And on how it's quite literally sold to us in movies, tv shows, music, which in turn are made to sell us products that don't necessarily fit with entertainment or media. I thought about the feeling of lack that comes along only when I'm reminded that I'm "single", and started to reflect on what that means to me.
Truth is, I don't feel as incomplete as I'm apparently supposed to. I don't discard the idea of getting into a relationship, but it's also not something I see myself purposefully running towards, like I would any other wish of mine.
When I think of never dating, the only fear I'm faced with is the one of judgement; of what my family and peers will think. It's never "I have to find them". In fact, the possibility of not dating is quite freeing.
Maybe that's my brain giving me a breather and turning off that side of me so I can focus on one thing at a time. Therapy first, getting my life in order, university, keeping friendships, enjoying my own company, and after all of that, maybe in the future, I'll unlock the "Feeling ready for a relationship" achievement. But for now I'm just by myself, and I'm very glad that feels enough.
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I’ve heard of Pagans being contacted by their gods via certain Tarot Cards, so I wanted to do a deep dive and outline which Cards are associated with which Gods. Hopefully this can help you tell which God is reaching out to you :)
The Fool: Pan, Zeus, Dionysus, Loki, Hermes
The Magician: Hermes, Thoth, Odin,
The High Priestess: Hekate, Selene, Isis, Artemis, Freya, Ganesha, Tsukiyomi
The Empress: Aphrodite, Hera, Freya, Frigg, Isis, Hathor, Durga, Astarte, Demeter, Ishtar The Emperor: Zeus, Lugh, Odin, Horus, Ares, Osiris, Ra
The Hierophant: Osiris, Athena, Thoth, Seshat, Ogma, Horus, Apollo, Hermes, Odin, Brigid, Saraswati, Ganesha
The Lovers: Aengus Og, Aphrodite, Frigg, Rhea, Gaia, Demeter, Inanna, Ishtar, Parvati, Hathor, Isis, Brigid, Freya, Osiris, Cernunnos, Freyr, Dionysus, Pan The Chariot: Thor, The Morrigan, Nike, Athena, Astarte, Inanna, Ishtar, Anat, Freya, Bast, Durga, Odin, Horus, Sobek, Ares, Apollo, Set, Bellona
Justice: Lugh, Aengus Og, The Morrigan, Nemesis, Inanna, Themis, Ma’at, Nike, Athena, Zeus, Forseti
Strength: Thor, Hestia, Athena, Sekhmet, Bast, Macha, Brigid, Danu, Isis, The Virgin Mary, Bast, Sekhmet, The Dagda, Lugh
The Hermit: Odin, Isis, Hestia, Persephone, Hades, Hekate, Cerridwen, Brigid, The Muses, Saraswati, Hermes, Ogma, Odin
Wheel of Fortune: Zeus, Hathor, Isis, The Dagda, The Moirai, Maat, Arianhrod
The Hanged Man: Odin, Artemis, Osiris, Persephone, Inanna, Ishtar, Buddha, Jesus
Death: Persephone, Inanna, Ereshkigal, Isis, Nephtys, Izanami, Hel, Freya, Hades, Seth, Anubis, Osiris, Manannan Mac Lir, Odin, Thanatos, The Morrigan, Morana
Temperance: Artemis, Isis, Nepthys, Iris, Ma’at, Hebe, Apollo, Vishnu
The Devil: Dionysus, Pan, Set, Lilith, The Morrigan, Banshees, Baba Yaga, Lucifer, Baphomet, Satan, Veles, The Horned God
The Tower: Kali, Ares, Pele, Sekhmet, Hel, The Morrigan, Sedna, Anat, Ceres, Chernobog, Shiva
The Star: Aphrodite, Thoth, Hermes, Ishtar, Astrea, Isis, Arianhrod, The Virgin Mary, Inanna, Nuit, Isis, Nodens, Zorya
The Moon: Artemis, Hekate, Rhiannon, Cerridwen, Selene, Isis, Phoebe, Mani, Thoth, Arianhrod, Tsukiyomi, Chang-e
The Sun: Lugh, Apollo, Kupala, Helios, Brigid, Sol, Artemis, Athena, Aine, Bast, Sekhmet, Freyr, Horus, Aten, Ra, Agni
Judgement: Persephone, Ma’at, Osiris, Hephaestus, Isis, Kuan Yin, Horus, Hades
The World: Aengus Og, Demeter, The Dagda, Isis, Gaia, Cernunnos, Green Man
Suit of Swords: The Morrigan, Freya, Hades, Odin, Athena, Hel
Suit of Wands: Lugh, Hephaestus, Ares, Bellona, Pele, Aine, Brigid, Apollo
Suit of Pentacles: Gaia, Demeter, Macha, Freyr
Suit of Cups: Poseidon, Aphrodite, Isis, Boann, Hera, Hathor
King of Pentacles: The Horned God, Freyr, Pan, Cernunnos, The Dagda
King of Cups: Lugh, Poseidon, Manannan Mac Lir, Njord, Apollo
King of Swords: Odin, Tyr, Zeus, Hermes, Horus
King of Wands: Ares, The Dagda, Zeus, Apollo
Queen of Pentacles: Hekate, Gaia, Eostre, Aine, Artemis, Ceres, Demeter
Queen of Cups: Aphrodite, Venus, Hera
Queen of Swords: The Morrigan, Freya, Athena, Themis
Queen of Wands: Brigid, Hestia, Bellona, Aine
Knight of Pentacles: Athena, Athena, Macha, Persephone, Lugh, Artemis, Demeter, Ceres
Knight of Cups: Aphrodite, Boann, Isis, Hathor
Knight of Swords: Badb, The Morrigan, Athena, Hermes, Nemain
Knight of Wands: Apollo, Brigid, Bellona, Lugh
Page of Pentacles: Athena, Apollo, Lugh, Pan, The Muses, Hathor
Page of Cups: Aphrodite, Lada
Page of Swords: The Morrigan, Freya, Odin, Athena, Nike, Bellona
Page of Wands: Artemis, Apollo, Brigid, Athena
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Dark Academia Books I Have Read & Recommend
08/03/20
•The Catcher in the Rye, J.D. Salinger
A coming of age story centring on Holden Caulfield, a boy who is struggling to come to grips with growing up and the challenges that accompany it. He leaves his school Pency Prep to wander New York for a few days. A classic story of teenage angst and rebellion.
I had to read this in secondary school but I quickly became attached to it. So many people hate this book and I can't understand why. I understand it can be slow at parts but I related so much to Holden and his struggles. His dry wit reflected my feelings at the time I read it and made me feel seen. This is legitimately one of my favourite books.
9/10
•S.T.A.G.S., M.A. Bennett
Greer MacDonald struggles to settle into sixth form at the prestigious St. Aidan the Great boarding school. Just as she is about to give up on making friends she is invited by Henry de Warlencourt to spend the October midterm break with the most popular students of the school at Henry's country manor: Longcross Hall. Things quickly unfold to be darker and more twisted than Greer could ever have thought.
This was a surprising one. This book was gifted to me and I was incredibly sceptical at first. The premise seemed unoriginal and boring, centering on a 'quirky' girl. But I was so wrong. Swallowing my pride I read the book and quickly became obsessed, my pride returning. This book was so interesting and thrilling. I was tense the whole time reading it. Reading it late at night proved to be a challenge because it spooked me so, despite not being supernatural or mythical. I loved this book and I can't wait to get my hands on the sequel: D.O.G.S.
8/10
•Hamlet, William Shakespeare
Hamlet's uncle, Claudius, murders Hamlet's father, Old King Hamlet, in pursuit of the throne. After Claudius becomes King of Denmark, Old King Hamlet appears as a ghost to Hamlet and orders him to avenge his death and free him from purgatory. Hamlet hatches a plan with his closest friend Horatio to expose Claudius' crime.
This play convinced me to like Shakespeare. Beforehand I had only read The Merchant of Venice when I was fifteen, and I didn't think much of it. But a few years later I studied Hamlet in school and oh boy, what a story. It's bloody brilliant and has persuaded me to want to read more of Shakespeare's plays.
9/10
Dark Academia Books I Want to Read
•The Secret History, Donna Tartt
•In the Shadow of Heroes, Nicholas Bowling
•The Song of Achilles, Madeline Miller
•D.O.G.S., M.A. Bennett
•Die Mühle, Elizabeth Herrmann
•The Picture of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde
•Wuthering Heights, Emily Brontë
•Dracula, Bram Stoker
•Macbeth, William Shakespeare
•Romeo and Juliet, William Shakespeare
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it’s perfectly okay to change your mind. sometimes the ritual doesn’t line up with how you feel anymore. sometimes you feel pulled in a new direction. it’s all normal.
there’s intense and powerful magic in research. in learning. that doesn’t always mean hours in the library, but it does often mean logging off and learning about your native environment.
let your grimoire be messy. let it contradict itself. add things that are interesting but don’t really have a place yet. it’s your book, and you can always keep going in another one once this book is full.
you will learn upsetting things about parts of your practice. this is mostly for white- and otherwise privileged- witches; it’s important to recognize that the modern witchcraft, occult, and new age movements have a long history of stealing from closed cultures, from marginalized practitioners, and creating synthetic histories to explain modern inventions. if a fellow practitioner presents information like this to you about one of your practices, i implore you to take it to heart. learning more about the origins of your ritual and altering them, removing them, and providing reparations where appropriate are important, vital parts of connecting with your practice.
you may work with deities, you may not. same with spirit, the fae, ancestors, and all other aspects of craft. other people may work with forces you aren’t familiar with or that you struggle to believe in, that’s normal. do more research, talk with other practitioners, accept “no” and “i don’t have the energy to educate you” for what they are: boundaries. trying to subvert them will only hurt you both.
discourse isn’t worth your time. it just isn’t.
not every practitioner is a witch, not every witch is a practitioner. the labels we use to describe our work are historically charged, as magic so often is. what feels good to you may hurt another person, and vice versa.
magic is often closer to jazz than to a well-rehearsed symphony. plan accordingly. learn to improv in each key. learn the core elements of your practice and build from there.
consent. consent. consent. all magic that may touch another being requires it, not just love or romantic magic. healing? get consent first. divination? consent. make sure your subject knows what they’re consenting to. check in often. (think of it like a tea party. you invite them, and they come or they don’t. you offer them tea, they may want it or not. if they aren’t able to respond when you ask, you don’t pour them tea. if they hurt you or something you love, you might throw tea in their face.)
self-care is more than baths and deep breathing. it can be therapy, medication, boundary-setting, any number of really hard things. you deserve that care, though. other people do, too.