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If you don’t mind sharing how do you do your readings ?

What a Tarot Reading with Me Looks Like

BEFOREHAND

Days before you visit, I will ask you to think of three questions on different aspects of your life. I will tell you that if you wish, for the first, I can simply give you an overview of your past, present and future.

THE ENVIRONMENT

Upon entering my sacred space, you will find that the lighting is warm and dim. You will hear quiet music around you to calm your mind. You will feel cool air that is refreshing to inhale. And the smell will be sweet. Like flowers in the air.

THE OFFERING

I will ask you to sit in front of me. Instead of tarot cards, you will see three wooden bowls on the round table between us.

The first contains dark chocolates. We will each have one. You, as an offering to your higher self, asking its permission to be deciphered. Me, as an offering to the old gods, who will use my voice to speak with.

The second bowl will have hot towels, one for each of us, to cleanse away any lingering negative energies. So that when we both touch the cards with our hands, tarot connects to our true energy.

The third bowl will have a different set of towels, simply for us to dry our hands with.

I will set them all aside, place a velvet cloth on the table, and a tarot deck in my hands.

THE INVOCATION

Together, we will take four deep breaths. You, as you focus on your question. Me, as I calm my body before the old gods take over.

I will ask you to state your query. Let us say it is about love.

You will see me shuffle the cards as I say, "I call upon the Moirai, Holders of Destiny. Clotho, the Spinner, I summon you. Lachesis, the Allotter, I invoke you. Atropos, the Inevitable, I invite you. Venus, Goddess of Love, Beauty and Harmony — everything we desire in life — I seek you."

I will relay your name and query to them. Let us say it is Jane. "I implore you to allow us a glimpse of Jane's destiny. She would like to know about love. Will she find it? When and with whom? What can she look forward to? Anything she should be wary of? We would be grateful for anything you will allow us to know."

So that the cards can touch the thread of your life, I will ask you to cut the deck in half, twice, and to break it in seven piles. I will put the deck back together and start laying out your cards in a Celtic Cross.

THE READING ITSELF

I will speak the position and name of each card as I lay it. After the spread is complete, you will hear me explain each of the thirteen.

The lights are dim for two reasons. Because the Fates live next to Hades and are not used to harsh lighting... and so that the light is focused only on me and your cards, when I show them to you one by one.

As I explain to you the symbols on each card, presenting them as evidence for every message, you will know that my words are not merely based on assumptions or taken from a scripted template. Because instead of hearing highfalutin words, you are seeing your very life... the people around you... your darkest fears... and your greatest hopes... painted on the cards right in front of your eyes.

I will speak your name repeatedly, helping you grasp that these hidden truths are being revealed to you directly.

After I have explained each card to you, I will close your reading by highlighting the advice, the warning, and above all, the prediction you received.

I will ask you if you have any clarifications. Instead of those, you will have exclamations. You will say something along the lines of, "I thought you would only say generic things. But instead you described my life in detail." You will start laughing or crying. Sometimes both. I will offer you a tissue box so your tears do not wet my cards.

We will move on to your next question, repeating a part of the invocation.

AFTERWARDS

You will ask me when you should come back. I will tell you that you probably should not. That sometimes, a person only needs to have one tarot reading in her life.

But in a few days, weeks or months, when my predictions have come true, you will come back anyway, asking more about your tomorrow and your yesterday.

Hello! Hope you're having a good day! I wanted to ask if you could tell me anything about astral projection? I really want to do it but I'm worried if it's dangerous and also wanted to know how to exactly go about it? If you could help, that'd be great. Thanks a lot ♥️

We call it wandering.

I first did it when I was five.

I woke up after a nap crying. I told my dad I saw a dollhouse in my dream, and that I wanted it. He gave me the equivalent of USD 20, told me to go back to sleep and buy it.

Of course he really gave me the money so I could get one from the mall. But the cash was gone by morning. I was angry. I thought my dad took it back. He swore he did not, and had my brother take me to the mall to find a dollhouse.

That night, I woke up at 3:00 AM. Instead of the dollhouse we bought hours before, what I glimpsed on my desk was the one I had seen in my dream. I went back and bought it after all.

