ПЕРЕВОД:
Анонимно спросил(а):
— эй, Рем, я прочитал твой пост о штатах, и у меня все встало на свои места! я проявляю свой sp, и уже несколько месяцев задействован 3p. это заставило меня осознать, что я была в состоянии страха, что мой ип был с кем-то другим, и это проявилось. но это всего лишь мое старое состояние. я говорю себе каждый раз, когда у меня возникают сомнения или я думаю о них вместе, и говорю: "Я принимаю желаемое за действительное", а затем визуализирую нас вместе или произношу несколько аффирмаций, и я просто чувствую себя так спокойно, как будто это свершилось! я знаю, что если я буду продолжать в том же духе, это проявится очень быстро. Я на правильном пути, верно? Если я правильно понимаю
Ответил(а):
— да, то, что вы делаете, абсолютно идеально!просто продолжайте упорствовать, и ваш sp станет вашим в кратчайшие сроки!! 🤍
#пример #состояния
hey rem, i read your post about states & it made things click for me! i'm manifesting my sp & there's a 3p involved for a few months now. it made me realize that i was in the state of being scared that my sp was with someone else & it manifested. but thats just my old state. i've been telling myself every time i get a doubt or think of them together & say "I am in the wishfulfilled" & then visualize us together or say a few affirmations & I just feel so calm like it's done! i know that if I keep tract like that it will manifest soo fast. I'm on the right track right? If I'm understanding correctly
yes what you’re doing is absolutely perfect! just keep persisting and your sp will be yours in no time!! 🤍
𖦹 the law of assumption is a universal law that always is working, the law states that your assumptions create your reality. what you assume to be true is true.
this means that all you need to manifest anything is yourself. and let me be clear here, manifestation ≠ magic. you have been manifesting your whole life. this is not a new skill you have to learn, this is simply something that already exists and you are always using it, with manifestation we learn how to use it consciously.
there are many methods that help people manifest such as affirmations, visualisation, void… the purpose is to create an assumption, that what you desire is true.
what is an assumption? an assumption = a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. so based on that definition keep in mind we believe it without proof. while yes, when we assume something it becomes true, we don’t always assume based on logical (or any) evidence. either way evidence and so called circumstances (past assumptions that have already reflected) don’t matter, because we are constantly creating our reality, it’s all you. you are the creator of your reality. your assumptions right here right now are creating your reality right here right now.
that’s why we all preach to not check the 3d, because it doesn’t matter, your assumptions are not meant to be validated by your reality. you validate your reality. if the 3d/your reality looks to you for validation and what it’s supposed to reflect, how can you look at it for validation? it simply validates the fact that you do not have it, if you have to desperately look for it.
we create assumptions all the time, so create this one like you would any, even if you start out with doubts, just persist in it. it’s true no matter what you see or hear in the 3d.
you are the creator, you got this !
ПЕРЕВОД:
Анонимно спросил(а):
— Привет :) я здесь просто для того, чтобы подтвердить, что я делаю это правильно, поскольку способ, которым вы ввели состояния, кажется таким простым, но это также очень ново для меня
Поэтому, по сути, когда я хочу проявить свое желаемое лицо, я говорю себе: “Это сделано” или “сейчас я нахожусь в состоянии исполнения желания”, даже если я ничего не чувствую. И я делаю это всякий раз, когда думаю о своей внешности или у меня возникают негативные мысли, сомнения, которые указывают на то, что я не нахожусь в желаемом состоянии. И я просто намереваюсь войти в программное обеспечение и сказать себе эту простую фразу и упорствовать, пока она не появится, и этого достаточно, верно?♥️
Ответил(а):
— да, это звучит идеально!! <3
#пример #база #состояния
Hi:) im just Here to confirm im doing it right since the way you introduced states seems so easy but it’s also very new to me
So basically when I wanna manifest my desired face I tell myself “it’s done” or “I am now in the state of the wish fulfilled” even if I don’t feel feel anything. And I do this whenever I think of my appearance or get negative thoughts, doubts that indicate I’m not in my desired state. And I just intend to enter the SOFTW and tell myself this simple phrase and persist until it shows up, and that’s enough, right?♥️
yes that sounds perfect!! <3
ПЕРЕВОД:
Желаемое лицо. Я хотела выглядеть как смесь Дуа Липа и Беллы Хадид. Это было мое первое "серьезное" проявление, и мне потребовалось около двух месяцев. Сначала я утверждал и настаивал, но я делал это из состояния недостатка. Как только я переключился на воплощение состояния, в котором у меня было желаемое лицо, оно проявилось чуть более чем за неделю. Перед тем, как заснуть ночью, я представлял, как просыпаюсь и смотрю в зеркало, чтобы увидеть желаемое лицо. Я делал это несколько раз, чтобы почувствовать, что желание исполнилось, а затем я позволял себе мечтать о других вещах, пока не засыпал.
