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Feeling safe in someone's energy is a different type of intimacy. That peace of mind and security is very underrated and I cannot emphasize this enough.

It takes a special person 😘

Interesting concept…

The people we attract into our lives are a mirror of our innermost beliefs about ourselves and the world. Use your mirror wisely.

The Importance of Routine

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It is almost universal; when a Dom/sub couple move in together the D/s fades away. Not entirely, but just as a vanilla couple spends far less time having sex than they do just co-existing, so too does virtually every D/s couple I know spend most of their time in vanilla-mode. 24x7 sounds like the dream but, that I have seen, very few actually maintain it.

Of the 24x7 D/s relationships I have been in, only one did not follow this pattern, and the key was routine, having a few things that happened throughout our days that we neither of us had to think about or plan, but that just happened.

Every night at bedtime she would ask where she was to sleep. About half the nights I permitted her to sleep with me, and the other nights she was locked in her cage. Right there I have made it so there is no way either of us can feel she is just a girlfriend. Not just by the power to make her spend her night locked in a cage like an animal, but that she cannot even go to bed without asking me where she is allowed to sleep. Also, it made sleeping in my bed a treat that she did not take for granted.

Before crawling into cage or bed she was expected to get on her knees, cheek to the floor and “say her prayers” which started with “I am my owner’s cunt…” and then she would ad lib with whatever she was feeling about our relationship.

Partly this was simple cognitive reprogramming, but I also wanted the feedback. Gratitude was nice, but sometimes she would confess some negative feeling. It was important that she knew there was a safe space for this; if you insist on only hearing the good stuff you will not be able to guide things properly. Authority and responsibility go hand in hand and without honest feedback you cannot make informed decision for her. She wants to give up control, but to do that she has to know that you are capable of caring for emotional well-being.

In the morning, often without even opening my eyes, I would press the button on the key-fob remote on my bedside table and the cage’s electric dead-bolt would open in the other room and she would come like a well-trained dog (unless she had slept with me in which case I would just reach out and shove her sleeping head down). Either way, she started every day burying her face in my ass to lick my sphincter.

Again, neither of us had to think about it. I was often not even really awake and might drift in and out of sleep while she lapped at my hoop, but there is no way either of you can forget your respective roles when that is the very first thing that happens each morning, when she must continue tonguing your asshole until you give her permission to move up to your balls and ultimately sucking your cock.

She might not wake up every morning dreaming of licking your balls, but after 10 or 20 minutes of tonguing your butt she will be eager for the change.

There were a number of other little routines I set - putting my shoes on and her kissing them goodbye, not allowing her on the furniture without permission - but the only other major one was that when I got home from work. She was expected to be ready for sex. I let her use her creativity as to what would await me. Since my arrival time could vary a lot I would call her when I got off the highway and give her an ETA and she would give me a “traffic report” on her body – was she on her period, was she constipated or her piles acting up, or “all lanes are open”.

Very often after a long day the last thing that I was interested in was sex. At least as often she was just going through the motions, making herself sexy and putting out because it was expected, not because she had any real interest. Surely most of those times if I had not set the routine we would have simply greeted each other with a kiss and a “how was your day?”. So many times I got to the door and sighed, “I am SO not into this”. But the expectation was there so in a way I did not have any more choice than she did which is exactly what gave the routine its power.

Then, without exception, I would open the door and find her kneeling with her mouth open or bent over the coffee table or over the back of the couch or on hands and knees in bed holding her butt-cheeks open for me and suddenly I was very into it and poking into her body seemed like a wonderful idea. Within 10 seconds of walking in the door I would be in one hole or the other; sometimes for half an hour, sometimes just for a few minutes, but what was important was that we started every evening with her as my personal whore.

Many times she was clearly not into it, utterly bored, her mind on other things. Not surprising since the only foreplay she ever got was a squirt of lube. But that was the point. Just as every morning started with her at the bottom, her face jammed in the crack of my ass while I slept, so every evening we were both reminded that her holes were mine to fuck and her pleasure was of no importance. She only orgasmed with difficulty so I was certainly not going to bother about that. If she did good job I might reward her when I was finished with her by letting her crawl into a corner of the room to get herself off, but the more I treated her like a cunt instead of a lover the better it reinforced our dynamic.

Mind you, because she loved that dynamic as much as I did it was almost inevitable that within 30 seconds of me fucking one of her disinterested holes she would feel so utterly used and disgusted with herself that she would get turned on. Oh the mystery of a sub’s mind where not being turned on is what turns you on.

And if not, a pillow over her face to dehumanize her, to tell her I am completely disinterested in her as a person and just want a living “love-doll” to get off in usually did the trick and I would soon hear her muttering “whore, stupid whore” to herself as I sawed away in an increasingly sloppy-wet hole.

Such a great way to re-tune both our brains from our busy, vanilla days to “I’m home now and you are my owned cunt.” The rest of our evening might be D/s or might be mostly vanilla, but with those various routines throughout our days the D/s was never very far below the surface. I have had other LTRs with subs, but without those routines things soon drift into vanilla with only a sprinkling of D/s.

If you want to keep the intensity of when you were first dating, set some routines so that the basic submission happens without either of you having to think about it.

This is my ideal dynamic.

Exactly ☮️💜🖕🏻 Peace Love and a little go fuck yourself. 😉

Indeed! Makes you think…

pure intention is sexy. strong boundaries are sexy. open communication is sexy. emotional intelligence is sexy. healing is sexy. conflict resolution is sexy. being consistent is sexy. being disciplined is sexy. being direct is sexy. being genuine is sexy. being private is sexy.

Absolutely!!!

Indeed!

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Absolutely…and often!