Even now, when I sleep over in my childhood home and wake up in the middle of the night to pee, I still see it on the desk, as if waiting to play with me.

It is only our body that requires sleep. When we dream, our soul stays awake, journeying in limbo to places our body cannot go. We either find ourselves in our memories of the past, in a hidden corner of the present, or in the future. Even in a parallel reality, or beyond the veil. Oftentimes, we come across other people.

Wandering, or astral travel, is simply setting a destination instead of merely going with the flow; as well as making sure the mind remembers the expedition.

The first step is to decide where you wish to go. A moment from your childhood? A year into the future? In a parallel reality where a loved one who has passed on is still alive? Or the day when you will walk the aisle as a bride?

Wherever it is, you will visit as a spectator, unable to influence what is happening in that reality, but capable of interacting with other wanderers. Think of it as watching a movie. But instead of being in front of the screen, you are inside it.

On a night when the moon is full or waxing, go to bed wearing the appropriate shoes. If it is cold where you are going, bring a jacket. If it is likely to rain, hold an umbrella.

Once you are used to wandering, you will no longer need the help of the moon and the protection of clothing.

Lull yourself to sleep by slowly reciting:

“Neirtsalop, sutidar. Samre, rutacirep. Udnapret, atartso.”

Hum the words slowly. Chant them rhythmically. They are powerful words that lift the veil, allowing your soul to leave this reality. As you speak them, think of the place you wish to be.

The moment you surrender to slumber, you are guaranteed to get there. What is uncertain is if upon waking, you will remember your journey. If you do not, it only means you are not yet strong enough.

Keep trying. Some witches succeed on their second night, others on their ninth. There are those who can do it on their first, but only for a few moments, before being thrown back into our world.

You know how the saying goes. Anything that is worth doing is worth failing at, at first.

Dear Lady D, hope you're doing great today! My boyfriend's mom gave me access to his birth chart via his birth time haha. He's aware too. :) I was wondering what to look at or how to read a natal chart when reading about love or compatibility? Thank you, Lady D!

HOW TO READ A BIRTH CHART FOR LOVE COMPATIBILITY

Contrary to what you may think, you do not need to go into endless details. Checking the stars for love compatibility is quite simple and easy.

STEP 1: Know which signs are compatible.

They are Earth and Water, then Fire and Air.

Which means Earth signs Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo are compatible with any of the Water signs, Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces. And vice versa.

This is because Water is wild and shapeless, but Earth can tame it and give it form. While Earth is dry and hard. But water can soften it and blend with it to create bridges and castles.

Additionally, Fire signs Aries, Leo and Sagittarius are compatible with any of the Air signs, Libra, Aquarius and Gemini. Again, vice versa.

This is because a wildfire never dies as long as there is wind to fuel it. And Air is invisible, but near Fire, you can see its dancing silhouette. They strengthen each other, creating the perfect blend of warmth and chill.

Zodiac signs belonging to the same element also go well together, but they are not as compatible as the above. Because too much similarity can create boredom or competition, which can destroy a connection.

STEP 2: Consider the modality.

If Step 1 revealed incompatibility, do not be disheartened just yet.

Know that Cardinal and Mutable tend to be compatible, while Fixed likes to seek itself.

Which means Cardinal signs Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn should find comfort with any of the Mutable signs, Sagittarius, Pisces, Gemini and Virgo. Vice versa applies.

This is because both Cardinal and Mutable signs straddle two seasons: Cardinals sit between the end of the last season and the beginning of their own, while Mutables sit between the end of their season and the beginning of another. They know what it is like to be flexible.

As for Fixed signs Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius, they should find kinship in one another.

This is because Fixed signs sit right in the middle of their season. Taurus in the middle of Spring; Leo in the middle of Summer; Scorpio in the middle of Fall; and Aquarius in the middle of Winter. That makes them solid, strong, stable. They can trust one another.

Modality compatibility should temper elemental incompatibility. 

STEP 3: Look beyond the Sun.

If both Step 1 and Step 2 revealed incompatibility, again, do not be disheartened.

Yes, your Sun is your personality. Your overall behavior. And in a natal chart, it is superior to all others.

