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Femme Fatale Playbook: How To Look More Expensive & Elevate Your Aura

Looking expensive or 'rich' is all about investing in yourself, your appearance, how you carry yourself, and not shying away from signature details or indulgences. Here are some tips to level up your look and demeanor to feel high-class in your daily life – no matter how much money you want to spend in these life arenas.

Appearance:

Prioritize Proper Grooming: Always looking clean and put-together is the ultimate sign of class. Shower daily. Brush, and take care of your teeth. Wash your hair on a regular schedule. Never allow your hair to look greasy – brush and blow dry it regularly. Cleanse, exfoliate, and moisturize every inch of your face and body. Perform your skincare routine religiously. Apply sunscreen daily.

Tailor & Steam Your Clothes: Freshly-pressed and well-fitting clothes always look infinitely more expensive – no matter their price point. Looking rich and expensive is about high self-regard and paying attention to the little details. Ensure your garments look crisp and clean – no wrinkles, pet hairs, loose threads, lint pieces, or fabric bulges highlighting an improper fit.

Create A Classic & Streamlined Capsule Wardrobe: Simplicity radiates a chic sophistication. Go back to the basics with timeless pieces – like a button-down blouse, a classic crewneck sweater, black trousers or straight-leg jeans, leather pants, a leather jacket, a trench or wool coat, a well-fitting cami or tee shirt, a simple slip dress, or a knit set. Focus on a neutral color palette – black, champagne, dark grey, chocolate brown, camel, or crisp white shades. Seek out elevated fabrics – such as Pima cotton, cashmere, washable silk, and buttery vegan or recycled leather.

Invest In Signature Pieces: Spend on "outer shell' items – coats, jackets, heavyweight knits, handbags, and shoes – that directly interact with the outside world and can be worn repeatedly with almost every outfit. Save on items like tee shirts or more simple jewelry pieces that can be found for less while still being fairly high-quality. I recommend Everlane, Lilysilk, and Naadam for affordable basics (Frankie Shop, Skims, and Norma Kamali for moderately priced pieces) and Catbird and Oma The Label for well-priced accessories. Here are all the everyday essentials you need to build the ultimate Femme Fatale Wardrobe.

Simplify Your Beauty Routine: Fresh, clear, and glowy skin radiates rich girl energy. A well-curated skincare routine should do half the heavy lifting. However, you will probably want to include a shade-matched foundation, concealer, and powder into your makeup routine along with a bronze contour, a rosy blush, and a subtle highlighter. Shape and fill in your brows for a polished look. Apply a deep black mascara to your lashes and luscious black eyeliner to your top lid, waterline, and tight line – keep the strokes thin and crisp (create a subtle wing if desired). Finish your face with a deep pink nude, red, or deep wine lipstick/gloss/lip tint. Here's a guide to the ultimate Femme Fatale Beauty Routine for a completely elevated (and sensual) look.

Eat Healthfully & Workout: Health is wealth. Taking care of your body shows self-respect – your most priceless asset. So, incorporate whole, plant-based foods into your daily diet and make it a priority to find movement you love that you can incorporate into your routine multiple times a week.

Lifestyle:

Streamline The Details: The rich girl aesthetic is all about refinement and looking put together at all times. Always have a set of matching pens with coordinating notepads on your desk, a uniform set of coffee mugs on the counter, coasters, glassware, sheets, pillowcases, cold-weather accessories, etc. This attention to detail instant makes your environment look more expensive.

Have Personalized Stationery: A high-value woman isn't shy about leaving her signature touch. Have personalized stationery (thank you notes, greeting cards, business cards, etc.) monogrammed and on hand for anytime you need to send a note or gift to a friend, coworker, boss, client, etc. This addition shows your attention to detail, leaves the recipient something small to remember you by, and adds a human touch to any gift or gesture. Try gold lettering on cream cards for an elegant, expensive look.

Keep Prosecco & Sparkling Water On Hand: Bubbly on a budget feels just as expensive as champagne (and tastes great too). Sparkling water elevates your daily H20 – add some lemon, lime, orange wedges, or frozen berries for a fancy, fruity twist.

Have Proper Place Settings: Neat, thoughtful presentation exudes class and rich energy. Whenever hosting any type of sit-down event or cocktail party, have the plates stacked, glasses and cutlery arranged correctly. Have all of the appropriate utensils readily available. Again, it's all about the details.

Stay Informed & Well-Read: A thirst for knowledge, learning and having the ability to engage in thoughtful, informed, and intellectual imbues a high-class radiance into any room. Read books, learn about different cultures and current events, and invest in studying different industries, and interests. Explore your hobbies. A rich mindset translates and generates an overall elevated aura.

Demeanor:

Learn Proper Etiquette: Address people by name, and offer a firm handshake. Maintain eye contact. Say "please" and "thank you." RSVP promptly. Communicate clearly and compassionately.

Maintain Good Posture: Shoulders back and relaxed. Open your chest. Keep your back straight and your head held high. Take up space. Command presence.

