: Be More Chill

Ben: Hamilton

Beverly: Hairspray