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Frothing at the mouth every time I see a sex ed resource that says "use condoms" without any further elaboration. "Condoms prevent STIs and pregnancy in the vast majority of cases when used correctly" but then they don't talk about what correctly IS

Correct use of a condom means

Using the right size, because if it's too big it can slide off or leak and if it's too small it can break or come off. Condoms usually come in 5 sizes, I'm sure you could find others outside of that as well but in ten years of sex work I found they covered everyone

Using lube, even if you think you don't need it. With the exception of oral sex, condoms should always be used with lube, 100% of the time. Most important lube should be applied to the outside but a drop in the tip of the condom before putting it in is also a good idea

Being mindful that latex is prone to wearing out, being damaged by heat etc. Condoms should be kept somewhere cool, not folded in wallets or sat on in back pockets and should be changed between activities and after about 15 minutes of any vigorous activity. Ask me how I know (a condom snapped on my leg when a client was pulling out, because I didn't change it when I should have)

The penetrative partner should hold the base of the condom when they pull out, and should do so immediately after they ejaculate so the condom doesn't leak or come off as the penis gets flaccid

Bonus: a lot of people think hand stuff can't transmit STIs. Wrong! If you give your partner a handjob and then touch yourself you can get HPV, herpes (low risk), and infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea

This isn't meant to be stressful, and the most common STIs are the most treatable - and often curable - but getting gonorrhea in your eyes after a facial still extremely sucks and yet no one talks about the fact that any mucous membrane can be effected, not just your genitals (yes this includes your mouth and throat)

In ten years of doing sex work where I saw 10 clients a day most of the time I've had 4 condom fails ever. One was what I mentioned above when it snapped on my leg, one was a client on top of me didn't get off fast enough after he finished and the condom came off, and the other two were a Glyde brand magnum that was inexplicably twice the thickness of a regular condom and didn't stay put on anyone so I suggest just avoiding Glyde entirely (their water based lubes also stain fyi). With all other brands correct use = extremely safe

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Shifting routines: more than a schedule, but still simple.

I will also be making a post about shifting rituals the main difference being that rituals are more spiritual, religious, or witchy.

Routines:

While it may be helpful to schedule which days you attempt to shift having a routine before your method can help you enter the mindset of shifting. The main goal is to relax you, connect you to your DR, ground you, and motivate you to shift.

Your personal routine could just be one thing that helps you, it doesn't have to be long or complicated!

How this will look is unique to every person but if you're not sure how to start here's a basic outline of a routine/things you might want to try:

1. Self regulate

This is first because you're calming down from the thoughts and feelings of your CR. Regulating your nervous system can also be majorly helpful for entering a mediative state.

This is a link to a post I have about simple ways to self regulate:

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Tools for emotional regulation

This is specifically things I do for end of day decompression. I take an hour and I do different things off this list till I'm relaxed. I u

2. Ground yourself (in CR)

Place both feet on the ground and take deep breaths. Allow yourself to be fully aware of your body and souroundings.

Why? If you are too in your head it can be hard to fully conceptualize shifting. You may consciously know you're trying to shift but you'll it's not going to feel real to you if you are not grounded. It's also easier to feel your emotions and connect to your DR.

3. Shift your perspective

Continue to ground yourself in your current body but from the perspective of your DR self. How would your DR self feel about this environment? How do you feel about going home? This serves to affirm that your DR is where you belong.

4. DR grounding

close your eyes take deep breaths and think about your DR. Things that make you emotional, things you miss, things you're excited for. Take a little time to emotionally connect to it.

5. Identify goals and expectations

A major part of many shifting methods is expecting to wake up there. Put yourself in the mindset of your DR, like planning your day the night before.

What do you want to do tomorrow? Are there anythings you're hoping for? What expectations do you have for the day ahead?

Examples:

"I have to get up early so I can make it to breakfast, they're serving pancakes" (goal)

"My package is supposed to arrive tomorrow, I can't wait" (expectation)

"I have to remember to feed my cat" (goal)

6. Misc ideas

Listen to DR playlists, dance, scroll through your Pinterest boards/mood boards, wear clothes jewelry perfume hairstyles specific to your DR, copy your DR bedtime routine, watch clips of your comfort character, use character AI (I see you), draw something in relation to your DR.