But we are talking about love. And that domain is not owned by the Sun. It belongs to Venus. So perform Step 1 and Step 2 again, but this time, forget the Sun, and look at Venus instead.

STEP 4: Be honest with yourself.

Is it really love compatibility you wish to determine between you and another?

Because if it is just sex, then looking at Mars and Pluto would be what is accurate. Mars rules our desires, while Pluto rules our genitals. So perform Step 1 and Step 2 again, but this time, forget the Sun and Venus.

Or perhaps you are asexual or aromantic, and are only looking for some sort of companionship. Then look to the Moon and Neptune. For the Moon rules our subconscious emotions while Neptune rules our unconscious emotions. Outside of romance and sex, they define how we express and receive affection.

Then again, maybe you do not care about any kind of love at this stage, and are wondering instead how well you would get along with your boss, business partner or roommate.

For your boss, check your Saturn, for this planet rules authority. For your business partner, check Jupiter, for he rules equality. For your roommate, check Uranus, who rules casual connections. Additionally, for all three, check Mercury. For he rules how we communicate outside of intimate environments.

STEP 5: Try one last time.

If all of the above revealed incompatibility, all hope is not lost.

Whatever kind of compatibility you are looking for, your Rising sign is bound to play a role.

For if your Sun sign is King, your Rising sign is his queen. And even if Venus is Hand of the King in romance, and Mars and Pluto are Lords Commander in sex, the queen is still closer to the king and holds authority over them.

So for the last time, perform Steps 1 and 2 again, but this time, look at your Rising sign.

If, at the end of this post, you find yourself filled with sadness at your undeniable incompatibility with your person, know that when it comes to the identity of your soulmate, the stars alone do not dictate.

Completely inspired by x

do you have any advice on how to start studying magic? i've been interested in witchcraft for a while but it all seems so complex i have no idea where to begin. i know you're not like an advice blog so i don't want to overstep my boundaries you just seem pretty knowledgeable!

I do, it helps greatly to research as much as you can on traditional witchcraft and other types of magick, like folk magick. Once you have a clear idea of how magick operates, you can begin experimenting with it. Though instead of writing out a ton of things for you, I can give you some links instead so you can get started ❤️

Some books/pdfs

Witch Bottles

Basics of Magick

Familiars vs Magickal Pets

Planetary Hours

Planetary Squares (for sigil-making)

The Black Toad - Gemma Gary

Nordic Shamanism: Seidr

Major Arcana Cheat Sheet

The Fool: The Fool is a very powerful card in the Tarot deck, usually representing a new beginning – and, consequently, an end to something in your old life. The Fool’s position in your spread reveals which aspects of your life may be subject to change. The Fool portends important decisions ahead which may not be easy to make, and involve an element of risk for you. Approach the changes with optimism and care to gain the most positive outcome.

The Magician: The Magician generally associates with intelligent and skillful communicators. His presence in your spread indicates a level of self-confidence and drive which allows you to translate ideas into action. A practical card, the revelations it brings are best applied to the pragmatic and physical aspects of your life, rather then the ephemeral or theoretical. Your success in upcoming ventures in politics or business will likely hinge upon your own strength of will and determination.

The High Priestess: Your identification with the High Priestess suggests you possess inherent good judgment, in the form of strong intuition. She may indicate that reason should take second place to instinct. Your head must trust in the wisdom of your heart for a change. Yet, she is also an aide by nature, and her presence in certain parts of your spread could be indicative of someone close to you coming to your rescue with their own intuition. Intuition is most effective at seeing what is hidden to the senses, so the High Priestess may also come as a warning of concealed facts or influences that are, or will be, important to you.

The Empress: Traditionally associated with strong maternal influence, the presence of the Empress is excellent news if you are looking for harmony in your marriage or hoping to start a family. Any artistic endeavors you are currently associated with are also likely to be more successful, as this card often finds those exposed to strong bursts of creative or artistic energy. That creative energy may not be in the form of a painting or art project, however: This card also suggests a very strong possibility of pregnancy – not necessarily yours, but you might be seeing a new addition to your extended family or the family of a close friend in the near future! This card is a good portent for you and those around you.

