Hi, I Searched Your Posts So I’m Sorry If I Missed Anything, But I Was Wondering If You Knew Of Any

Okay seriously. Reblog if you're OLDER than 11.

stammi vicino duet from bd6 extras, finally in better quality! ♥ (x)

the suffering never ends

Writing Commissions Open

Hello!  I’m Darian Kitsune and I’m 18 years old. I’ve been writing since I was in third grade and I haven’t stopped since then. With my family situation, college and stuff :( I decided to open writing commissions. I’m open to almost anything, I’m willing to come to terms with the customer if any dissagreement occurs:

Prices & What I Can Write:

1 cent per word.

Freestyle (You give me a prompt and I write a surprise text)

One shot: SFW / NSFW

Multi chapter(max 3) +$1 per extra chapter

Specific kinks(NSFW) +15% of total for each

Fandoms (Pairings I prefer) :

Dear Evan Hansen (Evan x Connor, Zoe x Alana)

Hamilton (Alexander x Angelica, Alexander x John Laurens)

The Heathers (Veronica x JD)

Sherlock (Johnlock)

Elementary (?) (Sherlock x Joan)

Marvel (Iron Man x Dr. Strange)

Venom (Eddie x Venom)

Sander Sides (Virgil x Roman, Patton x Logan)

Detroit: Become Human (Connor x Hank, Gavin x RK900)

Undertale (Frisk x Sans, Asriel x Chara, Frisk x Chara)

Deltarune (Susie x Kris,  Ralsie x Kris, Susie x Noelle)

Doki Doki Literature Club (Natsuki x Yuri, Monika x Reader)

Steven Universe (Steven x Connie, Pearl x Amethyst, Ruby x Zaphire , Lapis Lazulli x Peridot, Kevin x Jamie)

Gravity Falls  (Dipper x Bill, Mabel x Pacifica, Dipper x Wendy)

Voltron: Legendary Defenders (Lance x Keith, Keith x Shiro, Shiro x Lance, Lance x Pidge, Pidge x Shiro, Lance x Lotor)

Star vs the Forces of Evil (Star x Marco, Marco x Tom, Star x Jackie)

Miraculus Ladybug (Marinette x Chat Noir, Marinette x Adrien, Chat Noir x LadyBug, Adrien x LadyBug)

Adventure Time (Finn x Marceline, Marceline x Princess Bubblegum, Fiona x Marshall, Marshall x Gumball)

Villanous (Black Hat x Dr. Flug)

My Little Pony

(Twilight x Sunset/Starlight/Rainbow/Luna/Celestia, Starlight x Trixie, will add more later)

Can Include:

Ships, Pairing, Character x Character 

NSFW

Fluff, Angst, Smut, etc.

AUs (explain at detail which)

I can work with almost everything, just mail or contact me directly if you’re interested in sth I didn´t mention so you can give me all the details on what you want. (There are some ships I don´t enjoy writing about, sorry).

Won´t Write:

Incest

Rape

Non-con/dub-con

Payment though paypal

Please include telling me: fandom, characters, pairings, estimated length, plot/summary, rating, your likes/dislikes, sth extra to add, etc.

And be specific about it.

Once accepted I will start writing after half of the commission price was paid upfront. You can make 1 final revision (or ask for more before the final, wil be +5%) at which the second half must be paid. You can keep your commission private or have it published (specify how you want it send to you).

I can also refuse commissions out because personal rasons. If I cancel anytime after payment, I will refund the payment and give you back your prompt. If you cancel, I will refund half of the amount paid, plus your prompt.

Thanks for reading! If you can’t commission, then reblog or share! Also you can donate to my Ko-fi or Patreon,every little support counts! :3

ko-fi.com/dariankitsune

patreon.com/Darian_Kitsune

Ace Visibility Matters

Being visible for ace week almost inevitably means at some point running headlong into some ugly acephobia.

Here is one that crops up a lot when people are first learning about asexuality that I’m going to tackle today.

“Why do I have to know you’re ace?/Who cares if you’re visible?/Aces are just seeking attention.”

First and foremost, ace visibility matters.

It matters that we have an identity, and that we can define ourselves and our experiences so that we can recognize and advocate for ourselves and each other. It matters that aces are visible, and that information ABOUT asexuality and asexual communities is visible, first and foremost, so that OTHER ASEXUALS can access it.

In spite of increasing traction and acceptance in online spaces like Tumblr, “Asexual” and the numerous micro labels that fall under its umbrella, are still not widely understood or even heard of by the population at large.

By being visible, the likelihood is increased that awareness of asexuality will reach other aces who do not yet know that they are ace. And that it will reach them earlier in their lives.

There are numerous positive impacts for an asexual discovering they have a recognized identity and COMMUNITY. Notably, and while this is not a comprehensive list:

Validation. The realization and sense of security that comes from learning that they are not the only one. Not “broken.” Not a mistake, or someone who just needs to “get over it.”

Freeing aces from pressure to conform to allo standards to “fit in”, which can negatively impact their wellbeing, mental health, and self esteem.

Allowing aces to Discover their communities, Receive Support from one another, and Organize to advocate for themselves

The importance of that last one cannot be overstated. Humans are social creatures with an inherent need to connect with one another. By having the labels and language to describe ourselves, asexuals are able to find those whose experiences mirror their own. This allows asexuals to explore their own sexuality in a safe space with individuals who are able to understand their experiences. It allows them to give and receive validation and share positivity. And more broadly, it leads to the formation of communities.

