I'm Still Stuck On The Fact I Legit Saw Someone With The Take That "Marriage Has Nothing To Do With Amatonormativity

I'm still stuck on the fact I legit saw someone with the take that "Marriage has nothing to do with amatonormativity and was made to protect you" like in what fucking world are you living in because the last time I checked, in the real world, marriage was created and used as a form of control not fucking protection. It is used to control women. It is used to control the rights of queer and disabled people. It was used to control people of color and mixed raced couples. It has always been a form of control. They are withholding rights from those the government doesn't accept as in a LEGAL PARTNERSHIP; because amatonormativity isn't just about romance but about the relationship heirarchy that places MARRAIGE at the top and the idea that society believes you MUST have a partner or else you're a freak and a failure.

To have that take you would have had to ignore the mass amount of evidence proving how harmful marriage has been. How marriage is a common thing abusers use to trap their victims and take control of their lives. How many woman were married to men they hated because otherwise they couldn't get a bank account or house. How disabled people are made to become reliant on their partner and get stuck in abusive or toxic relationships due to that. How even if you divorce you could still lose EVERYTHING because marriage doesn't give you rights to the house. How many marriages require PRENUPS to PROTECT YOU from getting screwed over by your spouse in the chance of a divorce - because again; marriage doesn't give you rights to the house. Different states and different counties will have different laws and those laws were never meant to protect anyone. They were made purely for control.

You are ignorant at best or malicious at worst if you think that marriage shouldn't be criticized when talking about amatonormativity.