The Emperor: Counterpart to the Empress, the Emperor is signifies a powerful influence, generally male in nature. This can also include concepts in your life historically considered masculine, such as leadership and authority, self-discipline, and stability through the power of action. Its positive influences suggest you may be on a path to advancement or promotion, but it can also be neutral. Often a companion to those destined to take on greater responsibility, it may presage change or loss that necessitates you stepping forward to shoulder a greater burden than you have in the past. Whatever the impetus for the change, it indicates you may possess an uncommon inner strength that will compel you act and to lead.

The Hierophant (Pope): Depending on your own nature, the Hierophant can mean very different things. At its root, it represents doctrine, but doctrine can come in the form of teaching and guidance or rigid authority. Where it appears in your spread is also important, as it is most often indicative of your own approach to the moral, religious, and social conventions of the world. Considered wisely, it helps show the path towards fulfillment. 

The Lovers: Your first instinct will most likely be to associate this card as representing love, but, much like love, it does not possess a simple nature. Not only does love comes in many forms, but the Lovers may indicate important or difficult choices ahead in your life. This is bad, in that the choices it portends are generally mutually exclusive, paths to two very different futures, but also good, in that it also confirms that at least one of those paths will take you to a good place. As such, if you happen to find it in your spread, you should consider it carefully, but not fear it. It tells a story of difficult choices, likely painful, but that the correct decision and a positive outcome are within your grasp. 

The Chariot: You have some hard work ahead of you. It may be resolved quickly, but the Chariot is a powerful card, and the labor you are undertaking will probably trend towards long and difficult. You will quite possibly experience rough roads, long uphill slopes, dead ends, and painful setbacks. A good outcome is only assured if the card is upright, but do not let yourself lose hope: This hard road will instill in you a strength of purpose, the ability to overcome through organization and endurance, and the confidence possessed only by those who have done what they thought they could not. Harnessed correctly, few forces can stand against an individual like that. 

Strength: Strength is the rawest form of power, and you possess it in some form. It is a very happy card if you are fighting illness or recovering from injury. As might be suspected, its influence over you, and the use you put it to, can trend towards light or dark. You likely trend towards facing your problems courageously, head-on, and conquering them through perseverance and will. With this ability to overcome life’s obstacles, though, comes the responsibility to control yourself, and it this card may be a warning to take command of your own actions or emotions before they damage you or the people you care about.

The Hermit: There are times in every life, when one must step back and make a careful examination of their situations and decisions. Finding the Hermit in your spread suggests this is just such a time for you. You are in need of a period of inner reflection, away from the current demands of your position. This retreat can be physical, or a search within. Only a deep and honest introspection will lead to a solution, however.

Wheel of Fortune: Symbolic of life’s cycles, the Wheel of Fortune speaks to good beginnings. Most likely, you will find the events foretold to be positive, but, being aspects of luck, they may also be beyond your control and influence. Tend those things you can control with care, and learn not to agonize over the ones you cannot.

Justice: Justice is a very good card to find in your spread if you have acted with kindness and fairness towards other and, especially, if you have been a victim. It is a significant indicator of a positive resolution, although how and what sort will depend on your own experiences. If you have been unfair, abusive, or otherwise shady and immoral in your dealings, though, pay heed. For the unjust, this card is, at best, a dire warning to change your ways before retribution falls upon you, and, at worst, a simple statement that it is already too late. In neutral cases, it may simply be telling you to seek out balance in your life. 

The Hanged Man: The Hanged Man can be interpreted in two very different ways. All change is a small kind of death, as the old must die to create the new, and it may simply indicate upheaval or change in your future, perhaps beyond your control, but more likely a decision that, for good or ill, you will not be able to turn back from. The other interpretation is one of sacrifice, although whether this sacrifice is small or great may not be easily interpreted. Both interpretations imply permanence, and that you should give very careful thought to the decisions in your life. 

Death: Death is indicative of change in your future. This change can be in almost any aspect of your life, but it will almost certainly be permanent, significant, and absolute. Death suggests a complete severance between the past and the future, and it will likely be painful. Despite the sense of loss that may accompany it, Death fills an important and natural role in life, and leads eventually to acceptance. It is a necessary part of moving forward, and you will find the changes easiest if you embrace them, rather than fight them. Expect the end of a close friendship, a job, a marriage, or even a life, but do not focus too greatly on the negative.

