I’m Reposting This Not Because I Am Into The Intimacy (yes, To Some That Is Exactly What This Is) Of

I’m reposting this not because I am into the intimacy (yes, to some that is exactly what this is) of this style, it more so for what stillkinkin added…it’s not about what happens, it’s about the connection, the honorable discussion, and very specifically, clarity and trust.

When people hear Dominant or submissive, often times this is what they think the relationship is. Truly, it is very different for everyone, but to find that person that allows that side of you to emerge and be intimate is what it’s about. It’s not what other people think; it’s about what works for you. And don’t be afraid to explore…you never know what may be your ultimate release! Communicate; don’t assume!

it's okay to hit me!

like, it's okay to hit me. it really is! and you'll hurt me, that's fine, and if i break and bleed, i'll survive, i'll heal...

i'll still love you, too, i wouldn't let you hurt me if i didn't. i'll love you more for hurting me. i'll appreciate you more, i'll thank you!

and i know you need to let it out, so you can let it out on me, where it's safe, where it's okay, where it's wanted and liked.

and yeah, you wanna push someone past the pain they 'like' and do the stuff that'll really hurt, and like, i crave that kind of pain too. make me cry, make it hurt, because i want to feel that too. you want to satisfy yourself until i'm a broken mess, that's fine too, because i want to be broken, i want to be dismantled!

and afterwards, well there's aftercare and stuff. you can be horrified, but i'll tell you it's okay! i'll tell you that i'm fine, that i'm okay. you're not a bad person for wanting this and even though you hurt me you haven't harmed me. i didn't just let you hurt me, but i asked you for it.

i'll tell you again and again, it's okay to hit me, it's okay to hurt me.