I Mean Not Only Did Oscar Canonically Choose To Stop On His Way To Put His Things In His Locker Just

Drag King Portraits, London, Paris & NYC, (1995-1996), The Drag King Book, Del LaGrace Volcano

buck finally settling into eddie’s house by literally arranging his furniture in the same fucking places eddie’s was is absolutely crazy actually. especially when he was like. it doesn’t feel like My Place. it feels like eddie’s Old Place. and yet. AND YET. it was the familiarity. the setting it up the same way eddie had it set up. that settled him. that made it feel more like home. something something it was never about making it His Place. it was never about erasing eddie and making his own space separate from eddie. it was about making his own space WITHIN eddie’s space. "this is eddie’s house, i'm not really a guest" manifested.

Ok I need everyone to understand that Buck and Eddie are both products of their upbringing. Buck was a child of neglect, which led to him having abandonment issues. While Eddie was a child forced to grow up too fast, which led to him having hyper-independence. Two different kind of traumas. Two different kinds of trauma response. Which would require two different kinds of help.

Buck and Eddie help each other overcome these things and because they are two different kinds of problems, the way they help will ALSO be different. Ever since they met, Eddie has always been there for Buck (don't even fight me on this) and Buck has always given Eddie what he needs. It will look imbalanced, but it's really not. They both need SOMEONE in their lives, just in different ways.

Buck doesn't need someone to take over his lease, or to take care of his son, or to help him figure out childcare, he needs someone to Not Leave Him Alone. Eddie doesn't need someone to tell him he's not expendable, or to be reassured he's trustworthy, or to be promised he's not going to be abandoned, he needs someone to Give Him a Helping Hand. And the moment they became friends they have been those SOMEONES to each other.

They are each other's persons. Equally.

There's often an autistic to incel pipeline.

This does not mean that all incels are autistic, nor that all autistic men are incels. It means that autistic men often have a type of vulnerability that the incel community can exploit in order to recruit them.

And there's a subset of autistic men who are especially vulnerable to the pipeline. Specifically, it's those who never felt disabled until they tried to connect with women.

There are a few possible reasons for this. Maybe all of his social interactions so far have been planned by someone else and he just played along, and his social struggles become noticeable for the first time when he has to actively pursue connections with women and be constantly analyzing signs of interest or disinterest. Maybe he's been bullied so much and just accepted that he's doomed to be a loner, but when he started feeling attraction to women and wanted connections with them, he could no longer just sit back and accept being a loner.

He likely won't find other autistic people relatable, because he doesn't need many of the supports that other autistic people need. He also won't want his connections with people to be limited to only autistic people. And most support that autistic children receive is conditioning them to obey and be less of an annoyance to neurotypical people, not helping them be the most successful as their true selves. So when he sees the support that other autistic people receive, he won't even consider the possibility that it would be useful to him. He likely won't even consider the possibility that he's autistic.

He'll likely struggle to understand his emotions and figure out how to phrase his questions. So when he asks for help, he'll likely just ask how to get women to like him. He'll likely receive oversimplified advice like "just talk to them", which he's probably already tried. And when he has a single positive experience with women, even if it's a fluke that can't be duplicated, it will be used as evidence that he never struggled. He'll feel like his struggles are blaringly obvious but people are still dismissing them.

When he witnesses other men complain about the "male loneliness epidemic", he'll easily find them relatable. He'll easily feel like he finally found people who understand. But most of those men won't be autistic. They'll often have no trouble in the vast majority of social interactions and struggle only with getting women to like them because they're simply not likeable to women. They were convinced that their cruelty toward women is normal and they miss the good old days when women just played along with it.

But since he's vulnerable, he'll fall for the propaganda. Then, he'll be an asshole to women and give them a reason to dislike him. And he'll be unable to tell the difference between missing out because of his disability and being disliked because he's an asshole. He'll then seek more advice from the manosphere.

its all 'be gay do crime' until a black person starts making allusions to drugs or sex or god forbid VIOLENCE and then it turns out nobody can handle anything more hardcore than downloading illegal torrents of hamilton

Disabled people are on strike

Until further notice no one can find us inspirational

“Why should rich people pay more” because fuck ‘em

“So you are okay for paying more when you have money” I am not excluded from ‘fuck ‘em’ when relevant

The bimbo feminism girls who love Legally Blonde really missed like the whole point of the movie. The point is that she's not a brainless bimbo. She saves the day with her knowledge of haircare, sure, but she got in the room by going to law school. You cannot reduce that movie down to "Girl knowledge saves the day!" because the perm wouldn't have mattered if she hadn't spent the entire rest of the movie working her ass off in an unrelated field. The feminist angle is that she can have girly interests and also be smart, not that having girly interests is feminist in itself

disabled people who do not directly "contribute" to society and need large amounts of care and resources to survive deserve not only to survive but to have comfort, stability, and fun within their lives while they do. no compromises.