Temperance: An optimistic card, Temperance encourages you to find balance in your life and approach problems with a calm demeanor. It recognizes that opposing forces need not be at war within you. Tread carefully in any major decisions you make, with confidence that good decisions will lead to a good resolution for you.

The Devil: The Devil is in the business of entrapment. It signifies a situation from which there is no escape, or a road leading to one. Forewarning may let you avoid the trap, or it may not. What sort of trap, and how you might avoid it, depends on where the Devil appears in your spread, and what other cards surround it. This card does not foretell doom, only the need for prudence.

The Tower: Dark and foreboding, the Tower is the embodiment of disruption and conflict. Not just change, but the abrupt and jarring movement caused by the unforeseen and traumatic events which are part of life. The Tower in your spread is always a threat, but life inevitably involves tragedy, and you must decide whether you will face it with grace.

The Star: The Star’s presence signifies a period of respite and renewal for you. This renewal may be spiritual, physical, or both. It is a particularly positive sign if you or someone close is recovering from illness or injury. It is a light in the darkness, illuminating your future and your past.

The Moon: Something in your life is not what it seems. Perhaps a misunderstanding on your part, or a truth you cannot admit to yourself. It may also indicate something important being kept from you by another. This may be a source of worry or depression in your life, and the Moon is a strong indicator that you must rely on your intuition to see through the subterfuge.

The Sun: As an inherently good influence, finding the Sun is a positive development. It is suggestive of personal gain, and that personal goals and joy are within reach, if you are willing to invest the effort to actualize them. If you are embarking on a new personal venture, such as marriage or beginning a family, the Sun is of particular influence. 

Judgement: Judgment tells a story of transition, but unlike Death or the Tower, it is not sudden change, or born of luck or intuition, but change that springs from reason. It signifies plans, often long in the making, coming to fruition. If it points towards the future, it may also speak towards the nature of the change; if there is a choice that needs to be made, ruminate and let your mind guide the decision. Logic, in this case, is a better guide than intuition. Be prepared to make a major decision in your life, likely one that will shape the next chapter of your life.

The World: The World is an indicator of a major and inexorable change, of tectonic breadth. This change represents a chance for you to bring about a desirable end to the Old and a good beginning to the New. It is indicative of growing maturity, a sense of inner balance and deeper understanding. It suggests that you may be approaching a more final sense of identity, and the security in the self that comes with age. It also represents the falling away of boundaries, sometimes in the effusive sense of the spiritual, but sometimes in a purely physical sense, indicating travels or journeys in the future. 

The tarot posts here on Tumblr offer a lot of misinformation because I've seen so much contradicting info on what parts of life the minor suits represent. You're the only one I trust to actually know the correct assignments so can you please enlighten me? Would mean a lot! Thanks Lady Di!

YOUR LIFE AND THE SUITS IN TAROT

Wands are your passions.            

The Ace of Wands could mean finding a new hobby, like painting or hiking. The Two of Wands could mean planning the renovation of your home, if interior design or woodworking is among your passions.

Passion is related to creativity. So the Six of Wands could mean your Instagram posts gaining a lot of attention, if you are into fashion or photography.

And we tend to be very passionate about our favorite celebrities and our crushes, so the Eight of Wands could mean receiving attention from someone famous or somebody you are interested in.

Cups are your emotions.

The Ace of Cups could mean the arrival of a new lover, while the Two of Cups could mean romance blooming between you and a friend

Emotions are not always positive. Sometimes it is as if they do not even exist, like in the Four of Cups, where you are bored from feeling nothing. Other times they are negative, like in the Five of Cups, where you could be grieving a death or a breakup.

The Page of Cups could be an invitation to go out on a date. The Knight of Cups could be a marriage proposal. Both offers involve strong emotions.

Swords are your thoughts.

These thoughts could be mundane, like the Two of Swords asking you to decide between steak and salmon for dinner.

Other times, they could be of the higher kind, such as the Four of Swords conveying that your mind is at peace, because you have found your true spiritual path.

Most of the time, though, these thoughts are about day to day affairs, such as the Page of Swords confirming that you will get the job, or the Eight of Swords predicting how stressed you will be because of an exam.

Pentacles are your foundations.

Since we are living in a material world, most of our foundations are material. The Ace of Pentacles could mean starting at a new job, while the Six of Pentacles could mean receiving a bonus.

Foundations are related to stability. So the Five of Pentacles does not necessarily mean you will lose everything and become a beggar. It could simply be predicting that you will suffer a salary deduction because of the pandemic, causing you to feel less financially stable than usual.

For this reason, the King of Pentacles is the most stable figure in this arcana, closely followed by the Queen and the Knight.

They often overlap.

Because all of life overlaps.

If what you are most passionate about is money, then when the Suit of Wands talks to you, it would be speaking about finances, instead of hobbies. And if you are emotionally focused on spirituality, then instead of symbolizing a new lover, the Ace of Cups could mean a new religious journey.

The Three of Swords, for example, is about heartbreak. So why is it not under the Suit of Cups? Because when we are heartbroken, our heart is actually quiet. It is our mind that screams in pain, and that is the Suit of Swords’ domain.

Click here to learn how to read the suits outside of their territories.

Biblical Archaeology Society

How December 25 Became Christmas - Biblical Archaeology Society

Theological scholar Andrew McGowan examines how December 25 came to be associated with the birthday of Jesus and became Christmas, a holiday

It seems we are in "Christians stole our holidays" season so I'm just going to put this link right here.

Hello Lady Diana. I appreciate and respect your advice very much. When I originally got into witchcraft I immediately saw how weak modern witchcraft is. I love your honesty and it stopped me from thinking I was far too cynical of it. I have a question if you could answer for me. I understand there is a difference between Judgment and Justice but I’ve never really understood. Could you explain them to me? Best regards.

JUSTICE VS. JUDGEMENT

When you hurt someone unfairly

Justice: “You will be punished for what you did.”

Judgement: “You will feel guilty and atone for your sins.”

When someone hurt you unfairly

Justice: “They are about to get what they deserve.”

Judgement: “This ordeal was meant to awaken your power.”

When you are asking about a potential lover

Justice: “A Libra is coming. Someone lovely and graceful.”

Judgement: “A Scorpio is coming. Someone dangerously beautiful.”

When you are asking about a current lover

Justice: “They will leave after they have taught you a lesson.”

Judgement: “They are the one you will spend forever with.”

When you are questioning someone’s loyalty

Justice: “This person is fair but not devoted.”

Judgement: “This person will kill and die for you.”

When you are asking about money

Justice: “The money you deserve will be handed to you.”

Judgement: “You will discover how to make the money you need.”

When you are asking about a career path

Justice: “This is the smart and safe choice.”

Judgement: “This is your true calling. Your life purpose.”

When you are asking about a legal matter

Justice: “Whatever is fair and truthful will prevail.”

Judgement: “Whatever happens will change your life forever.”

When you are asking about health

Justice: “Balance will be achieved, but full recovery is impossible.”

Judgement: “Your wellbeing and vitality will be reborn completely.”

As you can see, Justice is passive, while Judgement is active. If life is a game that we play, Justice simply declares the winners and the losers. Judgement, however, is the crowd that is cheering you on or booing you out.

the many faces of saturn

the archetypes have many faces. mercury is not just about being a tricker and the moon doesn’t cry all the time. we’re predisposed to seeing mostly those faces of the archetypes which are strongly expressed in our chart and often remain blind to the rest. 

how do archetypes express their different sides most clearly? through aspects. in this post, i’m gonna go quickly over the expressions of saturn, one of the most multifaceted gods. it’s very easy to conclude saturn is one-dimensional and lacks complexity since it’s an archetype known for its connection to limitations and respect for clear and direct laws and authority. that’s why we often forget how complicated structures, one of the main things associated to the saturn archetype, are.

saturn is also connected to conflict. yes, we’re used to think about mars when it comes to confrontations or about mercury when it comes to arguments and debates. but saturn really steps in when things are about to get tense. this is not the martian way of stepping up face to face to the problem and telling it to shut the fuck up. this is not the mercurian propensity to turn everything into an intellectual butting of heads or the jupiterian inclination for endless philosophical debates where they get the final word. no, this is about friction between two opposing archetypes that you can’t turn away from before you raise your level.