A community is important for the social needs of individuals aces, but it is also key to advocacy. We cannot effectively advocate for ourselves if we cannot effectively organize.

That is the most serious need for community, and by extension visibility, always, regardless of where you fall under the lgbtq+ umbrella. Isolated, as scattered individuals in the minority? We have very little reach. Together we have power to look out for one another and effect positive change in how we are perceived and treated.

(This is the same reason that the LGBTQ identities are all better served banding together under the umbrella and advocating for and with each other, but that’s another can of worms I won’t get too deep into)

With all that said, other than aces being aware of themselves, it is still very important that non-aces are also aware and educated about what ace means. Education fosters understanding and wider acceptance. It means non-aces are more likely to find common ground with their ace peers, and visible aces are more likely to find acceptance and avoid aphobia with their non-ace peers.

With all this in mind, when you encounter attitudes like those that prompted this article that boil down to “why do aces need to be visible?/isnt announcing your asexuality just seeking attention?”, please actively help to dismantle those notions as they are harmful to the ace individuals and the community at large.

Likewise, please share this if you can and support aces being out and visible.

What To Do If A Tumblr User Appears to Be Considering Attempting Or Is Going To Attempt Suicide

The first thing you want to do is report the blog to Tumblr staff.

 You can alert the Tumblr staff by sending them a quick email explaining the situation. It is critical that in your email you include a link to the user’s blog, since this way they can easily identify the user in question and contact them. But you shouldn’t solely depend on the Tumblr staff unless you have to, since there is only so much the staff can do. 

Check to see if there is any way of contacting someone the user knows in real life.

 If there is anyone that this user interacts with in real life (a good friend, a relative they have a positive relationship with, a colleague they have from work, etc.) that knows them and you can get in touch with (whether through Tumblr messages, email, etc, it doesn’t matter) it is essential that you contact them. Tell them that you believe the user in question is likely to attempt or is attempting to commit suicide.

 If you aren’t sure how to find someone the user interacts with in real life, see *.

Continue to message the aforementioned person.

 Once you’ve managed contact with the person that the user interacts with in real life and warned them that the user in question is likely to attempt or is attempting to commit suicide, stay in contact with them. It is important to tell them that they should call a suicide prevention hotline number if the user is considering suicide (1-800-273-8255 is the national suicide prevention hotline number if they live in the U.S, if they don’t click here for a vital list of all suicide hotlines for different countries (if there is no suicide prevention hotline for the user’s country see **) and tell them instead that they should go straight to calling an emergency number if the user is in immediate danger (911 if they live in the United States, and click here for a list of the emergency numbers for other countries if they live outside the U.S). What a lot of people don’t realize about most suicide prevention hotlines is that it isn’t just for people who are considering suicide, it’s also for people who believe someone they know is considering attempting and/or is going to attempt to commit suicide. Once the person has made contact with the hotline, professionals will handle the situation from that point forward. DON’T CONTINUE TO MESSAGE THE PERSON ONCE THEY’VE MADE IT CLEAR THEY WILL CALL OR ARE CALLING THE NUMBER. Wait for them to get back to you. I understand how worrisome it can be to wait to receive information on whether or not someone you follow and care about is okay, but you have to let the person do what they can to save the suicidal user without interruption.

* How to find people that could help the user.

Make a post on your blog(s) about the user, explaining the situation in the post. It’s important to also explain that you’re looking for people who know this user in real life and you can get in contact with to figure out a way to help prevent them from committing suicide. Also include a link back to this current post you’re reading so that other people can be informed and help you take action. It is vital that you get your post to circulate so that more people will see it. The more people that see the post, the greater the chance there is that you will be able to locate someone who can do something in real life to save the user. You can help the post circulate by tagging popular blogs you know that would be willing to reblog your post and bring attention to their own followers. Eventually, you’ll hopefully find someone who knows the user in real life. If you don’t, double check to make sure that you informed Tumblr staff of the situation and send the user all the love that you can and pray that they turn out okay, they could really use it at the moment.

** What you should do if the only available numbers are for immediate danger, but the user in question is only considering committing suicide.

 In this situation it is important that you make sure you don’t lose contact with the person that knows the user. You need to help inform them so that they know how to correctly approach the user about suicide. Send them a link to this site (the site link is http://www.bethe1to.com/bethe1to-steps-evidence/ for a quick copy and paste) should this scenario occur. This site is extremely useful for informing a person on how to approach someone they believe is considering committing suicide. It would be helpful to consider giving the site a visit for yourself, as it could come in handy should you ever have to confront someone you think is suicidal.

______________________

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION:

In case you aren’t sure what happens when you call a suicide hotline, visit: https://www.healthyplace.com/suicide/suicide-hotline-what-happens-when-you-call. This way you can better understand what happens when the person you’re contacting makes the call for the user, or should you need to make a call yourself.

Furthermore, a question you might ask is “Why do I need to contact someone the user knows in real life instead of confronting them online myself if they’re only suicidal and in no immediate danger”? Well, websites and social media platforms will only ever be text on a screen, at some point you have to realize that. So confronting the user over the internet through said text isn’t going to be nearly as effective or sure of a method as someone they know personally sitting down with them and discussing it with them in real life. It is encouraged to send the user some love and support online if they are suicidal, but it’s more important to make sure someone they know assists them in getting the help they need.

V A C C I N A T E

I missed this article when it first came around but it’s a story of an asexual, discussing how a lesbian couple in her high school went around looking for more lesbians and how they found her and the interaction made her realize she was ace.  [Read Full Article Here]

doctor: you have a minute and 44 seconds to live me: