When your child says “Why can’t I get a puppy?”
Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules”
Try “Any pet is a lot of responsibility. A puppy would have to be fed, walked, and taken outside to use the bathroom several times a day and taken for regular check-ups and vaccinations at the vet. You can’t do all of that by yourself, and I/we don’t have the time or money either.”
When your teenager says “Why can’t I come home at 2:00 this Saturday?”
Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules!”
Try “The time you come home is a matter of respect and consideration. I/We will not only be concerned for your safety, but we would either be disturbed in the middle of the night when you arrive or forced to stay up for several extra hours waiting.”
When your child says “Why am I not allowed to do this thing?”
Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules!”
Try actually communicating a legitimate reason, because children pick up on subtlety and on context and on the unspoken messages, and it’s better to teach children lessons like “You should think really hard before taking on new responsibilities” and “It’s important to show consideration for the needs of the people with whom you share a living space” than lessons like “It’s okay for people to demand your absolute obedience so long as you’re dependent on them for survival.”
Happy oscars day here’s some history about asians at the academy awards:
No asian producers have ever won best picture (although six have been nominated)
Ben Kingsley is the only asian to ever be nominated for or win best actor
No asian woman has ever won best actress, and the only time an asian woman has ever been nominated (Merle Oberon in The Dark Angel) was almost a century ago
Out of seven nominated over the years, only one asian has ever won best supporting actor (Haing S. Ngor for The Killing Fields in 1984)
In 1957, Miyoshi Umeki became the first asian woman to win best supporting actress for her role in Sayonara. No asian woman has won since then, although four have been nominated.
Ang Lee was the first (and so far only) asian person to win best director, and he’s done it twice. Once in 2005 for Brokeback Mountain, and again in 2012 for Life of Pi.
No asian has ever won best adapted screenplay, and only two have ever been nominated (Wang Hui-ling and Tsai Kuo Jung for Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon in 2000).
An asian has never won best original screenplay, but that could change tonight since Kumail Nanjiani is nominated (with Emily V. Gordon) for The Big Sick. He is also the only asian nominated in a major category at this year’s oscars.
I don’t have a profound note to end this on. All I can say is that the system is broken from the ground up. The problem isn’t really that asians aren’t being recognized for the work they do in western media. The problem is that asians generally aren’t being given the chance to do that work in the first place.
if you see a callout post and:
you don’t know the person who made the post
you don’t know the person whom the post is about
you have no personal connection with any of the things that went down in the post
there is no definitive proof of any of the claims made in the post, or the proof provided is questionable, or looks like it could have been edited (either by wholesale fabrication or selective removal of context)
don’t reblog it. it’s 2015. we’ve all seen this cycle enough times to recognize how the goodwill to protect abuse victims can be weaponized by abusers. it is better to abstain from something that is not your business or responsibility to rectify than to potentially contribute to what has been well established as one of the most ruthlessly effective ways to destroy somebody.
Did you know that after they switched to blind auditions, major symphony orchestras hired women between 30% to 55% more? Before bringing in “blind auditions” with a screen to conceal the the candidate, women in the top 5 major orchestras made up less than 5% of the musicians performing.
What is your secret to being so cool?
Dress lightly, or in layers, and most importantly stay hydrated.
My class pretended to play dead.
I’ve been seeing some fearmongering going around lately about how unionising the video game industry would shut down independent developers, and I’m reminded of similar rhetoric regarding minimum wage laws and small businesses, when the reality is that most small businesses have no employees beyond the owning partners, and thus aren’t affected by minimum wage laws.
Most actual independent video game developers – i.e., as opposed to big studios that just call themselves indie for marketing purposes – are in the same position of having no employees beyond the owning partners, so it’s difficult to see how unionisation of video game production staff would affect them one way or the other. Like, what are they going to do, report themselves for exploiting themselves?
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