i’m gonna explain this a bit. saturn is, in its very nature, an androgynous archetype. just like mercury. this means it combines two opposing principles - this is also what it teaches us how to do. that’s why when saturn is aspecting a planet, it’s there to teach that planet how to balance its nature with the exact polarity of its nature in order to attain its most perfect and elevated expression. saturn pushes you to gaze into the abyss of the negative expression of every archetype it aspects and to work hard on managing it and containing it. and to use it for your own good rather than just run from it. 

that’s why saturn demands conflict. it doesn’t let you turn away from the tension and it keeps you in its chokehold. “choke me daddy”, as the memes would say lmao

let’s have a look at the polarities it underlines when it aspects the planets.

sun in aspect to saturn - expression of the self vs control of the self. if you consciously develop the sun more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re going to rebuke anything you perceive as an attempt to restrict your self-expression, identity, and needs of the ego. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to suffocate your desire to shine and express yourself authentically and to live feeling as if you’re not fulfilling your creative & individual potential. the key to balance is use control on the self not as a form of restriction but as a way to direct your growth and expression in the direction that you authentically feel inclined to take.

moon in aspect to saturn - nurturing the inner child vs telling it to behave. if you consciously develop the moon more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to expect everyone to baby you and go around calling everyone who isn’t eager to be your emotional slave “toxic” - you might also focus hard on meeting everyone else’s emotional needs and on making them feel completely comfortable, thus disregarding your own comfort. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re going to scold yourself for every emotional expression or even for feeling anything and to expect the world to always treat you coldly, which will make you react to it with the same harshness. there will be a feeling of “the world is hostile so it’s not safe for my soft parts to be out there”. the key to balance is to let yourself feel emotions without trying to restrict them or encourage them in the process and to take a more analytical approach afterwards when you decide whether you need to provoke more of this feeling in your life or to learn how to avoid it.

mercury in aspect to saturn - theory vs practice. also known as intellect vs experience. if you consciously develop mercury more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you are going to focus too much on rationalizing things and analyzing them, leaving behind any practical understanding of the matter. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you will scoff at people who don’t have substance behind their theories and speak without experiencing something first. you may be inclined to disregard the power of the mind and to be the kind of person that wants material proof of everything and “won’t believe it until i see it”. the key to balance is to accept the importance of both functions and to put them to work together - theorize boldly but then try to apply it in practice or freely analyze your experience in order to crystallize their essence.

venus in aspect to saturn - loving yourself & others as they are vs pushing yourself/them to be better so you/they are deserving of love. if you consciously develop venus more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re going to lack the drive to develop your gifts because you’re going to feel like what you have now is enough. there is a tendency to stay in bad relationships because it’s easy for you to see the beauty in everyone and to not demand anything better. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to struggle with maintaining a healthy self-esteem and you’ll find it extremely difficult to love and accept yourself. you’re going to feel like you’re never good enough - the same might be seen in your relationships with other people, you’re often focusing on their weaknesses and pushing them to be better, forgetting to celebrate their strengths. the key to balance is to learn the importance of every stage in life and that living in the present is vital for creating the future - love the Self that lives in the now because she is the creator of the Self you’d love to be in the future. the artist is just as important as the artwork and in the end, they are one and they have been one all along.

mars in aspect to saturn - acting on impulse vs planning. if you consciously develop mars more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to look down on all sorts of thought out and structured long-term investments and actions and lack impulse control, acting mostly on your instinctive drive. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to feel your impulsive drive constantly restricted and as if you constantly have to restrain your instinctive urges like some sort of wild animal. there is a difficulty in starting any action. the key to balance is learn how to harness the impulse so it can drive the plan forward. know yourself better and learn how your impulses arise and why - then be prepared to use them when it happens in a way that benefits your goals.