Literally do whatever you want. The important thing is enjoying it! Literally anything you want!!!

soap mactavish would eat someone else's cum out of you, sorry not sorry... 🫤 he's into being cucked, he'd watch from afar, tied up with rope by his lieutenant, watching simon riley – his superior – fuck you! all while you're moaning simon's name, telling him how good it feels while johnny burns with jealousy, his eyes glistening and cheeks tearstained as he rocks his hips against nothing, feeling overwhelmed and accidentally cumming in his boxers at the sight in front of him.

afterwards, he will cry into your pussy, crawling towards you and sniffling, eating you out while you degrade him for being so perverse and gross. he's so horny and feels so ashamed and humiliated that this turns him on, almost jealous as he repeats your words in his head. his lick and curl his tongue deep inside your swollen cunt, eating simon's cum out of you before making out with you, his lips swollen and puffy, tasting like simon's semen; bitter. :(

and yes, it's extremely embarrassing for poor johnny when he sees simon during deployment, getting teased for being a cuckold. :(

I know this sounds incredibly weird but I sometimes feel like I can feel myself in my DR. Like I feel that I am there. Is that a good sign or a bad sign? I’m scared that I might get reality dissociation or something

Answer "feeling like I'm in my DR":

Hello lovely! I hope this helps. Please ignore that it's a bit less well written I haven't slept yet and dawn is approaching.

You do not have to dissociate to connect to your DR. Feeling connected to it and knowing in your heart that you are in your DR in the 4D doesn't require dissociation.

When I talk about shifting I often say "you shift the 4D first" and this is what I mean. You accept your DR as your reality regardless of what is being shown to you in the 3D because you know that your 4D is your DR.

to anyone reading this who is confused wtf I'm talking about: I view shifting from a LOA perspective.

The 3D = physical reality or the "outer world" 4D = true reality or the "inner world"

The 3D is a mirror that reflects the 4D. When you believe something to be real it is. Change your inner world change reality.

I have struggled with dissociation in the past for personal reasons, and I find I feel the most connected to my DR when I am grounded. Dissociation has never made me feel more connected to anything. Just distant and numb.

Being able to see the world around me as real and full of life really helps me conceptualize my DR in the same way. I look up at the sky and I know that I see the same stars. I smell rain and I know that's how it would smell in my DR. I feel the world around me and I know that my desired reality is just as real.

Being mentally present in this reality is not your enemy. It is helpful. You don't have to choose between feeling your DR and your mental health. It is entirely possible to be present and healthy in your 3D and still know in your heart that you are in your DR.

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Absolutely Everything I Do To Shift Regularly

Since I’m going to permashift/respawn in a couple days. I wanted to put this out there.

There is absolutely no separation between inhabiting your desired reality and experiencing your original reality. The only difference is what you perceive. That’s it. That’s really it. You don’t need a mediation, you don’t a method. All you have to do is be there. There is a difference between pretending to be in your desired reality, and actually being there. When we dream we don’t necessarily have the intention to remain in our dreams. That’s a contributing factor to why we don’t. And while we have intrusive thoughts deep down we know they won’t happen. And that’s also why you’re not shifting. Either your subconscious has failed so much you don’t think it will happen, or you’re scared to leave your familiar reality like I was. It is really one or the other. You aren’t stuck in this reality, and you aren’t stuck in that reality. Everything and everybody is literally just whatever you are comfortable experiencing at the moment. To get out of it, you have to change what your subconscious wants to believe. This is hard for some people who are naturally set in their ways. I’m not blessed or anything I was just fortunate enough to be a naturally open minded person. And I always believed that I’d experience more than this life. When I was kid I would sort of script new lives, families and experiences. And always believed that I would get to experience everything I wanted when it was my time. I literally took nothing is impossible and ran with it. But some people because of a mixture of cultivated youth and personality, are more skeptical than others and want to play it safe. Both is fine. But if you want to shift you have to abandon some of that. You have to literally mold your mind to first get used to the idea of physically being away from your original reality (that’s what trips most up), accept that the universe is full of infinite outcomes and infinite versions of you. The most important things about shifting is not to listen or shape your shifting journey around any particular things. And I mean that for me as well. What I have found to be true for shifting in my perception might not be true for you. I think this community has become too reliant on others when it comes to such a personal journey. We are all born with the power to shift. And I think we all do shift whether or not we aware of it. And we all have different paths to it. How you decide to do it is up to you. You all are over consuming too much. Instead of trying to make someone else reality and truth yours. Carve your own truth. If you decide that every time you see I don’t know a pigeon you shift. Okay that’s the truth now. Accept it and hammer it in your head. Don’t go against what you want by looking at this method or that method. Decide what will make you shift and that’s how you shift every time.

