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Ace Visibility Matters

Being visible for ace week almost inevitably means at some point running headlong into some ugly acephobia.

Here is one that crops up a lot when people are first learning about asexuality that I’m going to tackle today.

“Why do I have to know you’re ace?/Who cares if you’re visible?/Aces are just seeking attention.”

First and foremost, ace visibility matters.

It matters that we have an identity, and that we can define ourselves and our experiences so that we can recognize and advocate for ourselves and each other. It matters that aces are visible, and that information ABOUT asexuality and asexual communities is visible, first and foremost, so that OTHER ASEXUALS can access it.

In spite of increasing traction and acceptance in online spaces like Tumblr, “Asexual” and the numerous micro labels that fall under its umbrella, are still not widely understood or even heard of by the population at large.

By being visible, the likelihood is increased that awareness of asexuality will reach other aces who do not yet know that they are ace. And that it will reach them earlier in their lives.

There are numerous positive impacts for an asexual discovering they have a recognized identity and COMMUNITY. Notably, and while this is not a comprehensive list:

Validation. The realization and sense of security that comes from learning that they are not the only one. Not “broken.” Not a mistake, or someone who just needs to “get over it.”

Freeing aces from pressure to conform to allo standards to “fit in”, which can negatively impact their wellbeing, mental health, and self esteem.

Allowing aces to Discover their communities, Receive Support from one another, and Organize to advocate for themselves

The importance of that last one cannot be overstated. Humans are social creatures with an inherent need to connect with one another. By having the labels and language to describe ourselves, asexuals are able to find those whose experiences mirror their own. This allows asexuals to explore their own sexuality in a safe space with individuals who are able to understand their experiences. It allows them to give and receive validation and share positivity. And more broadly, it leads to the formation of communities.

A community is important for the social needs of individuals aces, but it is also key to advocacy. We cannot effectively advocate for ourselves if we cannot effectively organize.

That is the most serious need for community, and by extension visibility, always, regardless of where you fall under the lgbtq+ umbrella. Isolated, as scattered individuals in the minority? We have very little reach. Together we have power to look out for one another and effect positive change in how we are perceived and treated.

(This is the same reason that the LGBTQ identities are all better served banding together under the umbrella and advocating for and with each other, but that’s another can of worms I won’t get too deep into)

With all that said, other than aces being aware of themselves, it is still very important that non-aces are also aware and educated about what ace means. Education fosters understanding and wider acceptance. It means non-aces are more likely to find common ground with their ace peers, and visible aces are more likely to find acceptance and avoid aphobia with their non-ace peers.

With all this in mind, when you encounter attitudes like those that prompted this article that boil down to “why do aces need to be visible?/isnt announcing your asexuality just seeking attention?”, please actively help to dismantle those notions as they are harmful to the ace individuals and the community at large.

Likewise, please share this if you can and support aces being out and visible.

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Today I had a shitty day!!! At least I feel like shit right now :'(

I know no one cares about my day, but I feel awful and really need to let it out.

So today I woke up like every morning, got dressed and had a cup of coffee. It was supposed that today I had to go to reinscript myself to my Japanese course, so we (my mom, sister and I) left early and when there. This schools opens 7 a.m., but starts attending students until 9, and we arrived at 9:45. At first the woman who attended us, told us tjat we needed to wait there until the Teacher (still I don't know what teacher she was talking about) authorized my reinscription. We waited 1 hour, then my mom and sister left, mom got a called from her job so I told her I'll wait until they authorize it. I WAITED THERE UNTIL 1 p.m.!!! In those 3 hours I kept asking "Not yet?" And she started answered:

Sorry not yet, it won't take much longer. He is reading the message.

No, but it's configuring.

No, but you have until 4 p.m., no wait... it's 1:30, to check in.

No. Maybe you could come back tomorrow.

You should come back tomorrow, your goup it's still open.

What the hell ma'm?!?!

I mean how you can go from "wait a little longer" to "Come back tomorrow"??? GOD! I didn't went to the bathroom in all that time and, not only I was peeing, but also, I was starving because I didn't had breakfast.

Fine. Tomorrow I'll try again.

Then I arrived home (before this we went tto buy pizza and I went to the bathroom)and the workers where there, you see my house is pretty old and my ceiling gas some leaks so theres people fixing them, so there was some annoying noises I wasn't in the mood to tolerate, we aet and mom went back to work.

She came back until 4:30, I guess. But I was so annoyed by the noise that I decided to take a nap until 6, at time we would leasve to my Japanese classes, even though I am still not signed in, because logic. I arrived to my class and there was as blackout in the entire school. Bad thing number one. Then I realised I forgot my dinner lunch in the car. NUMBER TWO. Then the teacher put us an exam, wich I couldn't answer correctly, My mind got blank, I started to remembered some things but I couldn't completely remember kanjis. After we finished the test, we immediately started checking. In the end I didn't made a bad job. This 2 things weren't that bad, what really bad happened was that:

First of all my mom went to aa meeting and if she was going to pick me up it will be in the moment she told: Hey, I'm here. So I was worried, she gets angry if I'm not in time. And second, because my mind was worrying I got completely distracted and forgot my pencil case in the classroom. This wouldn't be that bad if it wasn't a public school were students take and never return whatever t they find. AND I WOULDN'T BE SO MAD AND SAD IF MY DRAWING PENCILS AND MATERIAL WEREN'T IN THAT PENCIL CASE. I'm just about to enter to arts university and My family doesn't have that much money to buy me new ones and I feel like trash because I forgot them... How could I? I'm Stupid, untidy and distracted. So silly of me, and I'm not writing this for you to feel sorry about me. It's because I need to let it out of my system, because tomorrow it's going to be a new day, right? Ineed to get up early and take out my dog for a walk and then go back to the school to sign me up and look for my pencil case. Hope to find it. I hope for the best.

By the way the only way I managed to finish my day was my sister and cat. My sister listened to me and gave me a big hug and my cat heard me crying in the bathroom and came to me, got over my knees sat in my lap and started purring. I couldn't believe it!!!

He is the best.

Even though sometimes he is just in cat mood and bite and scratch you.

Thank you for whoever read this to the end. I know there are worst things above what happened to me. But... Maybe someone who lived a similar situation feels bad about it and doesn't have someone to talk to, like me. So I really appreciate you for reading all this. Amd if you ever feel like bad and want to talk about it, I'm here to listen. Message me if you want I'm all ears.

Have a great night/day.😘😗😙😚

Love, Ihanna.

These are some very nice mystery animes that I thought you people might like.

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This is never not funny.

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Hey ya’ll!! It’s been a LONG time since I did an art giveaway for a follower milestone so I figured now would be a good time as any to do one again ^p^

Rules

*You must be following me (this blog, shima-draws) to qualify.

*Please don’t follow me just for the giveaway and then unfollow right after! I’ll be checking to see if you follow or not so don’t try to pull a fast one on me.

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*Have your DMs open! If you don’t respond within 24 hours, I’ll choose somebody else as a winner.

*If you win I have the right to refuse your request if it’s something I’m not comfortable with drawing. Just a heads up, I won’t do anything NSFW or with offensive material (this also includes any ships I might be uncomfortable with).

*If you win and you want me to draw an OC or a character I have not heard of, you must be able to give me a reference. I’m not going to draw someone based off description alone :’)

*NO GIVEAWAY BLOGS ALLOWED. That should be fairly obvious lol

*I’ll be choosing the winners from a random number generator, so don’t start complaining if you don’t win. I’m not choosing the person who reblogs the most or my friends/mutuals, it’s all random so everyone gets a chance!

The prizes are listed up above, but in case it isn’t clear you can come talk to me and I’ll clarify it for you!

The deadline is June 10th, 2020! You have one month to enter!

Good luck to you all and thanks SO much for 22k, this is wild! I never thought I’d hit this milestone and I’m so grateful 💖