jupiter in aspect to saturn - puer aeternus (the eternal boy) vs the old man. if you consciously develop jupiter more or it’s more prominent in the chart, you’re going to experience difficulties settling down and being responsible, you’re going to feel as if everything is trying to “tie you down” and is an obstacle to your personal freedom. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re going to purposefully restrict your freedom and constantly create structures and hierarchies that give you the feeling of stability that you crave. a part of you, the part of unlimited creative potential, may feel suffocated. the key to balance is to understand they are both sides of the same coin and can’t live without one another. the old man can teach the eternal boy how to realize his creative potential and the eternal boy can help the old man reconnect with that part of us that feels free and just experiences life without judgement or limitations.

uranus in aspect to saturn - the perfect world of the spirit and the mind vs the flawed and mortal world of matter and physical incarnation. if you consciously develop uranus more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re going to seek out an escape or a way to defeat the messy world of emotions and matter and you will live mostly in your head, denying yourself the rest of life. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to try to castrate the immortal and limitless world of ideas and abstractions and to deny yourself the power of rebellion against the prison of matter. the key to balance is to channel the hunger for perfection into incarnating physically that world of ideas and abstractions - can be through your work or your art. this is a generational aspect so it affects on a less personal level.

neptune in aspect to saturn - perception vs judgement. if you consciously develop neptune more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re focusing too much on understanding others and putting yourself in their shoes. this emphasized connection to the entirety of the human consciousness may drain you and leave you unable to define and defend your own boundaries, to choose what is good for you as opposed to what is good for others - sometimes we all need to make that choice if we don’t wanna turn into doormats. and this kind of behavior can be extremely damaging for the people around you too, not just yourself. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to put effort into shutting yourself away from anything that makes you feel connected to the whole and a part of everything. you may be too cautious of who you let close to you and who you approve of in general and to judge everything harshly, thinking everyone is always out to get you. the key to balance is to perceive the world in its wholeness and to judge what is best for every part of the whole, realizing that everyone deserves to be happy and satisfied without someone having to sacrifice themselves for it. this is a generational aspect so it affects on a less personal level.

pluto in aspect to saturn - tearing yourself down vs building yourself up. if you consciously develop pluto more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’re going to always seek out for ways to destroy yourself even by creating drama and harmful situations/relationships for yourself in order to become someone else, someone stronger and more powerful. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you will be stuck on bettering and maintaining structures that are no longer necessary or useful just because you don’t want to destroy what you’ve invested time & effort in. the key to balance is to work on knowing yourself better so you can pick which structures of your life/personality are needed and which aren’t and to fearlessly destroy those that serve no purpose, building the new ones from scratch. this is a generational aspect so it affects on a less personal level.

ascendant in aspect to saturn - who you are vs who you think you should be. there is a limiting quality to your self-expression and fear of being judged for behaving in a way that’s not approved by whoever you see as an authority. if you consciously develop your ascendant more or it’s stronger in your chart, you may develop quite a scandalous reputation or appear as someone inconsiderate and uncooperative. you may give off a “i will not give you what you want” vibe that pushes people away subconsciously. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you may restrict yourself painfully and feel like you’re suffocating from pretending you’re someone you’re not. you’re the voice of the inner judge that is constantly scolding you for being who you are and giving off the wrong message. the key to balance is in self-reflection - you need to learn how to discern between who someone else wants you to be, who you are and who you want yourself to be. certainly there are traits that others want you to be that you aspire to develop for yourself simply because it will elevate the Self you are now. instead of adopting those traits out of fear for being judged or abandoned or alienated, focus on filtering out those that truly don’t match your authentic desires and on trying to develop those that you find worth in.

north node in aspect to saturn - the road ahead vs blocks and obstacles. if you consciously develop your north node more or it’s more prominent in your chart, you’re going to rush forward to fulfill your life purpose without stopping to learn the lessons that the path is actually paved with. and that sorts of…defeats the purpose. if you consciously develop saturn more or it’s more dominant in your chart, you’ll be so stuck on removing any barier from your way and on dealing with your hardships that you’ll get carried away from actually moving forward and from remembering you have aspirations you wanna reach. the key to balance is to deal with obstacles in the way that the person you imagine yourself to be after fulfilling your life purpose would deal with them. that’s how you become them.

/conjunctions, oppositions and squares will be felt the strongest and demand attention; trines and sextiles are more balanced in general but there is still work to be done; inconjunctions often manifest in your life in ways that you’re not quite aware of and need extra conscious effort to be noticed/