Желанное тело. После того, как я проявил свое желаемое лицо, я хотел, чтобы мое желаемое тело соответствовало ему. Я хотел быть ростом 5 футов 11 дюймов, с длинными ногами, весом около 10 фунтов. легче, и грудь меньше. Я в основном хотел тело супермодели. Я воплощал состояние обладания желаемым телом в течение нескольких дней, а затем однажды проснулся примерно на пять дюймов выше. Я продолжал биться головой о разные вещи! Лол
Моя желанная квартира. Я действительно хотел съехать из родительского дома. Это было немного сложнее для меня, потому что я регулярно сталкивался с напоминаниями о том, что я не живу сам по себе. Поначалу мне было трудно полностью игнорировать свое 3D. Я смог игнорировать некоторые части моего 3D, но другие части были сложнее. Поразмышляв над этим однажды ночью, я понял, что я "делал неправильно", так это то, что я не полностью жил в своем 4D, поскольку я позволял себе отвлекаться на негативные аспекты жизни со своей семьей. Наконец, я вспомнил историю Невилла о том, как он проявил себя, когда его с честью уволили из армии. Он сказал, что в ту ночь он заснул, представляя, что он был в своей постели дома. Я делал это в течение трех ночей: я представлял, когда засыпал ночью, что я в своей новой кровати в своей новой квартире. Я чувствовал холодный воздух (мои родители поддерживали высокую температуру), я слышал городской шум за моим окном. На четвертое утро я проснулся в своей желанной квартире.
Мой ИП. Моим ИП был парень, который был на одном из моих занятий в университете. Мы никогда раньше не разговаривали, но мы сидели в нескольких местах друг от друга в классе. Я воплощал состояние бытия в отношениях с ним. Я перестал воплощать состояние одиночества, состояние влюбленности и состояние одиночества. Каждую ночь я представляла, как он засыпает в постели рядом со мной. Мне потребовалось три дня воплощения моего нового состояния, чтобы он попросил мой номер. Мы пошли на свидание, и все прошло гладко. Мы официально вместе уже четыре месяца. Мы только что провели прекрасный День Святого Валентина вместе!
Это мои "самые большие" проявления. Я получил их все, применив состояния. Мой самый большой совет - не обращайте внимания на свое 3D, потому что, пока вы сосредоточены на том, чтобы ваше желание уже было в вашем 4D, у него нет другого выбора, кроме как проявиться. Все рождается из воображения!
Desired face. I wanted to look like a mixture of Dua Lipa and Bella Hadid. This was my first "major" manifestation, and it took me about two months. At first, I affirmed and persisted, but I was doing so from a state of lack. Once I switched to embodying the state where I had my desired face, it manifested in a little over a week. Before I fell asleep at night, I would imagine myself waking up and looking in the mirror to see my desired face. I would do this a few times in order to feel the wish fulfilled, and then I would allow myself to daydream about other things until I fell asleep.
Desired body. After I manifested my desired face, I wanted my desired body to go along with it. I wanted to be 5'11 with long legs, about 10 lbs. lighter, and smaller breasts. I basically wanted a supermodel's body. I embodied the state of having my desired body for a few days, and then woke up one day about five inches taller. I kept banging my head on things! Lol
My desired apartment. I really wanted to move out of my parent's house. This one was a bit harder for me, because I was faced with reminders regularly that I didn't live on my own. It was hard for me to ignore my 3D fully at first. I was able to ignore some parts of my 3D, but other parts were harder. After meditating on it one night, I realized what I was "doing wrong" was that I wasn't fully living in my 4D, as I was allowing myself to be distracted by negative aspects of living with my family. Finally, I remembered Neville's story of when he manifested getting honorably discharged from the military. He said that night, he fell asleep imagining that he was in his bed back home. I did this for three nights: I imagined, when I was falling asleep at night, that I was in my new bed in my new apartment. I felt the cold air (my parents kept the heat high), I heard the city noises outside of my window. On the fourth morning, I woke up in my desired apartment.