Master The Art of Engaging Conversation: Prioritizing self-presentation, learning how to listen, holding your own, and encouraging others to feel relaxed are the secrets to becoming magnetic in any social situation. Read more of my tips HERE.

Embrace An Abundant Mindset: Free your mind of limiting beliefs and notions of scarcity. There are plenty of opportunities, experiences, and emotions to go around. Another person's success doesn't take away from your potential. Focus on expansion, not envy.

Remain Confident & Unbothered: Believe in yourself. Invest in your well-being. Prioritize your goals and block out the noise from anyone trying to tear you down or criticize you for your ambition, goals, or desires. Stay in your own lane. Allow others to do the same. This is how you level up to elevate into your queen energy to create a rich life and design your dream reality.

In posting this I just realized another category I've been working on that I left out if my written lists. That's the point of me posting... reflection, inspiration, clarity, and progression. That category is:

Language

Setting Goals

The following are the goal categories I've started to define for myself. I use the same category format for quarterly goals and for lifetime goals. Are there any I'm obviously leaving out? Reblog with your suggestions. 💖

Personal Life

Alone Time

Health & Fitness

Self Introspection

Self Care

Mental Wellness

Cleaning 

Business

Financial/Monetary

Social

Creative

Shadow Work 

Physical Appearance

Travel

Education

Contribution

Fun & Recreation

Relationships

How To Build A (Realistic) Femme Fatale Wardrobe: Daily Essentials To Harness Your Dark Feminine Energy

The goal is to feel sexy and sophisticated in well-fitting pieces that are appropriate for the time of day and occasion. Elegance is not embodied by a particular ensemble but by how well-suited it is for the event you're attending. Following proper etiquette involves taking context into account. Femme fatale dressing mixes classic, contemporary, and edgy pieces with a hint of glamour for some extra appeal.

Let's begin with the foundation: Choose pieces that strike a balance between sexy and streamlined. Matching lingerie always makes you feel hot and put together. Make sure its seamless, comfortable, and breathable.

A basic lace bra – in a black or skin-toned colorway (I prefer an underwire with some padding for the look and feel, but adjust for your cup size/comfort if needed).

Pair with a seamless, matching lace thong that can be worn under anything and should not show under your clothes.

For that time of the month, swap out the thong for seamless boyshorts with lace trim (for some much-needed sensuality when you're feeling a bit more sluggish to have some extra coverage).

Shapewear: A high-waisted thong, shorts, or a short bodysuit will likely be the most versatile option (my favorite brands are Commando and Heist). Use to streamline your silhouette (it's not necessarily about size or weight, just making sure your clothes lay properly over your curves).

Simple tops in sensual fabrics (Pima Cotton, Silk, Satin): Every woman needs some well-cut tank tops, t-shirts, and long-sleeve tees. Vary your wardrobe with a few body-conscious and few relaxed styles with each sleeve length. Scoop neck and crew neck options look more refined than v-necks and are more versatile for layering. Turtlenecks are a great option for the colder months and offer sensual appeal without showing any skin. Search for these staple tees in comfortable, luscious fabrics like Pima cotton and washable silk (Everlane has great, more affordable options. Try Lilysilk and Lunya if you want to invest a bit more into these basics).

Camis, Blouses, and Button-Downs: Black silks, satins, leather, coated fabrics, and a simple cotton option or two offer a nice variety for different climates and occasions. Invest in classic button-down options and experiment with wrap-front, turtleneck, halter necks, twist-front, shirred, and strappy details– depending on your personal aesthetic and preferences. Look for luxurious details, like gold or mother of pearl buttons to elevate your daily outfits.

Blazers, Leather Jackets, Trench & Tailored Wool Coats:

Sharp lines and luscious fabrics provide an irresistibly sophisticated allure that allows you to feel sexy and stay warm. Invest at least one of each and ensure they're well-tailored.

(Vegan) Leather, Silk, or Wool Blazer (In Black)

A Classic Moto Jacket

A Black Trench Coat (in cotton or vegan leather) for transitional weather

A Single or Double-Breasted Black Wool Coat (that hits at or right above the knee)

Well-Cut Trousers & A Few Perfect Pairs of Jeans: Go for classic wool trousers, black jeans, or leather pants in a straight or boot-cut silhouette that fits like a glove. Try structured yoga pants or ribbed/leather-trimmed options for lazy days.

Simple Skirts With An Elevated Twist: Try a leather mini skirt or a silk midi skirt to add a more feminine element to your look.

Slip Dress!! Try a black option with or without lace trim – pair it a leather jacket or some type of blazer over the top to keep it casual and classy for daily wear.

Essential Footwear:

Classic Black Loafer (Round or Square-Toe with Minimal Gold or No Hardware)

Black Lace-Up (Combat) Boots

Knee High/Over The Knee Black Boots (Flat Option)

Block Heel Square-Toe Boot (Vagabond has great options for every day – try Miista for slightly more elevated options)

Clean White Sneaker (for super casual days)

Accessories:

Chain-link Necklaces/Bracelets (Gold, Silver, or Mixed Metals)

Simple Hoops/Ear Cuffs

Classic Wrist Watch

A Structured Large Black Tote or Satchel Bag