Sometime You Have To Build A Fence To Keep Yourself In, Not To Keep Others Out. I’m Sorry.

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all fanfiction is nsfw. bc when i read it on the clock i get in trouble

✨The Marauders Yap✨

it's here !! i did it !! y'all asked for a pod wayyyy back in july and i deliberated (stressed) for so long about it but ! it's here <3

this is a very unprofessional podcast where i (and anyone that i drag on along the way) sit and yap about harry potter ! the characters, the ships, fandom etiquette and discourses, engaging in a fandom space, creating for one, jkr etc etc -> it'll all go down here ! we're gonna yap !

Ep 1: The Importance of Fandom -> link here

this is the introductory episode so you know 🙂↕️ give him some grace 🙂↕️

i talk about how i got into the marauders fandom and what it looks like for me, and then about the importance of preserving these spaces given current events!

i yap about representation, community, and creativity and how these things are so so soooo important right now, and how we need to do our Best to keep them here <3

this is a Solo episode, just me and my dodgy mic!

the next ep will be my jkr,,, thesis? dissertation. diss track. application for a defamation claim. whichever is your preferred term for it is, it's my jkr monologue!

but for now, i hope you enjoy listening to a 20 year old wizard fan with the technological skills of a caveman that's been confronted with chatgpt yap away about fandom spaces for 50 minutes !

and thank you @itsradla for the logo and banner <3 again, tech is my worst enemy <3

(guys fr like the sound is not great sorry ! it goes very back and forth because i figured out what was going wrong AS i was editing, so i fixed the worst bits?? but i didn't want to refilm all of it because i liked that it was unrehearsed and sparsely planned ! but i promise from here on out, my mic works and i will not sound like a lawnmower <3)

💙 Tim Gunn And plus size clothing needs intentional design not every shape is the same

Tim Gunn on Plus Size Clothing

“Have you seen most of the plus-size sections out there? It’s horrifying. Whoever’s designing for plus-size doesn’t get it. The entire garment needs to be reconceived. You can’t just take a size 8 and make it larger. In my travels, I’ve been an advocate for larger women. I’ve been talking to designers, but only a half-dozen make an effort. Most say, ‘I don’t want a woman who’s a size 10 or 11 wearing my clothes.’ Well, shame on you! It’s not realistic

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

So I have read several people complaining that they can't be expected to know the "unwritten rules" of fandom. So here's what I wish people knew:

Fanfiction is fiction.

Fictional people are not real.

Fictional people do not have rights.

Fictional people cannot be abused.

Reading or writing about something does not mean the desire to do or support it in the real world.

If I find art upsetting/triggering/disgusting/outraging/unpleasant/squicky/distressing/offensive, it is on me not to read it, not the creators and hosts to remove it.

Curate your own experience. The back buttons exist for a reason.

If you don't trust yourself to do that, get someone you trust to do it for you.

Fandom is an adult space. Adults create and own and host fandom spaces. If minors want to participate, then the onus is on them and their parents/guardians/trusted adults to ensure they participate appropriately, not on strange adults to stop being adults.

You often don't know the assault status or mental health status or neurotype or race or nationality or religion or gender or sexuality or age of a creator or consumer, and they do not have to disclose to you to justify their fantasy.

AO3 is not a safe space. It is not intended to be a safe space. Proceed accordingly.

Just because you don't like something or find it offensive doesn't mean it is a "problem" that "has to be dealt with".

Most characters in anime are not white.

There is no onus on you to reblog or share anything.

Everyone makes mistakes in fandom and is less than their best self sometimes.

Persistent pseudonyms encourage long term relationships.

Ship wars are stupid.

Someone else enjoying things does not impact on your own enjoyment of other things.

Tagging and warning is a courtesy, not a requirement. Assume any fic might contain untagged content.

Rating is an imprecise art, not a science.

Don't hassle IP creators.

Most people who are in fandom are hoping to make connections based on a shared passion.

Trying to profit from transformative fanworks puts us all at risk.

No one is obligated to share your head canon or fanon.

Being kind rarely fails to pay off.

It is okay to block and remove people who make your experience unpleasant. You don't have to placate them. (Learn from my mistakes).

Britpicking is a good thing.

You don't have to justify why you like a canon/pairing/trope/kink. Sometimes navel gazing is fun, but you don't have an obligation to explain yourself, especially to strangers. I share the overwhelming desire to refute an unfair accusation, but the people accusing you are rarely doing so in good faith, so you're batting a losing wicket.

I'm not your Mum. (Well, okay, a very few of you can call me Mum or Mom, but if you are one of them you already know who you are ❤️)

If you aren't mature enough to take responsibility for your online experiences, you aren't mature enough to be in fandom spaces.

not to hate on another person’s work but the harry potter series is easily the worst marauders fanfic i’ve ever read it wasn’t gay enough and i hated all of the deaths