My SP. My SP was a guy who was in one of my classes at university. We had never talked before, but we sat a few seats from one another in class. I embodied the state of being in a relationship with him. I stopped embodying the state of being single, the state of having a crush, and the state of being lonely. Every night, I imagined him falling asleep in bed next to me. It took me three days of embodying my new state for him to ask for my number. We went on a date and it went swimmingly. We have now been officially together for four months. We just spent a lovely Valentine's Day together!
These are my "biggest" manifestations. I got them all by applying states. My biggest tip is for to ignore your 3D, because as long as you are focused on having your desire already in your 4D, it has no choice but to manifest. Everything comes from imagination!
The Mirror Has No Choice
Reality doesn’t argue. It doesn’t bargain. It doesn’t hold up a clipboard and say, “Convince me.”
Reality reflects. That’s all it has ever done. That’s all it will ever do. And the second you assume something to be true—fully, completely, without hesitation—it is. Because that’s how this works.
Not later. Not after you’ve done ten methods and lit a candle in the name of the universe. Not after you “get better” at it. Now.
Because assumption is not a request. It’s a command. And the moment you give up the idea that reality needs convincing, you drop into the truth:
You were always in control.
if you have read and consumed some of neville goddard's works, you will already be familiar with the word "feeling". when speaking of "feeling it real" or "feeling your desires to be yours", it is not an emotion that we are referring to. "feeling", here, means to know something for a fact.
when you "feel" something to be real, you don’t try to "get" it, you don’t think that there is still "work" that needs to be done, you don’t "try" or "attempt" to manifest something, you don’t "pray“, "hope", "worry" or "wonder" if it’s going to occur in your reality, you don’t feel "unsure", "trapped", or "confused". the reason why you won’t feel any of these things is because you have managed to feel your desire to be yours. you cannot be convinced of the opposite. you have created an unshakable experience within that cannot be taken from you — a new belief of yours has been established!
to "feel" usually implies your perception with the senses. you will use all of your senses — but within your mind — and recreate the same experience you would have if you were to experience it physically. to make your desire as vivid, as touchable, as perceivable as possible will help you make it feel real. the moment you free yourself and allow yourself to feel the way you would want to feel, you will lose yourself in it. eventually, you will start to feel relieved, empowered and secure. why? because you have accepted this imaginal act to be reality. your reality.
you may question the power and effect of this way of "feeling" but it will and has to change you. the moment you bask in the feeling, the acceptance and the liberation that come along, you will begin to shift. your mind will begin to change and therefore your very environment. at the end of the day, your feeling portrays a shift of a state. every state is a feeling that you can move in and out of. it’s a coat you can choose to wear or take off.
in order to feel it real, to feel the wish fulfilled, you will have to let go of something: the world around you. you will have to let go of reminding yourself of the looks of your current reality and leave it as it is. don’t even try to fix it, but let go of your worries, your obstacles in life, the limitations and restrictions in it, and allow yourself to perceive, experience and accept whatever it is that you want to have to be yours. only through the art of removing yourself from the outside and feeling like a part of it, you will begin to understand that the outside is actually just a part of you, a part that you've got in your hands.
now, the difficulty in this is disregarding your logical mind, your rational and realistic (whatever the hell that means) way of thinking. you will have to accept your imaginative acts, your inner conversations to be reality — not for your outer world to determine your inner world. the more you do this, it does not only get easier, you will also ease your anxiety and let go of your fear... but you must be willing to grant yourself greater feelings.
dare to imagine and feel the things you would want to feel. expand your former limits or give them up entirely. get rid of rules and forget about how the outer-world has once appeared. and most importantly, don’t be afraid to do so. don’t be afraid to use your mind’s power. if you find it hard to do so, then you are still attached to your senses who can only give you a limited outlook on a limited reality.
start simple. think of a scenario you would like to experience. visualise or just think of it. and now, ask yourself "how would i feel if i was to experience this?". you may feel resistant at first, maybe even ridiculous or delusional, but just permit yourself to feel it for some time. go back to that scenario and go deeper. "how do i look like? who am i with? what is it that i own? what am i doing? what's happening to me?". and then, the most important question: "what if this was my reality now?". i want you to rephrase this question and form a sentence. your "what if" becomes a "this is", the same way your "this would feel" becomes a "this feels". i want you to declare that this — the scenario you have felt — is factual. it’s true. it’s a reflection of your reality, RIGHT NOW. after all, this is what distinguishes creation from daydreaming.
with love and lots of feeling, ella.
