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Reblog if you have used dude as a non gender specific term.

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

Castle Howard

by marinaweishaupt

No shade to op, in fact I understand and respect where you're coming from. I personally would just be careful with the phrasing here, because it sounds like what you're saying is that some systems are faking which, even if they were, saying so causes a lot more harm than good

Instead, how I personally would go about this particular topic is that if you are a system, then there's probably something you don't remember, or something that you haven't recognized as trauma, or you have a lot of processing ahead of you, so maybe be gentle with yourself, and be open to the possibility that maybe things actually were that bad, and you weren't being dramatic, and you were hurt that badly

But that's just my thoughts. I wish everyone the best of luck on their journeys through this tangled world

PSA

This is your reminder that OSDDID and systems cannot form without trauma, endogenic systems are not a real thing. If you do not have trauma, then you do not have a system.

-Barty&Marlene

You know what, fuck it, this isn't hiding in the tags. Genuinely, my life has gotten significantly better since I started practicing the skill of enjoying the current moment. Sure things suck sometimes, and this moment isn't going to last forever, but isn't that all the more reason to slow down and appreciate it while it's here? Its so easy to forget, trust me, I'm still struggling with it too, but I swear on the smell of petricore that it is possible to learn, and you will find so much more beauty in the world than you thought possible, even if it's just for a few seconds at a time

Oh ok so it turns out ive been borrowing grief from the future ! it turns out ive been preparing to lose the things i love rather than basking in the light of them while they last. Maybe i should nt do that