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Very acutate story on Stag/Vixen relationships, reported by New York Times

‘Stag’ men love watching other guys have sex with their wives… but it’s not cuckolding

Plus, there are rules…

IT’S certainly not for everyone, but some men get off watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other men.

According to the New York Post, “Cuckold porn” is the second most searched porn term after “youth”.

Stags enjoy watching their partner have sex with another man

While wife sharing may be a commonly held fantasy, in reality, it’s a sexual scenario that is a step too far for most men.

Not for so-called Stags though.

These guys get a kick watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other men.

The Stag either joins in or watches as a ‘voyeur’.

If the vixen has sex outside the relationship she must recount all the details to her partner

The Vixen, often known as ‘Hotwife’, has sex with the encouragement of her husband or boyfriend with the Bull (that’s the guy who is servicing her).

Another scenario is that the Vixen has sex with a Bull outside of the couple’s shared abode.

Then she comes home and recounts all the details in a blow-by-blow description to turn the Stag on.

So, are we talking cuckolds?

No – for a man to be a cuckold, his partner would have gone behind his back to do the deed – bringing him shame and humiliation.

In the case of Stags and Vixens, everything is laid out in the open.

The stag gets a thrill from watching his vixen have sex with another man.

The stag gets a thrill from watching his partner have sex with someone else

Their little secret

Meet Stag and Vixen couple Susie*, 36, and Shane*, 38, who go under the Twitter handle, @Ourlittlesecret.

So-called because apart from indulging in extra circular bedroom activities, they’re otherwise a long-term straight married couple with kids and regular jobs, whose friends have no idea what they get up to.

Although their 72K Twitter followers do.

For Susie and Shane, the term Stag & Vixen was a better fit than cuckhold.

Shane explains: “It’s a description that suites us perfectly as there is no humiliation or denial involved.

“I prefer to be a voyeur, but occasionally, I’ll join in.

“Watching my wife with another man is a big turn on for me.

“It’s like foreplay.

“As much as I love watching, I can’t wait for the Bull to leave so I can ravish Susie myself.”

For many stags, watching their partner have sex with someone else is their ultimate fantasy

In Stag and Vixen circles, this is known as “reclaiming” and the focus of the couple returning back to each.

It was Shane’s long-held fantasy for Susie to have sex with another man.

Susie explains: “We’d often roleplay it in a fantasy situation.

“However, I was too insecure about my body to entertain the thought of having sex with anyone else.

“Then we started the Twitter account and started posting naked pictures (Susie never shows her face, so there’s an anonymity).

“I enjoyed the exhibitionism and the compliments.

“I got talking to a guy who lived in our city and he asked me out for coffee. Shane was all for it.”

For some, the decision to open up the relationship in this way comes after they’ve been an exclusive couple for a long time

After the date, the Bull came home with Susie and they had sex.

Susie says: “Sex with another man was appealing because Shane and I have been together since I was 18.

“I felt like a teenager who was dating again.”

However, Susie found being watched by Shane awkward at first.

“Initially, I found it hard to have sex in front of Shane.

“He knows my comfort levels, so now he leaves us to it, until I get into it.

Once I’m warmed up, then he’ll come into the room and I feel okay.”

There are rules to stag and vixen relationships too

Shane points out it can feel a little weird at times.

“Once I walked in on them and she was on top.

“It’s your bed, your wife and another man… it’s crazy, but it’s a big turn on.

“However, it’s not like in the movies, with the guy directing the scene, I just sit there quietly.”

Susie adds: “Every now and then, I’ll look over, smile and giggle Shane’s way.

“Or Shane will come over and give me long hot horny kisses.”

The rules

Interestingly, many Stags have no interest in sexual encounters with other women.

Shane explains: “I’ve got a hall pass to sleep with other women but that wasn’t the original intention.

“It was always about Susie’s pleasure and the pleasure I get from her experiencing it.”

However, the couple say there are rules in place.

Susie says: “The rules are Shane has to know about everything and we can’t have any secrets.

“If I happen to go out by myself, he has to hear all the details.”

Shane says there definitely was a learning curve when the couple first started living the Stag and Vixen lifestyle.

Susie would get lost in the moment on dates and forget to keep in touch.

“Once she had sex in the car before she got home, which was a sore subject as I wanted to be there when she was having sex.”

The obvious question that had be asked is whether Susie ever felt coerced in any way.

“No, I wouldn’t have done it if I didn’t want to.

“I like being able to experience pleasure with other men.

“However,  sex anyone other than Shane is purely sexual.

“Our relationship is my prime focus.”

The couple say they have more sex together now.

“Susie tends to be more horny before, during and then after, if she has a date. It has brought us closer together more.”