If you’re like me and likes to do long drawn out things for fun this is what helps me shift.

Meditation: I’m going to use the phrase impress it on your mind. I’m thinking of transfer paper like bit by bit feed it into your mind that you shift all the time and are wherever you want to be. Don’t try to shift to a bunch of places at once. Just pick one place and commit to being there for a few days. I’m going to use myself as an example. I like long drawn out things because I like to live an idea or aesthetic. I love to romanticize things so naturally I want to also do some idyllic method or whatever but you don’t have to do that. So once I decide where I want to wake up at. Then I put on an ambiance from YouTube of whatever the general place is like in my room. Or one of my favorite playlists. Now since I’m leaning more towards awake methods then I am asleep, I do this bit awake. But it can also be a precursor to the sleep paralysis method. I play it out loud so I don’t have to be tethered to one place. Then I go over in my head where I want to be in my head, what I am wearing and what I look like. Once I decide that I tap into that section of my consciousness and inhabit it. For this exercise, let’s say I’m shifting to Middle Ages dr. I last left off when we were traveling to the Altai Mountins. So I know we’ll be in the courtyard. What month is it? July. It’ll be humid with a breeze from the river. A river. Oh, the storks are probably there. Birds. I hear birds flying overhead and I can’t hear the servants moving everything into the carriage. Carriage. That one has a broken wheel. I should tell someone. I notice my shoes as I walk and feel the cobblestones. My dress is kind of heavy and it is harder to avoid slipping on than I thought. Wait, where I am even going? I see the a bunch of people messing with the carriages. Oh I almost ran into somebody because it’s so bright. Go on and on like that.

Once you start to feel like you are inhabiting that world and that experience. You should start to feel symptoms or not. I don’t feel them every time. Usually like I vibrate or I hear a noise or something. If you don’t just simulate in your mind the sounds you would hear if you were there. Who would be around, etc. If you want to say stuff in your head like how you can’t believe how well your handling shifting or wow I’ve been in this new reality for so many months. I can barely remember my original reality, I’ve always been here. The point I’m making is don’t say how talented you are or what you look like. Think of all the causes of it. It’s like a tree. The main idea you want to transfer into your perceiving consciousness is the tree itself. Each branch is a separate symptom of it and each leaf is a detail. So like this tree (shifting), branch (i shifted easily), leaf (i wake up here next to so and so again and again without fail). That is the goal of all methods. To transfer the part of your consciousness that you are perceiving right now to where you want to be. There is nothing else to it. Some people are more gullible and less illogical. I wouldn’t say I’m gullible but I don’t believe in skepticism where it really isn’t needed. There is no harm in trying shifting out. You can’t stuck, if something bad happens you can shift back instantly just be thinking about it. There is really very little harm in the practice.

Why I favor sleep paralysis: Sleep paralysis is pretty easy to get and it puts me in a thoughtless state. Not unlike the void but I just never felt the want to really go to the void. With sleep paralysis it happens quite often without much thought. Nothing dangerous happens with sleep paralysis. You can’t stuck there and anything you see that is dangerous is a hallucination. Don’t pay attention to it, it can’t hurt you. And say fuck off. It’s similar to the void where you can’t see anything and can’t move. But I have heard outside noises in sleep paralysis and at least I have been able to force myself out of it if I wanted to. But I do the same thing as the ‘meditation’ essentially when I do that.

Other methods: I do other methods for fun and I like to keep the spark in shifting alive so I don’t get bored. But I would do other methods after you’ve at least had more success with shifting. Then you can just decided that everything makes you shift.

