Update!!

Does anyone else on the arospec feel incredibly isolated from almost everyone? I don’t mean in a, “they can bond over same-sex relationships/being trans” way, I mean in a, “I no longer see things through an amatonormative lens but almost everyone I talk to does” way. 

The entire concept of love has been shifted drastically for me, but for other people, it’s rigid, inflexible, set in stone; romance is romance, friends are friends, there’s a line, it’s absolute, it’s simply the way things are. 

But so much of that confuses me, now. How can something be inherently romantic? How is teasing and complimenting people considered flirting, which is considered being romantically interested in someone? How is acting or looking at someone in a certain way somehow different between friends, lovers, family? How is platonic intimacy considered simply a stepping stone to romance? How is being emotional with people a sign of attraction? How?

I just don’t understand. And not being able to understand these things leaves me isolated from others, sometimes entirely, and it can be so exhausting sometimes. It’s exhausting to always have to justify why you don’t see things the same way they do, because the way they see things is “right” and “that’s just the way things are”, because “it’s a part of being human”. 

And, unfortunately, a lot of that comes from the LGBTQ+ community, especially when it comes fandom spaces. If you speak up about a same-sex/gender couple perhaps not being romantically interested, or you headcanon someone as aro, it’s always, “why does this happen when it’s a sapphic/mlm couple/lesbian/gay headcanon?” 

The implication that we are homophobic because we don’t see love in the same way others do hurts. The way that so many people see fans who want aromantic representation as simply not supporting gay people. Or when we speak up about people continuing to ship a confirmed/implied/coded aromantic character in romantic relationships, and we’re told to “stop taking it so seriously”. 

Arophobia is isolating, and unfortunately, it’s everywhere. The way society has regulated people’s lives, telling us how to be happy, who to be happy with, the rules of happiness, has long-since ingrained internalized arophobia into everyday life, and it’s so hard when you’re aware of it, but can’t do anything about it because no one wants to step away from their easy, comfortable ideals.

My parents when pregnant with me (probably): We don’t care if it’s a boy or a girl. We just want a healthy child

Me: *is none of the above*

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hey guys don’t forget that self-love is love too✨💕

hello spop fandom, i have come to deliver the memes

futile group effort

dr girls but with suitable clothes they deserve

upd: 4 all the dumb people out there: 1) i didnt kill kodaka and make this designs official, i just like making designs; 2) i know maki was pretending to be a caregiver ok; 3) i dont care if you dont wear fuckin pants but i think if you were an ultimate fighter you would; 4) i know they are wearing school uniforms, its still _just a redesign_ calm down bro

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I dropped every project on my plate to make this comic lol.

This is based on a post I made (before the stream where Finn came to life!!) about DT being a terrible wonderful auncle to Catradora's kid. Featuring my future DT design.

new babies hhhhh💕💕💕💕