Итоги 2022:
1. Помирилась с бывшей подругой
2. В первые в жизни гуляла с рандомными людьми
3. Закончила работать в сфере фриланса
4. Узнала про карты таро и начала делать расклады на них
5. Вступила в саб-соо и стала ⭐️ осознанной ⭐️
6. Полностью поменяла мировоззрение
The Law of Assumption is the only immutable “law” that governs every aspect of our existence, whether we are awake or immersed in dreams. It is the fundamental principle that shapes our reality: what we believe to be true, what we assume with certainty, inevitably reflects in the external world.
In essence, what you believe and feel to be true manifests in your experience. It doesn’t matter whether you are awake or dreaming: every conviction, every thought you assume as reality, becomes your lived experience. The "how" or "when" it happens is irrelevant — reality always finds a way to align with your assumptions. Your only responsibility is to maintain your inner certainty, as the Law of Assumption is always at work, every moment.
Even when things seem to go awry, reality is still reflecting your past assumptions, even the unconscious ones. Nothing happens by chance: every event, every encounter, every circumstance is a mirror of your deepest beliefs.
In dreams, the Law of Assumption becomes even more apparent. In that state, what you assume happens instantly. If you believe you can fly, you soar. If you fear there’s a monster around the corner, there it appears. This immediacy reveals the power of the Law: in waking life, manifestations may seem delayed, but the principle remains unchanged.
In the physical world, the appearance of resistance might occur: reality seems more solid and stable, and your past beliefs may still influence what you perceive. However, even in this context, the Law of Assumption works in the same way. If you assume a new truth, the world around you will shift to reflect it.
Why is the Law of Assumption the only immutable law? Because you are the source of your reality. As the creator and co-creator, you determine what exists in your world. The Law of Assumption is the manifestation of this truth: everything, every experience, responds to your state of being. It is the “divine law” governing the dream you have created.
In short, the Law of Assumption is the only rule of the game, whether you are awake, dreaming, or in the void. Once you understand and apply this truth, the world becomes an infinite playground, ready to adapt to every new assumption you make.♕
I don't know who needs to hear this but when we say "act as if" we do not mean in the 3d of course of that's something you enjoy doing by all means do it. But to act as if is to do exactly what you would do if your desire was already fulfilled within IMAGINATION ONLY!! Since the 3d is only a mirror, everything that you'd want to do if your desire was fulfilled you do it all in imagination and you identify as the person who is experiencing all of that within imagination aka imagine it as true.
Also..when we say imagine we do NOT mean visualize. Imagining is LITERALLY by definition to imply an idea in one's mind with or without consideration or reflection aka to form a mental concept, image or idea aka TO SUPPOSE OR ASSUME!! you can easily do this without the need to visualize anything. You're imagining all the time. All YOU have to do is identify with whatever it is you desire to imagine aka "change your clothes" which is code for changing your state of consciousness.
But how do you change your clothes aka a state? Well first you "choose your outfit". What is it that you want to wear, in other words what do you want to identify as. For the sake of examples let's say your manifesting your dream life. Ok so now that I know what clothes (state) I want to wear (identify as), now it's time for me to put my clothes on. How to do that? Well I imagine what would it be like if it were true? What would I do? What would I say? How would I feel? This is where techniques come in to make it fun. You can say affirmations, visualize, script, inner convo, etc. And the moment you are done with doing this and you feel satisfied that is when you know it is done. But wait! What about the 3d? "I don't see anything". Yea that may be true you can't see anything but you know what else you can't see?? Dust..yet you know it's there. You can't see atoms yet you know it's there. You can see other people in front of you right now but you know there are people in the world. You can't see a cake in front of you yet you can imagine a cake and taste all it's flavors and smell its sweetness and everything. You see, you don't have to see anything outside of you to knowyhat you already have your desires. So..just like when we say "know that you already have your desires" and "it is already done" we are not talking about in the 3d that would be delusional. We mean know you have you desires in imagination because and don't worry about the 3d it is only neutral and it can't do anything unless YOU assume it does. Even then, you're still proving that YOU are not only a creator but that imagination is the real reality and the 3d is a mirror because who's to say your desire couldn't reflect the 4d within that same second and yet you flipped it and said "it's not working" and assumed the 3d wasn't reflecting your desire. Why are you worried about what a mirror is showing you if you can already see that you have what you want in imagination?
This is where persisting comes in. You don't persist to get something. You persist because you know you have what you want regardless of what is being shown outside of you. You continously choose to identify as something even when there is no evidence of it.
hi besties! if you've been following my blog for a while you know that i've been single for a while, partly because i like to be independent and single, and partly because i just didn't like anyone. obviously i could just manifest a guy out of thin air, but when im not confronted face to face with a crush then i just don't care about being in a relationship so i never manifested someone out of thin air lol
but then a couple of weeks ago i was at the movies with my friends, and there were couples cuddling around us and i was like "aw :( kinda wish i had a bf now." and what do we do when we feel any type of desire? we immediately fulfill ourselves, no matter how "small" the desire is! so that's what i did. i imagined for like two seconds that i was cuddling with a boy at the theaters, and then i got distracted by the movie and forgot all about it
then like 15 minutes later, a guy that i'd had a crush on four years ago randomly slid into my dms. i never pursued him four years ago bc my bff at the time had dibs on him, but we're not friends anym and haven't been for years so it was my time to shine!!!
anyway, we talk for like a week. i know this guy is funny and shit bc of when we hung out irl, but like all he's sending me are unfunny memes that don't really warrant a response. so it was kinda tough
and this is the part where you guys are going to yell at me!!! i was like oh i should use my manifestation skills and make sure this goes smoothly....but then i was like nah im just gonna go with the flow 😭😭😭 and i know you guys are like REM!!!! u manifest EVERYTHING u can't just turn it off!!!! anyway.....long story short a week into us talking this mf randomly blocks me!!!!
so im instantly like 🙄🙄 damn fine i'll manifest him back bc im stubborn and do not like being told no in my reality
so how did i do it? how did i manifest him back?
if you guys have followed me for a while, you know that i manifested an sp a couple years ago by simply affirming "i love [his name] so much" any time i'd think of him and this would conjure the feeling of the wish fulfilled. (NOT mindless affirming. i'd say it maybe two or three times to catch the feeling and then move on)
ANYWAY so that's what i did! and let me tell you....i was not "perfect" by any means 😭 in fact this manifestation really kinda opened my eyes on how EASY manifestation truly is. like i already knew how easy it was, but damn!
if you know that your desire is promised and that it is coming because you gave it to yourself in imagination (even ONCE) ... there is NOTHING that will stop it. i was gonna make a separate post on this and i tried but i just couldn't articulate it correctly so im going to try again:
it took 12 days to manifest him to unblock me and message me. im sure it would've taken a shorter amount of time if i was more disciplined with myself but it's kinda crazy bc of how UNdisciplined i was 😭 tbh i was just kinda like...unsure if i even wanted to manifest him at all bc thats how much i value my alone time and my independence lol
anyway, i always get asks from people who are stressed and anxious bc they think that in order to manifest your desire, you can never enter the state of lack ever again and that dwelling in negative thoughts will "ruin" your manifestations. but i am here to tell you IT DOES NOT MATTER!!! you do not need to be "perfect"!!!! as long as you are staying faithful to the idea that you have your desire in the 4d, it'll manifest in the 3d.
another thing i see so many people confused and stressed about is whether or not they're naturally thinking from the state. for instance, every time you think of your sp, you think from the end of being in a relationship with them, before you think of the fact that you're not together yet. and let me tell you....while this CAN happen, it's not always gonna happen and it's not necessary. let me tell you, the DAY before my sp reached out, and even the day that he did....i would catch myself thinking about how we weren't together! but the gag is....YOUR THOUGHTS DON'T MANIFEST!!!! yes, they indicate what state you're in, but the actual thoughts themselves don't mean shit!!! they don't manifest. they just don't!