My controversial opinions when it comes to shifting: You all care way too much about this reality. This reality does not have as much importance in the grand scheme of our existence. It just doesn’t. But humans have a very hard time seeing outside of themselves. We can’t even imagine something we haven’t seen somewhere on earth before. I have never bought into it that this was all there ever was. I mean space is like endless. Who are we to think that we are the only people that have become sentient in the way we are. We can’t. I’m neutral to most things. I don’t care if your race change, age yourself down. Sure it’s weird. But we have to remember that people are going to do what they want to do. Don’t waste your energy on trying to twist someone’s arm to conform to you. For you that is immoral and not right. And I agree I wouldn’t do any of those things. But if it isn’t something you can actively control stop wasting your energy on it. Some of y’all could spend the time you waste arguing about this on shifting and actually do something worthwhile. However, I do get why people think that way. And anti shifters don’t give them any attention. Please for my sanity stop arguing with these little leeches. If they don’t approach you respectfully don’t interact or give it your time. I know some people are young and can’t just let stuff go. If someone doesn’t speak to you respectfully about your beliefs, don’t give them the time of day and protect your peace. If you know something will demotivate you. Then don’t consume that content or interact with them. And I mean that for myself. I am always open to have an open minded and respectful discussion with anyone. Shifting does start far fetched but I will not accept is people coming on here saying rude things like ‘your dreaming’ or insulting something I shared. You can ask things respectfully with the intention of wanting to understand someone’s point of view and stance. And if you unfortunately can’t regulate yourself to the point where you can do that. I do not have to waste my energy on that. I’m neutral to pretty much anything. I don’t care. I really don’t care what anyone does in their drs. Something’s that I hurt my heart, because some of you put yourselves or other people in traumatic situations. But nothing I say will change someone’s mind if they don’t already want to change. And I won’t waste my time on it. Permashifting is fine and respawn is fine. I would suggest that you don’t do either without at least shifting once to know if you like that reality. You wouldn’t move half way across the world without even a visit. So the same should apply. I believe people should do whatever they want. But it shouldn’t hurt other people to do it. That is the one thing I will never support. If what you want to experience involves violence, emotional abuse etc. against people, really consider that these are real people. Not a video game just remember that. Just because it is a different reality does not mean that their lives and way of interesting pain matters less than it does to anyone here or even you.

That’s all I have to say for today. After this go shift or do whatever it is you want to go do. I promise it isn’t as hard as it seems.

a man self immolated in front of the israeli embassy in washington dc yesterday. not just any man. an active member of the us air force. he live streamed his death, and said that he refused to be complicit in a genocide any longer. he said that compared to what palestinians were facing every day, setting himself alight was nothing.

let me reiterate. an active duty air force member burned himself alive because he was so disgusted by what the us government was openly supporting. he live-streamed his own suicide, so the whole world could bear witness as a man in his military uniform set himself on fire to protest his government’s complicity in the horrors that we have all been forced to watch happen in real time. he became a new horror. footage of the immolation blurs him out the moment the fire catches, but you can hear him. it is over in seconds, really, but you can hear him screaming. he shouts “free palestine” until his body physically cannot make any sounds other than guttural screams of agony. and then he falls silent. a police officer arrives and points a gun at his still burning body, shouting at him to get down on the ground. and it is over.

his name was Aaron Bushnell. he was twenty five years old. and he isn’t here anymore because the political ruling class has decided that genocide is perfectly fine as long as it preserves imperialism. in the coming days, people will try to discredit him. to say that he was mentally unstable. they will try to bury his actions to save face and defend israel’s propaganda. do not let them. aaron knew what he was doing. he knew what he was doing when he put on his military uniform, set up his twitch stream, and made his final walk up to the embassy. he knew what would happen to him when he flicked that lighter. do not let them forget. aaron’s blood is on the hands of the political ruling class.

There are infinite realities:

The limit does not exist.

There is a reality out there in which you are a baby still, learning to babble and discovering the world with brand new senses.

There is a reality out there in which you are a 90 year old man who has seen the entire world, lived through wars and catastrophes, but also married the love of his life and had many, many children.

There is a reality out there in which you are a famous artist, living your best life and creating art that inspires generations even long after your death.

There is a reality out there in which you are a butterfly, blue wings fluttering in an early spring morning, living a short, yet happy and fulfilled life, bringing beauty everywhere you go.

There is a reality out there in which you are a 500 year old witch, where immortality is the norm and magic is abundant and accepted, where you use your gifts and skills to heal the world and make it a better place.

There is a reality in which you are a 16 year old girl going through her first heartbreak, a 35 year old man going through a divorce, a 40 year old woman finally meeting the love of her life, a 5 year old boy starting school for the first time.

Time is not linear, and neither are your experiences.

Consciousness is limitless. Awareness is infinite.

You are the universe, having a human experience.

You are everything and nothing, you are the world and the void, the light and the darkness, the conscious and the subconscious, the limitless, vast existence.

This reality is not the standard, it is not the rule to the many exceptions. It is merely one of many, a starting point to your endless experiences. It is not holding you hostage, it is not hindering your progress, it simply is.

All you have to do, is realize your endless potential. You, as you are right now, are a part of the great consciousness, the one infinite awareness.

The creator.

Take a deep breath, recenter yourself, and let go. You will shift.

That is inevitable.