so i'd shift back to the state of being my sp's girlfriend when i'd have these thoughts, but i was fully aware we were not together in my 3d and i never naturally thought of us as being together before i saw any evidence of it in my 3d. all i had was the knowing that my inner man was with my sp, and that since i'd decided i had it in imagination, it would push out into my 3d. because that's how the law works!!! and honestly, that's all you really need. you just need to know that since you gave yourself your desire in your imagination ONE TIME, it WILL manifest. and if you have a true understanding of how the law works and you've read source, you will have no trouble knowing that it will come.
you also do NOT need to be in the state of the wish fulfilled 24/7!!! at all!!!! i cannot stress this enough. and tbh i used to feel the same. i felt like i had to be aware of having my desire in imagination 24/7 or else it wouldn't come. i thought i couldn't perceive the lack or opposite in my 3d or else it wouldn't manifest (see this post about dismissing the 3d btw if u need help with that). but the gods honest truth is that all you need to do is DECIDE you have your desire in imagination & not take no for an answer & KNOW that your desire is GOING TO REFLECT IN YOUR 3D NO MATTER WHAT!!!!
and that's not to say that you wont still get anxious and have intrusive thoughts and be like "oh god what if it never manifests." like... im human and i had those human moments. but i just reminded myself that i know the law and ive proven it to myself many times and i know that it had to manifest.
anyway. back to my sp story!
so for these 12 days that im blocked (lmfao) all i did was affirm "i love [his name] so much" whenever i thought of him until i caught the feeling of the wish fulfilled. that's it. and i knew for a fact that he was mine in the 4d and therefore we'd be together in the 3d bc that's the law!
anyway on friday (5 days ago) at 8pm? im scrolling thru the ulta app and then im like "oh i havent fulfilled myself today i dont think" so i fulfilled myself for like 2 seconds and then get distracted by some product and then two minutes later i get a notif that this guy followed me and then dmed me 😭
it's funny cuz my irls don't know about the law of assumption so i sent them a screenshot and i was like "look who came crawling back" and they were like BOOOOO!!! and i was like no guys!!!!! i created the blocking and i created this like i promise we can trust him 😭😭 hahahaha
anyway. let me tell you. if you are manifesting an sp, DO NOT DO THAT SHIT IN STEPS!!!!! i mean, if you really want to, i can't stop you, but i really don't recommend it.
with my old sp (the one from two years ago) i'd always manifest contact and then get it, and then he'd ghost me and and id have to manifest contact again and it'd be a never ending cycle!!! bc i was just focusing on contact, not on how i felt or how he felt about me.
the reason i loveeee to affirm "i love my sp so much" INSTEAD OF "HE loves ME so much" is because it helps me catch the feeling of the wish fulfilled so much more. not only that, but because remember, THERE IS NO ONE TO CHANGE BUT SELF!!!! changing the way i see my sp and the way i feel about him is all i need to do. im not trying to change him and make him love me lol. this is about me and my inner reality, not him! he'll reflect whatever i am in the 4d
another reason i love affirming this is because TO ME, this is what implies we are already together. whenever im in a relationship, i always find myself laying around all giddy thinking about how obsessed with my bf i am and how i love him so much. so i emulate that when im manifesting an sp.
and it's PERFECT because by jumping straight to the end where we're already together, i don't have to focus on all the things that lead to us being in a relationship. i don't have to manifest him following me, or texting me, or asking me on a date. these things all just happen naturally bc im living in the end.
NOT TO MENTION, it naturally turns your sp into your perfect partner? like remember when i said when we were talking before he blocked me he was kinda dry and he'd just send memes that i didn't find funny? THIS DUDE DID A COMPLETE 180!!!
he's sooo funny, he is the OPPOSITE of dry, he is everything???? and im obsessed.
anyway he unblocked me and dmed me, and then asked for my number and we had such funny and cute convos and then boom 4 days later he asks me on a date and i say no (😭😭😭😭 i was busy) but i agreed to go on a date the next day and the way this boy showed pure unencumbered excitement 🥺 im obsessed
anyway im sorry this is so long? i really just wanted to share how all i did was apply what i've been preaching about on this blog for years and it worked out flawlessly! hopefully this gives you guys some good tips and maybe motivation? <3
Heyyy so when ppl say no one to change but self how can this apply to sps ?
you have to change your PERCEPTION of them, and then they will change in your 3d. if you start viewing them in your 4d as loving, sweet, your partner, loyal, etc, they will change in your 3d. you change how they are in your 4d first, and then your 3d will follow!